Step Mom Telling Son Unappropriate Things

[OHRoadwarrior]

Having raised my stepdaughter starting at 4, I find nothing wrong with anything you mention. Whether you are aware or not, some children can conceive at age 8. Our children, as well as the children of my live in girlfriend, who were slightly older to age 16, were all aware their mother shared a bed with my spouse and I. I also know many children who were raised in households where BDSM was a fulltime lifestyle and other households with children, where slaves lived 24/7. There is no difference in reality based households such as these, as there are with households with 2 mommies or 2 daddies. My children, in their teens, have been babysat by a girlfriend, when visiting me while I worked out of state. My stepdaughter is one of the most well adjusted adults I know in her age group. She is also a virgin, has never used drugs and does not like the taste of alcohol.

 

[Proserpina]

Apparently so. Do you really think the stork story flies? Why wouldn't you tell your child the truth?

Please don't try to shame the dam.

I'm sure the dam is guilty of something.

Maybe telling some poor beaver's offspring the truth about how little beavers are made.

/halo emoticon here.

 

[au83]

No. I mean no one shared their experiences. No one said, from my experience, this, or that, with blended family/co parenting/ anything. It's all just retorts and cut downs. The only helpful advice I saw was the link on the Amazon book. Which was nice except the rude dimeanor inwhich its presented. I was hoping someone on here could tell me what they've been through and what they did or that they brought it up and discussed it, or anything other than my 3rd grader should know about sex and babies. I guess, yeah, no one told me what I wanted to hear.

 

[I'mTheFather]

I just wanted to see what other parents had experienced, which no one has had a single bit to offer, and how they'd handled it..

Sorry, I don't think any of us realized you couldn't infer that information from our replies.

I think I can probably speak for everyone when I say that we've had that talk with our kids before anyone else had to.

Now I know that's a single bit or two.

 

[Proserpina]

No. I mean no one shared their experiences. No one said, from my experience, this, or that, with blended family/co parenting/ anything. It's all just retorts and cut downs. The only helpful advice I saw was the link on the Amazon book. Which was nice except the rude dimeanor inwhich its presented. I was hoping someone on here could tell me what they've been through and what they did or that they brought it up and discussed it, or anything other than my 3rd grader should know about sex and babies. I guess, yeah, no one told me what I wanted to hear.

That's not what you asked.

At. All.

 

[I'mTheFather]

Having raised my stepdaughter starting at 4, I find nothing wrong with anything you mention. Whether you are aware or not, some children can conceive at age 8. Our children, as well as the children of my live in girlfriend, who were slightly older to age 16, were all aware their mother shared a bed with my spouse and I. I also know many children who were raised in households where BDSM was a fulltime lifestyle and other households with children, where slaves lived 24/7. There is no difference in reality based households such as these, as there are with households with 2 mommies or 2 daddies. My children, in their teens, have been babysat by a girlfriend, when visiting me while I worked out of state. My stepdaughter is one of the most well adjusted adults I know in her age group. She is also a virgin, has never used drugs and does not like the taste of alcohol.

And this here's a lot of bits.

 

[I'mTheFather]

I'm sure the dam is guilty of something.

Maybe telling some poor beaver's offspring the truth about how little beavers are made.

/halo emoticon here.

Oh, that damn dam!

Beavers? Double entendre?

 

[OHRoadwarrior]

And this here's a lot of bits.

Ahhh to be young again.

 

[stealth2]

I didn't say anything about bringing it up in court, going to court, whatever. I wanted to know advice on how to handle the situation, possibly from a parent whos been in my shoes and how they handled it, coped, whatever. I didn't ask for everyone to be sheisty and hateful. I told my honest feelings as a parent. Im pissed off. Im upset bc she co-parented, minus both parents. And told my son things that neither parent was ready to address, or else we would have. And your right, it's not bothering dad- bc he's never been clued in. He doesn't know about the conversations. I chose to ignore the first instances, bc I felt like if I made an issue of it, she'd keep pressing on, but if I ignored it, she'd stop. But it just keeps escalating. Year by year. My concern is by the time he's 18, she's gonna have told him all kinds of weird things. Bc no ones saying anything to her about it. She's doing what she pleases, behind closed doors when no ones around and no ones addressing it. But clearly you all have 5-8 year olds who could teach me a thing or two about sex ed and baby making. Thats a dam shame. And no judge would laugh me out of court bc I didnt plan on hiring a lawyer and making this a huge fight. I just wanted to see what other parents had experienced, which no one has had a single bit to offer, and how they'd handled it.. Either side. Parent, step parent, guardian or non-custodial. No one has had a shred of positive or productive advice. Thanks. Big Ups to you all.

It's a shame that neither of your son's parents are ready to address any part of the facts of life with your child. You're not doing him any favors.

My parents were very conservative. My Mom talked to me about menstruation, but that's about it. In those days, "proper" ladies didn't talk about these things. So I learned the rest from friends and books. And I swore that I would never leave my own kids floundering like that. Times have changed, thank goodness. There really is nothing shameful about our bodies, what they do, or how they work.

I always kept lines of communication open with my kids (just so you know, since you're new, I have one of each). There were no taboo subjects. I covered all of them - from erections and jacking off (yes, your son will be doing that... soon) to menstruation, to sex (which, btw, is NOT a dirty word - you can even say it aloud), to birth control, to abortion, to emotions, to babies (and how they get in vs how they get out), to almost every other related topic you could come up with. All of these with BOTH kids.

And no... it did not make them raving sex addicts. More information actually helps them be more responsible.

 

[I'mTheFather]

Did you catch my double entendre there, OH?

 

[Proserpina]

Oh, that damn dam!

Beavers? Double entendre?

Moi?

As *if*.

 

[I'mTheFather]

It's a shame that neither of your son's parents are ready to address any part of the facts of life with your child. You're not doing him any favors.

My parents were very conservative. My Mom talked to me about menstruation, but that's about it. In those days, "proper" ladies didn't talk about these things.

In those days, neither parent was comfortable with the sex talk, IMO. I had quite an unusual understanding of what a BJ was for quite some time!

 

[Proserpina]

It's a shame that neither of your son's parents are ready to address any part of the facts of life with your child. You're not doing him any favors.

My parents were very conservative. My Mom talked to me about menstruation, but that's about it. In those days, "proper" ladies didn't talk about these things. So I learned the rest from friends and books. And I swore that I would never leave my own kids floundering like that. Times have changed, thank goodness. There really is nothing shameful about our bodies, what they do, or how they work.

I always kept lines of communication open with my kids (just so you know, since you're new, I have one of each). There were no taboo subjects. I covered all of them - from erections and jacking off (yes, your son will be doing that... soon) to menstruation, to sex (which, btw, is NOT a dirty word - you can even say it aloud), to birth control, to abortion, to emotions, to babies (and how they get in vs how they get out), to almost every other related topic you could come up with. All of these with BOTH kids.

And no... it did not make them raving sex addicts. More information actually helps them be more responsible.

*wild applause*

 

[au83]

Well maybe thats not what I asked. The content of their conversations did concern me. Me personally. And I was originally seeking to know if I should be concerned about it. I found a unanimous NO... But apart from that, I was also looking for constructive advice. If it bothers me.. which it does. Maybe I'm wrong to think that way but that's how I feel and was looking to hear from parents who had either dealt with similar issues and had great results or parents who had been involved in similar issues. Yeah.. I'm def on the wrong site.

 

[OHRoadwarrior]

Did you catch my double entendre there, OH?

Nope, I have nerve impulses pounding into my hands, tingling feet, pinched nerves in my spine sending pain throbbing across my back, I haven't taken anything for anxiety in hours and my son is still at a school activity so there are no sleeping pills or Funsuckers for me tonight, since I am the who gets to pick him up.

On a better day, I'm sure I would have appreciated it. Everyone knows I love to use them also.