Step Mom Telling Son Unappropriate Things

[I'mTheFather]

Well maybe thats not what I asked. The content of their conversations did concern me. Me personally. And I was originally seeking to know if I should be concerned about it. I found a unanimous NO... But apart from that, I was also looking for constructive advice. If it bothers me.. which it does. Maybe I'm wrong to think that way but that's how I feel and was looking to hear from parents who had either dealt with similar issues and had great results or parents who had been involved in similar issues. Yeah.. I'm def on the wrong site.

Here's your advice.... Talk to your son about life's important things before he asks his stepmom.

 

[stealth2]

In those days, neither parent was comfortable with the sex talk, IMO. I had quite an unusual understanding of what a BJ was for quite some time!

LOL I remember being in summer camp - was eight-ish, as I recall - when several other girls in my group filled me in on the facts of life. You name it (almost - I don't think they got as far as RoadKill's lifestyle), they explained it. *Graphically* And that was.... 42 years ago. Today's eight year olds know that much and more.

 

[I'mTheFather]

Nope, I have nerve impulses pounding into my hands, tingling feet, pinched nerves in my spine sending pain throbbing across my back, I haven't taken anything for anxiety in hours and my son is still at a school activity so there are no sleeping pills or Funsuckers for me tonight, since I am the who gets to pick him up.

On a better day, I'm sure I would have appreciated it. Everyone knows I love to use them also.

Google bits, or better, naughty-bits.

 

[Proserpina]

Well maybe thats not what I asked. The content of their conversations did concern me. Me personally. And I was originally seeking to know if I should be concerned about it. I found a unanimous NO... But apart from that, I was also looking for constructive advice. If it bothers me.. which it does. Maybe I'm wrong to think that way but that's how I feel and was looking to hear from parents who had either dealt with similar issues and had great results or parents who had been involved in similar issues. Yeah.. I'm def on the wrong site.

No. Again, what you wanted to hear was "Stepmom is SO WRONG and you should take her to court and get her mentally evaluated and she shouldn't even be NEAR children".

Come on - you were the one who mentioned that you'd talked to a lawyer about such things.

Great results come from TEACHING YOUR CHILDREN.

Great results do NOT come from taking Daddy to court every time he or his wife does something which pisses you off.

 

[I'mTheFather]

LOL I remember being in summer camp - was eight-ish, as I recall - when several other girls in my group filled me in on the facts of life. You name it (almost - I don't think they got as far as RoadKill's lifestyle), they explained it. *Graphically* And that was.... 42 years ago. Today's eight year olds know that much and more.

Yep. Not too long ago, a teacher was fired when it was discovered that some of her 2nd graders had oral sex in class. Eight year olds! Now, that's a damn shame!

 

[stealth2]

Well maybe thats not what I asked. The content of their conversations did concern me. Me personally. And I was originally seeking to know if I should be concerned about it. I found a unanimous NO... But apart from that, I was also looking for constructive advice. If it bothers me.. which it does. Maybe I'm wrong to think that way but that's how I feel and was looking to hear from parents who had either dealt with similar issues and had great results or parents who had been involved in similar issues. Yeah.. I'm def on the wrong site.

Again - how do you really know the context of the conversation. Kids have the most inventive perspectives at times... Have you asked Dad or stepMom?

If it bothers you? Then you need to figure out how to impart info to your son yourself. You are doing him no favors by shielding him from this information. He will have teachers, family members, acquaintances, and yes... friends at school... having babies. He NEEDS to know the facts. Wouldn't you rather that he learned from you? Wouldn't you rather that he felt comfortable coming to you?

Yes, some of those conversations may be uncomfortable. For both of you. But they are worth having. For many reasons.

 

[au83]

Google bits, or better, naughty-bits.

Umm. Not exactly. Yes, I was concerned about her having these talks with my son, and yes I did ask my lawyer. She actually agreed with me that it seemed odd to write "you dance naked" on paper with a 4 year old child, or tell a 5 year old child that a baby is going to come out of her privates (graphic.. ?). Anyhow, she said if it ever came to a point where I was worried about my son's safety that would be something to consider. TBH, Im pretty much over the whole court thing. I just wondered if I had valid concerns. Or if I should be checking deeper into this. You don't know me. Not even close. But nice try.

 

[Proserpina]

Umm. Not exactly. Yes, I was concerned about her having these talks with my son, and yes I did ask my lawyer. She actually agreed with me that it seemed odd to write "you dance naked" on paper with a 4 year old child, or tell a 5 year old child that a baby is going to come out of her privates (graphic.. ?). Anyhow, she said if it ever came to a point where I was worried about my son's safety that would be something to consider. TBH, Im pretty much over the whole court thing. I just wondered if I had valid concerns. Or if I should be checking deeper into this. You don't know me. Not even close. But nice try.

You're so full of it.

We know it. You know it.

 

[stealth2]

Umm. Not exactly. Yes, I was concerned about her having these talks with my son, and yes I did ask my lawyer. She actually agreed with me that it seemed odd to write "you dance naked" on paper with a 4 year old child, or tell a 5 year old child that a baby is going to come out of her privates (graphic.. ?). Anyhow, she said if it ever came to a point where I was worried about my son's safety that would be something to consider. TBH, Im pretty much over the whole court thing. I just wondered if I had valid concerns. Or if I should be checking deeper into this. You don't know me. Not even close. But nice try.

Criminy - do you not understand that they were having a bit of fun waiting for you to respond?

Again - what PROOF do you have that the conversations went as your little boy reported to you?

 

[au83]

Seriously.. Let Me Just lay it all out there for you so you can get over your righteous-ness. I worry about my son. Period. I don't have to make excuses for that. I don't have to lie about it. And I could care less what you think of it. Thats my first born child. I'm gonna worry and ask questions. Thats my right and my duty. Get over it. Sounds like your a little defensive yourself.. hit a lil close to home.. ?

 

[Proserpina]

Seriously.. Let Me Just lay it all out there for you so you can get over your righteous-ness. I worry about my son. Period. I don't have to make excuses for that. I don't have to lie about it. And I could care less what you think of it. Thats my first born child. I'm gonna worry and ask questions. Thats my right and my duty. Get over it. Sounds like your a little defensive yourself.. hit a lil close to home.. ?

If you could care less, that means that you DO care what we think.

And Mom, we weren't the ones posing the question. YOU were.

 

[au83]

I didn't mean to pull quote that googly bits quote- I was responding to perina. or whatever her name is. Umm. I don't have proof. Other than my son telling me. I thought about asking her. Or calling a meeting between myself, my husband and them two, and asking about it all. But I wasn't sure.

 

[Proserpina]

I didn't mean to pull quote that googly bits quote- I was responding to perina. or whatever her name is. Umm. I don't have proof. Other than my son telling me. I thought about asking her. Or calling a meeting between myself, my husband and them two, and asking about it all. But I wasn't sure.

Try again.

 

[au83]

If you could care less, that means that you DO care what we think.

And Mom, we weren't the ones posing the question. YOU were.

Thank you for the grammar lesson. You can go back to whatever you were doing. My guess is checking your menopause calendar.

 

[OHRoadwarrior]

Its nice to see all the momma bears are so loving and protective of their cubs.