Could this impact the divorce/custody?

[agt181]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Tennessee

I most likely will be filing for divorce soon & need advice. I have been married for 16 yrs and we have 3 children. I have been a stay at home mom the majority of the time and have only worked a couple of days a week when I did work. I am the primary caregiver as my children and my children have never had to stay with a babysitter.

I had an affair recently that my husband is aware of. He is wanting to work things out & has no plans on filing. If I file I know that the affair will come into play and I will be honest and say that if I do divorce I most likely will eventually date the man I was having the affair with. My question is: How much bearing will the affair partner's past have on child custody? He has a felony conviction, but was never in prison. He served 6 months in the county jail and is now on probation/parole for the remainder of his sentence. It was a nonviolent/non drug related crime. I am worried that this could make me lose custody of my children.

Anyone know anything about a case like this? Thanks!

 

[Just Blue]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Tennessee

I most likely will be filing for divorce soon & need advice. I have been married for 16 yrs and we have 3 children. I have been a stay at home mom the majority of the time and have only worked a couple of days a week when I did work. I am the primary caregiver as my children and my children have never had to stay with a babysitter.

I had an affair recently that my husband is aware of. He is wanting to work things out & has no plans on filing. If I file I know that the affair will come into play and I will be honest and say that if I do divorce I most likely will eventually date the man I was having the affair with. My question is: How much bearing will the affair partner's past have on child custody? He has a felony conviction, but was never in prison. He served 6 months in the county jail and is now on probation/parole for the remainder of his sentence. It was a nonviolent/non drug related crime. I am worried that this could make me lose custody of my children.

Anyone know anything about a case like this? Thanks!

What is the felony for ?

 

[Isis1]

What is the felony for ?

in addition to this question.....keep the children away from this man until the judge signs the order of divorce. not only for legal reasons....but for the sanity of your children.

 

[Bali Hai]

What is the felony for ?

It was a nonviolent/non drug related crime.

 

[CSO286]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Tennessee

I most likely will be filing for divorce soon & need advice. I have been married for 16 yrs and we have 3 children. I have been a stay at home mom the majority of the time and have only worked a couple of days a week when I did work. I am the primary caregiver as my children and my children have never had to stay with a babysitter.

I had an affair recently that my husband is aware of. He is wanting to work things out & has no plans on filing. If I file I know that the affair will come into play and I will be honest and say that if I do divorce I most likely will eventually date the man I was having the affair with. My question is: How much bearing will the affair partner's past have on child custody? He has a felony conviction, but was never in prison. He served 6 months in the county jail and is now on probation/parole for the remainder of his sentence. It was a nonviolent/non drug related crime. I am worried that this could make me lose custody of my children.

Anyone know anything about a case like this? Thanks!

What is the felony for ?

And my question: Get more specific: Are we talking distribution? Intent to sell? Actual sales? Manufacture?

 

[ecmst12]

She said it was NOT drug related.

Still sounds like a great choice of man.

 

[CSO286]

She said it was NOT drug related.

Still sounds like a great choice of man.

I need a nap.

I read it as Non violent/drug related.

 

[agt181]

What is the felony for ?

Not sure of the legal term, but he wrote a bunch of bad checks

 

[ecmst12]

That seems unlikely to cause much of an issue, but you should still stay far, far, far away from him (and any other love interests) until the divorce is final.

 

[Bali Hai]

Not sure of the legal term, but he wrote a bunch of bad checks

If notice of a bad check is sent by certified mail, and the check writer has not made payment in full within 30 days, the check writer could owe additional damages of up to $500 if fraudulent intent is proven. The recipient of a bad check may also file criminal charges. Passing a bad check can be punishable as theft of property or services, which is a misdemeanor if the amount is under $500. However, if the amount of the check is more than $500 it is a felony charge.

 

[tuffbrk]

Wow. Just wow.

I'm grumpy due to Gov Rick Scott veto'ing the alimony reform bill last night.


This situation is exactly why reform is needed in states that have long term alimony statutes on the books.

 

[LdiJ]

Wow. Just wow.

I'm grumpy due to Gov Rick Scott veto'ing the alimony reform bill last night.


This situation is exactly why reform is needed in states that have long term alimony statutes on the books.

You know, I sympathize with your situation and your point of view, but there are at least a few situations where long term alimony is valid. Think about a truly permanently disabled spouse who truly cannot work and gets kicked to the curb. Yes, maybe they qualify for SSDI, but maybe only for 900.00 a month. I see long term alimony being valid there.

 

[ecmst12]

However, given the affair and that OP will be the one initiating the divorce, I don't think she should count on ANY alimony, let alone long term.

 

[TheGeekess]

However, given the affair and that OP will be the one initiating the divorce, I don't think she should count on ANY alimony, let alone long term.

I'm not even sure OP is going to get custody, considering that she has had an affair and the state she lives in.

 

[Bali Hai]

You know, I sympathize with your situation and your point of view, but there are at least a few situations where long term alimony is valid. Think about a truly permanently disabled spouse who truly cannot work and gets kicked to the curb. Yes, maybe they qualify for SSDI, but maybe only for 900.00 a month. I see long term alimony being valid there.

You have said this numerous times. Just what does "gets kicked to the curb mean"?