Ex wife moving to Arizona

[wi dad]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? WI

Hello.

My ex wife called yesterday and told me we needed to talk.

She told me she is moving to Arizona, will be staying with her sister, to get her life straightened out. She has some alcohol issues. She is not planning to take our 9 year old daughter with her and told me that she would sign paper work for custody, and sign off on child support.

I have a few questions I need to ask her about her intentions if / when she returns to Wisconsin.

Does anyone know what forms I would need her to sign giving me full custody of our daughter, to stop child support from being taken from my pay? I would also like her to sign off on her parental rights. is there a form that she should sign, or can we just type up an agreement that she could sign?

Any help is appreciated.

Thanks,
WI dad

 

[LdiJ]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? WI

Hello.

My ex wife called yesterday and told me we needed to talk.

She told me she is moving to Arizona, will be staying with her sister, to get her life straightened out. She has some alcohol issues. She is not planning to take our 9 year old daughter with her and told me that she would sign paper work for custody, and sign off on child support.

I have a few questions I need to ask her about her intentions if / when she returns to Wisconsin.

Does anyone know what forms I would need her to sign giving me full custody of our daughter, to stop child support from being taken from my pay? I would also like her to sign off on her parental rights. is there a form that she should sign, or can we just type up an agreement that she could sign?

Any help is appreciated.

Thanks,
WI dad

There is no reason why she should give you full custody. Joint legal custody (joint decision making) with you having primary residential custody would be more the norm. You can type up an agreement to submit to the courts or you can check out your state or county website to see if there is a form available for you to download.

There is ABSOLUTELY NO reason for her to sign off on her parental rights, and I sincerely doubt that a judge would permit that anyway. Courts want two parents to be legally responsible for children.

 

[single317dad]

Along with the petitions to modify custody and support, provide a notice of agreement signed by Mom and notarized. To be clear, you're not getting the agreed petitions notarized, what you're having notarized is just a typed agreement where Mom says she's aware of the changes you're asking the court for, and she's in full agreement. The purpose of this is to speed along the process, as it's possible that you may not even need a court appearance if the judge is satisfied that all parties have knowledge of the request and are in agreement. You don't want Mom to take off for AZ then find out you both have to be in court and the judge won't proceed until she appears.

Again, so there's no misunderstanding: The petitions to modify custody and support are not notarized. They're not valid until signed by a judge. The agreement document is notarized as proof that Mom was present and signed it.

 

[wi dad]

I forgot to mention that she is leaving the state on the 14th of May, so I need to act quickly.

She has no idea how long she will be gone, maybe a year, maybe 2 or 3 years.

 

[stealth2]

I would also like her to sign off on her parental rights.

Why? Really - why?

 

[ecmst12]

Then your best bet is to get a lawyer, but the paperwork is not going to be done in 2 weeks, it takes longer than that to get a hearing most of the time. But she might be able to appear telephonically.

 

[wi dad]

Why? Really - why?

Why?

Can you say abandonment? My 9 yo daughter can.....

 

[single317dad]

Why?

Can you say abandonment? My 9 yo daughter can.....

Giving you custody and moving to Arizona is not abandonment. Put that idea out of your head. I suggest you put aside your emotions and follow the legal advice you've been given, quickly. If you've read my earlier reply, you know what you need to do.

 

[Proserpina]

Why?

Can you say abandonment? My 9 yo daughter can.....

And I wonder why that would be.

Wouldn't have anything to do with you, right?

Right.

 

[wi dad]

Giving you custody and moving to Arizona is not abandonment. Put that idea out of your head. I suggest you put aside your emotions and follow the legal advice you've been given, quickly. If you've read my earlier reply, you know what you need to do.

Agreement signed and notarized ,and submitted along with Stipulation and Order to Change...

Emotions did not play into any conversation, agreements, etc. with the ex.

 

[stealth2]

Why?

Can you say abandonment? My 9 yo daughter can.....

Huh - wonder where she learned that, in reference to her mother. Craptastic parenting, on your part, Dad.

Of course, if she is REALLY signing off on her parental rights, she wouldn't be paying child support.

 

[single317dad]

Agreement signed and notarized ,and submitted along with Stipulation and Order to Change...

Emotions did not play into any conversation, agreements, etc. with the ex.

Good. Then I suggest you contact the court in a few days and ask if the order has been approved. There's not much else you can do besides wait and see if the judge signs off on the orders as submitted, or sets a hearing.

 

[Isis1]

abandonment of a child is to leave a child in a dangerous situation to fend for themselves. mom is leaving the child with you. that is NOT abandonment. in fact, she's leaving the child in a very safe place. i think. if you are implying the child being left with you is dangerous as you are unfit....continue crying abandonment.

stop using the word until you know what is means, makes you look not smart.