Emotional Abuse

[Kaygee747]

I appreciate the responses, even though they are so "blunt". I still do not think you understand where I come from when everyone thinks I should just run and leave while being abused.

Let me try to put it this way:

I pay $750 a month in child support
I have a car payment, that is in my name....my fault, but my wife wanted the care....my fault, I know....did I mention that I knew it was my fault? So there's no need to tell me again. That is near $400 a month.
Her and her son are on my cell phone contract that is $200 a month. Again, please see above, I know, my fault for letting it happen. I didn't see all of this coming.

After all of those deductions alone, and then you add probably $400 or so a month that would be my "responsiblity" (that's half of what she is paying her mom back with this "loan") you would see that living on my own would be not possible.

But I think I see where this is going. This is why my friends told me not to get married because they said I will wind up renting a room from some dude I don't know eating off of a hot plate.
Hind sight is 20/20.

I am not playing "the victim" here. I am trying to get some advice and help. It seems all I am receiving is: "Get over it. You Married her. Stop whining and just leave."

 

[Zigner]

I guess this is a business decision then, isn't it?

good luck

 

[ecmst12]

You can stop paying the car payment and let it get repossessed. Will hurt your credit, but may be worth it. You can remove them from your cell phone plan, no one is forcing you to make that payment. Fault has nothing to do with it. You are not happy. CHANGE SOMETHING.

 

[RRevak]

I am not playing "the victim" here. I am trying to get some advice and help. It seems all I am receiving is: "Get over it. You Married her. Stop whining and just leave."

Because those are pretty much your only options. Either put up with it or take the above advice. What exactly did you want to hear (or rather, think you were going to hear)???

 

[Bali Hai]

I guess this is a business decision then, isn't it?

good luck

When it comes right down to it, they all are just business deals aren't they? It's just a business deal with alot of unecessary emotionally lobbied state legislated laws attached to it.

 

[Zigner]

When it comes right down to it, they all are just business deals aren't they? It's just a business deal with alot of unecessary emotionally lobbied state legislated laws attached to it.

Nope - they aren't. Maybe that's the problem YOU'VE had, but not everyone.

 

[anearthw]

What are your expectations then? You've made numerous financial commitments, you are an adult, you will be held to those obligations like everyone else. Her being a bully/mean has no bearing on this.

 

[anearthw]

I appreciate the responses, even though they are so "blunt". I still do not think you understand where I come from when everyone thinks I should just run and leave while being abused.

No, I think you've made it clear that you think her being emotionally abusive is going to hold up in divorce court free pass to walk away from the financial obligations that you have entered into with her. You are being unrealistic and you will have to face reality of your grown-up decisions to have children and enter marriage contracts like the rest of us.

 

[Kaygee747]

This is a cold, cold place. Wow! But I do appreciate everyone's truthfulness and comments. I am closing this as I can see that the emotional state or the way I am treated has nothing to do with the actual divorce, so it is what it is.

Thank you!