Custody advice and sharing time

[MarkoRocko]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? CA
OK, so I just filed for divorce and strategically I'm trying to figure out what to propose with times splitting.
So if I ask for 50/50 custody what does that mean?
Honestly, my kids have been staying mostly at my wife's home but she will stay out really late and I am stuck staying up late with kids waiting for her to come home. There is an excellent chance thats she's really not 'working' but is actually out with her boyfriend and I don't want to play babysitter while that is going on!
So, I'm thinking... what if I ask for 50/50 custody so that kids are with me for one week, then kids with her for one week?
Then I'm not stuck waiting(babysitting) while she goes out all night with her boyfriend.
Any advice is greatly appreciated! I want what is best for the kids and myself. Pleas advise.

 

[Ladyback1]

These are your kids, thus you are not babysitting....you are their parent! If you are looking at this solely from the perspective of "I don't want to stay up late "babysitting" my own kids", then you need to readjust your thinking and attitude.

The courts are going to look at it from the perspective of "what is in the best interest of the children".
How old are the kids? What is the distance between your home and mom's home? How much disruption in their lives would one week at dad's/one week at mom's cause? Are the kids in activities that are beneficial to them? Would the 1/1 schedule adversely effect those activities?

Truly, it matters not what you want or do not want, if what you want/don't want is NOT in the best interest of the children.

 

[Antigone*]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? CA
OK, so I just filed for divorce and strategically I'm trying to figure out what to propose with times splitting.
So if I ask for 50/50 custody what does that mean?
Honestly, my kids have been staying mostly at my wife's home but she will stay out really late and I am stuck staying up late with kids waiting for her to come home. There is an excellent chance thats she's really not 'working' but is actually out with her boyfriend and I don't want to play babysitter while that is going on!
So, I'm thinking... what if I ask for 50/50 custody so that kids are with me for one week, then kids with her for one week?
Then I'm not stuck waiting(babysitting) while she goes out all night with her boyfriend.
Any advice is greatly appreciated! I want what is best for the kids and myself. Pleas advise.

While I agree that you are technically not babysitting, I understand your frustration. Let me ask you, do you live in separate homes, how far away from each other are the homes? How old are your kids?

 

[ecmst12]

Look at it this way...at least she's leaving the kids with you and not bringing the boyfriend over when they are home.