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I have been caring for my mother (with Alzheimer's)for the last year and a half, living with her in her home, along with my two children. She is now to the point of needing 24/7 care and I have a full-time job. I am not the POA. My sister is, who lives in OK. A week and a half ago, she came in to town and after assessing the situation, decided to take my mom home with her to OK. Though I do not agree with this, I know that it is my sister's decision. I have a couple questions though, and was not sure just where to ask them. I apologize if this is not the correct forum. In my parents will, it states that upon their death, the house would be sold and divided between the four of us girls. My sister is now saying that the house will need to be sold now to help cover the cost of her care. How, after my mother does die, will we know how much actually went to her care from the house and of what she does have left in savings, shouldn't we all be advised of that? My concern is that my sister will finagle things so that the rest of us end up with nothing. Though one other sister and I have been my fathers caretaker and then my mother's, I feel that since she is the POA and making all the end of life decisions and giving that care, she will somehow find away to justify her part of the money being larger. Can you help me clarify any of this? Hoping you have enough info. Also, wondering about something else...In 2008, I had terrible credit, just divorced, and such. My father and mother took out a loan on my car, in their name and let me make the payments to them. I did not even pay them half of what the loan was but I was having a hard time and knowing that I was dedicated to caring for them and such, and mostly out of love, they told me not to worry about it, that I needed the car and after that, I should have asked them to sign it over but we just never talked about it. My sister now is saying that it is technically not my car, it is mom's. Is there much I can do if she decides to want to take it and further more, can she take it out of my part of house money. Now last, but not least, can she tell me that we are selling the house and I must be out in ten days? Feeling desperate, not having much money saved up to find a place so quickly. Thank you in advance for your quick response, Ethes
I have been caring for my mother (with Alzheimer's)for the last year and a half, living with her in her home, along with my two children. She is now to the point of needing 24/7 care and I have a full-time job. I am not the POA. My sister is, who lives in OK. A week and a half ago, she came in to town and after assessing the situation, decided to take my mom home with her to OK. Though I do not agree with this, I know that it is my sister's decision. I have a couple questions though, and was not sure just where to ask them. I apologize if this is not the correct forum. In my parents will, it states that upon their death, the house would be sold and divided between the four of us girls. My sister is now saying that the house will need to be sold now to help cover the cost of her care. How, after my mother does die, will we know how much actually went to her care from the house and of what she does have left in savings, shouldn't we all be advised of that? My concern is that my sister will finagle things so that the rest of us end up with nothing. Though one other sister and I have been my fathers caretaker and then my mother's, I feel that since she is the POA and making all the end of life decisions and giving that care, she will somehow find away to justify her part of the money being larger. Can you help me clarify any of this? Hoping you have enough info. Also, wondering about something else...In 2008, I had terrible credit, just divorced, and such. My father and mother took out a loan on my car, in their name and let me make the payments to them. I did not even pay them half of what the loan was but I was having a hard time and knowing that I was dedicated to caring for them and such, and mostly out of love, they told me not to worry about it, that I needed the car and after that, I should have asked them to sign it over but we just never talked about it. My sister now is saying that it is technically not my car, it is mom's. Is there much I can do if she decides to want to take it and further more, can she take it out of my part of house money. Now last, but not least, can she tell me that we are selling the house and I must be out in ten days? Feeling desperate, not having much money saved up to find a place so quickly. Thank you in advance for your quick response, Ethes
