Ex wants to request Home Inspection

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

Whether she gets the address now or later, what's the difference? If she causes problems BEFORE court, then it can be addressed in court as part of the pleadings.

 

[gam]

Hi gam, thank you for your quick reply. There is no court order yet. They have just begun the process and filed the initial paperwork to get things moving. There is no document that states he must inform her of his new address. Just, from what I understand, the legal requirement to update it with the courts so that he has his current address on file if he needed to be served with any documents.

Sorry misread and thought he filed modification papers.

The answer is really then what the other's posted. He will have to eventually anyways. Each parent is entitled to know where their child is living on the other parents time. If she causes problems then you will want to document them properly, by calling the police and making reports. Sad to say in many cases PPO's are needed and issued, but you need actual documented proof to get that. So he basically should just give it a try, actually would harm mom is the upcoming hearing's on what has been filed if she did come do anything over at your house.

 

[BLM2013]

To be honest, while I am concerned about what may happen, I believe she should have the address. I would want the same if I were in her position. I in fact stated something similar to my boyfriend last night I.e. If she does anything it gets documented etc. He was thinking he could just so a PO Box to avoid this until later and I wasn't sure if that was a viable option.

Accept all the baggage he brings (he has an amazing, wonderful little boy) and trying to see how to keep everyone safe and happy as can be at the same time.

Thanks so much for the quick responses!!

 

[Ohiogal]

Hi gam, thank you for your quick reply. There is no court order yet. They have just begun the process and filed the initial paperwork to get things moving. There is no document that states he must inform her of his new address. Just, from what I understand, the legal requirement to update it with the courts so that he has his current address on file if he needed to be served with any documents.

Then there is nothing saying he gets to see his child. Expect without a court order if dad doesn't give his address that mom can yank any and all time with the child. Anything sent to the courts NEEDS to be sent to the other parent.

 

[BLM2013]

Ohiogal: Very good point that I have, as of yet, been unsuccessful in getting across. Thank you for saying it so he can read it!

I have become an avid reader of this forum and I am crystal clear in my complete lack of legal importance here. He asks me daily what do you think I should do, etc. I appreciate all of your help because this way he gets educated responses and he has even posted here as well.

Thank you again.

 

[Ohiogal]

Ohiogal: Very good point that I have, as of yet, been unsuccessful in getting across. Thank you for saying it so he can read it!

I have become an avid reader of this forum and I am crystal clear in my complete lack of legal importance here. He asks me daily what do you think I should do, etc. I appreciate all of your help because this way he gets educated responses and he has even posted here as well.

Thank you again.

Very good attitude you have. Your boyfriend really needs to grow up though (and maybe mom does too). He slept with her, made a baby with her, and now he needs to communicate with her. He needs to be the bigger person and play nice.What he does now can impact her attitude for years to come.

 

[Ohiogal]

Oh and one other thing -- if a GAL gets involved, expect a home inspection (a visit from the GAL to investigate you and him and your -- mutual home). Expect that she/he will ask prying questions about sleeping arrangements, criminal history, custodial history and various other things.

 

[BLM2013]

Oh and one other thing -- if a GAL gets involved, expect a home inspection (a visit from the GAL to investigate you and him and your -- mutual home). Expect that she/he will ask prying questions about sleeping arrangements, criminal history, custodial history and various other things.

I agree wholeheartedly, both need to do some growing up. Child is 9 and they were together for 7.5 years and unfortunately none of them were very happy years apparently. WRT a GAL getting involved, what necessitates that? If I shouldn't be asking I understand but I haven't been able to dig up what constitutes the need.

I'm completely fine with inspections, etc, and, in fact, welcome them. I've offered to sit down and meet with Mom hoping that I could help her feel more comfortable with me around her son. Unfortunately she refused and stated she'd meet me in court (of course it's clear that won't be the case).

I'm really lucky, their son and I get along really well and I only hope that the parents' relationship will become better as they iron out the particulars wrt custody.

Thank you again for your help!

 

[Ohiogal]

I agree wholeheartedly, both need to do some growing up. Child is 9 and they were together for 7.5 years and unfortunately none of them were very happy years apparently. WRT a GAL getting involved, what necessitates that? If I shouldn't be asking I understand but I haven't been able to dig up what constitutes the need.

I'm completely fine with inspections, etc, and, in fact, welcome them. I've offered to sit down and meet with Mom hoping that I could help her feel more comfortable with me around her son. Unfortunately she refused and stated she'd meet me in court (of course it's clear that won't be the case).

I'm really lucky, their son and I get along really well and I only hope that the parents' relationship will become better as they iron out the particulars wrt custody.

Thank you again for your help!

A GAL can be ordered into a case if there is a dispute regarding custody or visitation.

 

[BLM2013]

New question

Hopefully one last question. My fiancee has now received a court date to finalize his parenting plan developed during mediation and defined child support. He is representing himself and is nervous as his ex has a lawyer. He is asking/requesting that I attend court with him as he gets nervous with this case and he would like to have someone to help him with his responses (not what the facts are just how to form the sentence, etc. He is ADD and dyslexic and tends to mix his words up). I have explained that I can't go as I don't matter when it comes to this case, legally speaking. I believe that is the correct answer. Am I mistaken? I just want to be sure I'm giving him the correct answer.

Thank you.

 

[Silverplum]

Hopefully one last question. My fiancee has now received a court date to finalize his parenting plan developed during mediation and defined child support. He is representing himself and is nervous as his ex has a lawyer. He is asking/requesting that I attend court with him as he gets nervous with this case and he would like to have someone to help him with his responses (not what the facts are just how to form the sentence, etc. He is ADD and dyslexic and tends to mix his words up). I have explained that I can't go as I don't matter when it comes to this case, legally speaking. I believe that is the correct answer. Am I mistaken? I just want to be sure I'm giving him the correct answer.

Thank you.

Only an attorney licensed in his state can speak on his behalf in court.

 

[Ohiogal]

Hopefully one last question. My fiancee has now received a court date to finalize his parenting plan developed during mediation and defined child support. He is representing himself and is nervous as his ex has a lawyer. He is asking/requesting that I attend court with him as he gets nervous with this case and he would like to have someone to help him with his responses (not what the facts are just how to form the sentence, etc. He is ADD and dyslexic and tends to mix his words up). I have explained that I can't go as I don't matter when it comes to this case, legally speaking. I believe that is the correct answer. Am I mistaken? I just want to be sure I'm giving him the correct answer.

Thank you.

You won't be able to do a thing as you are not an attorney. You can go and sit in the gallery (if it is open) or in the hallway. But you can't help him with his responses. If there is an agreement there will not be many questions asked. Mainly the court will want to know if this was done knowingly, voluntarily and whether it is in the best interest of the child per the parents.