Being Stalked My Boyfriends Wife

[Ohiogal]

That's a really creepy thought

No creepier than you helping her husband commit adultery. You knew he was married. You didn't care.

 

[Ohiogal]

I agree. And I'm ashamed to have been such a fool.

Yet you refer to him as YOUR BOYFRIEND meaning you haven't gotten out of the relationship and are still screwing him. Apparently you are not that ashamed. Well, not ashamed at all.

 

[anearthw]

Maybe she is curious to know about your sexual/STD history since you too have basically been swapping the same man for two years - of course, you'd be wise to also consider that there is likely a 3rd or 4th or 5th woman involved as well, since he is willing to lie to get some side action. She probably wants to know how much marital income has come out of her children's mouth and into YOUR purse. I'm sure she'd like to know if a possible future step-mother has a criminal record or not and how she can use that to keep you away from her children.

You've helped contribute to the destruction of a family (congratulations), she probably wants to know what she is dealing with since you and your "boyfriend" have shattered her and her children's life.

BTW the title of this thread is ridiculous, you just have a "boyfriend", she has a family falling apart - of course she's going into this guns-blazing. Anyone would.

 

[stealth2]

I agree. And I'm ashamed to have been such a fool.

Yet he is still your boyfriend? You are apparently not all that ashamed.

ETA: Must be channeling OG...

 

[Bali Hai]

New York State


Lets, just get this out of the way... I was the blonde idiot that believed her boyfriend of two years when he said he was still legally married to his wife because he was afraid of losing everything including his children. Stupid, I know.

Firstly, his wife is a paralegal at a NYC based law firm.

For two years I'm guessing she thought we just worked together (He owns the company, I manage his business), not wanting to deal with the "baby mama drama" I was always very polite to her but kept conversation to an absolute minimum. We must have spoken a hand full of times over the course of two years. Her house is in Pennsylvania and he only goes there on the weekends to "see his children" and is in NYC for the rest of the week.

This week after me asking him to have her hand over all the company documents for tax purposes (I'm guessing this is what infuriated her), he called me frantically stating that she knew about us and was out for blood. He stated she looked at his phone bill and saw how much we've spoken and that's what made her look deeper.

Since then she has:

Hacked his phone and asked for the SIM card to have someone in her office pull records (not my concern but is it legal?)

Looked up my medical records and history

Looked up my background and criminal records

Claims that she has people "looking into me"

All using company resources. I'm not sure what she is planning to do with this information, I understand she is angry, but it is a violation of my privacy. My question is, is it legal for her to use company/legal resources to look into me for personal reasons? What can I do to get her to stop?

I'm the owner of a famous bridge connecting Queens to Manhattan. I'm looking to sell it. If you're interested, meet me at the corner of Lexington and 42nd. Bring cash.

 

[single317dad]

Hacked his phone and asked for the SIM card to have someone in her office pull records (not my concern but is it legal?)
Looked up my medical records and history
Looked up my background and criminal records
Claims that she has people "looking into me"
All using company resources. I'm not sure what she is planning to do with this information, I understand she is angry, but it is a violation of my privacy. My question is, is it legal for her to use company/legal resources to look into me for personal reasons? What can I do to get her to stop?

Time to stop worrying about how you have been slighted, take inventory of how you have been complicit in wronging others, pack up your life and move on. The job, the boyfriend: that's over now. She'll stop when you disappear.

Oh, and the fact that you know that this has happened before, and they've stayed together? That means YOU KNEW he was cheating on her with you. Don't try to paint yourself the naive little girl here; you're in as deep as he is.

 

[Ohiogal]

Time to stop worrying about how you have been slighted, take inventory of how you have been complicit in wronging others, pack up your life and move on. The job, the boyfriend: that's over now. She'll stop when you disappear.

Oh, and the fact that you know that this has happened before, and they've stayed together? That means YOU KNEW he was cheating on her with you. Don't try to paint yourself the naive little girl here; you're in as deep as he is.

maybe she is hoping to get pregnant so boyfriend will then have to support her and pay her child support. Of course he won't be worth much after his wife divorces him. I would count on her supporting him rather than the other way around.