ThisCantBeLife
Junior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? NYC & NJ
2 kids in NYC that I've paid "25%" support for since 2002. 1 handicapped child in NJ that I've paid support for since Jan 2004.
When the NJ order was made, my NY child support was taken into account in the calculations, but the magistrate decided to deviate from the standard because of my NJ child's special needs (she's in a diaper, wheelchair, ect) and that brings my NJ support to just under 50% of my net once you add in the NY support I'm way past and that's fine. My children are all cared for and provided for. My girlfriend and I share expenses and she helps float me.
Anyway, earlier this month I was in NYC court and the mom in NYC claims that her expenses have tripled and that I need to pay more. I should mention (not sure if it's relevant) that she lives room & board FREE with my aunt & uncle, but claimed in court that she pays them 1500/mo. She's also claiming that the kids are in sports, etc and that I need to pony up for that, too.
The NYC magistrate said that I needed to go back to NJ and have that support lowered but I'm not sure I agree or that it's even possible. How can I tell the mother of one child (who is critically ill) that she will get less for diapers, therapists, and medical specialists because the other mother of my children wants them to play baseball?
Can the NYC court force me to do this?
Like I said, I've been supporting them all since day one (no arrears) I just morally feel that my daughter in NJ needs/deserves more - and the NJ magistrate allowed me to deviate for that very reason.
Thank you for reading.
2 kids in NYC that I've paid "25%" support for since 2002. 1 handicapped child in NJ that I've paid support for since Jan 2004.
When the NJ order was made, my NY child support was taken into account in the calculations, but the magistrate decided to deviate from the standard because of my NJ child's special needs (she's in a diaper, wheelchair, ect) and that brings my NJ support to just under 50% of my net once you add in the NY support I'm way past and that's fine. My children are all cared for and provided for. My girlfriend and I share expenses and she helps float me.
Anyway, earlier this month I was in NYC court and the mom in NYC claims that her expenses have tripled and that I need to pay more. I should mention (not sure if it's relevant) that she lives room & board FREE with my aunt & uncle, but claimed in court that she pays them 1500/mo. She's also claiming that the kids are in sports, etc and that I need to pony up for that, too.
The NYC magistrate said that I needed to go back to NJ and have that support lowered but I'm not sure I agree or that it's even possible. How can I tell the mother of one child (who is critically ill) that she will get less for diapers, therapists, and medical specialists because the other mother of my children wants them to play baseball?
Can the NYC court force me to do this?
Like I said, I've been supporting them all since day one (no arrears) I just morally feel that my daughter in NJ needs/deserves more - and the NJ magistrate allowed me to deviate for that very reason.
Thank you for reading.