Legal Recourse or No?

[Bali Hai]

My advise is that you shift to a lower gear. Like slow down and take a deep breath! Get your emotions under control. Back off from all negotiations, further communications on the subject and listen to your attorney.

She's the one that has broken the marriage. She leaves the children over night caring less should an emergency occur.

Alimony? Cash out for her share of equity? Don't offer it on a silver platter. Make her fight for it.

You've been married for a number of years and you want to wrap it neatly up in a matter of days? Its a common desire, but too often people so affected act compulsively and live to regret it.

Great advice. If this was me she wouldn't be offered alimony and a lump sum, she'd be getting some lumps.

 

[TigerD]

OP: You've gotten some good advice. Now I'm going to give you some bad advice:
You are about to go through a divorce. That is also called a war. Hit first, hit hard.

Keep documenting everything. File for divorce. Ask that she find a different place to live as her behavior is disruptive to the kids. She is not the person you fell in love with. She is the enemy and you need to destroy her. Snag the kid's college fund and hire a PI. Hire the best attorney you can and knock her on her @#$ (legally not physically) and keep her there through the entire process. Seize the initiative and the high ground.

Cancel the credit cards. Take all the money out of the joint accounts and open separate accounts at a different bank. Cancel the car insurance, give away the dog.

Remember, it isn't enough to win. You need to crush.

Or you could take the good advice.

DC

 

[Zigner]

Great advice. If this was me she wouldn't be offered alimony and a lump sum, she'd be getting some lumps.

Now you are advocating violence? Bali...you need help.

 

[Zigner]

Cancel the credit cards. Take all the money out of the joint accounts and open separate accounts at a different bank. Cancel the car insurance, give away the dog.

Yes, advising the OP to do these things is TERRIBLE advice. In fact, these things may very well be in violation of the law.

 

[Bali Hai]

Now you are advocating violence? Bali...you need help.

You know what I mean. Is your A/C broke today Zig?