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[Ohiogal]

Yup sure do. The intimidation of a victim to compel the individual to do some act against his or her will by the use of psychological pressure.

But perhaps I should have used a simpler word for y'all.... i.e. arm-twisting, coercion, pressure and they all have similar meaning to the word duress.

You have no evidence of duress. He has no proof of duress. He didn't do it under duress. But continue.

 

[Zigner]

Yup sure do. The intimidation of a victim to compel the individual to do some act against his or her will by the use of psychological pressure.

But perhaps I should have used a simpler word for y'all.... i.e. arm-twisting, coercion, pressure and they all have similar meaning to the word duress.

By your definition, my wife got a new set of patio furniture by use of duress.

You do NOT know the legal definition of duress. Your brother made CHOICES of his own free will.

I wasn't going to go this direction earlier, but here goes:

BUTT OUT. This really is none of your business.

 

[Ohiogal]

Why is it that someone else's money is always good enuf????? Just saying. If she wasn't in this for my family's $, she'd step up to the plate and take care of these things from her own wallet and he ex hubbies wallet. Geez!

She is the only one working. She is the one supporting her children and to an extent your brother. Good grief. From the sounds of things, you and your family expect her to pay to fix up the house and want to ride on her coattails which makes you and your family the gold digging greedy ones.

 

[Zigner]

Why is it that someone else's money is always good enuf????? Just saying. If she wasn't in this for my family's $, she'd step up to the plate and take care of these things from her own wallet and he ex hubbies wallet. Geez!

Not your business, not your problem.

 

[nalnk]

She is the only one working. She is the one supporting her children and to an extent your brother. Good grief. From the sounds of things, you and your family expect her to pay to fix up the house and want to ride on her coattails which makes you and your family the gold digging greedy ones.

She's been living above her standards thanks to my brother for the last 7 years.. It's only been the last 6 months that my brother hasn't been working, where she's been supporting him.

They have marital savings ....that'll fix up the house.

My brother has bailed her out from day one. saved her from loosing her house, gotten her off food stamps, welfare, fixed up her house.. (only her name is on the deed of the marital home). She works in a dealership making minimum wage and my brother was making close to 6 figures. It was most mostly his income that paid for additions on her house, all the updates, etc... too much to list.

So bahahaha that we want to ride on her coat tails. Laughable. If you only knew where she came from and grew up. Deep in the woods of the poconos. The only one that will be the winner here one day is her if my brother does wake the heck up!

 

[Ohiogal]

She's been living above her standards thanks to my brother for the last 7 years.. It's only been the last 6 months that my brother hasn't been working, where she's been supporting him.

They have marital savings ....that'll fix up the house.

My brother has bailed her out from day one. saved her from loosing her house, gotten her off food stamps, welfare, fixed up her house.. (only her name is on the deed of the marital home). She works in a dealership making minimum wage and my brother was making close to 6 figures. It was most mostly his income that paid for additions on her house, all the updates, etc... too much to list.

So bahahaha that we want to ride on her coat tails. Laughable. If you only knew where she came from and grew up. Deep in the woods of the poconos. The only one that will be the winner here one day is her if my brother does wake the heck up!

Has anyone called you on your bigotry and prejudice? You strike me as a spoiled entitled brat who thinks you and your family are worthwhile but anyone not as financially set as you are nothing but trash. Where she came from? Where she grew up? Growing up in the country is not an issue. Nor is growing up poor. Unless of course you are a snob or think you run the world because you have money. Guess what? Money can't buy you integrity, honesty or morals. It also can't make you a likeable person and you are coming across as extremely unlikeable. You are laughable. Your jealousy is definitely showing through and I can guarantee I am not the only one who sees it just bubbling off of you in droves.

 

[TigerD]

She's been living above her standards thanks to my brother for the last 7 years.. It's only been the last 6 months that my brother hasn't been working, where she's been supporting him.

They have marital savings ....that'll fix up the house.

My brother has bailed her out from day one. saved her from loosing her house, gotten her off food stamps, welfare, fixed up her house.. (only her name is on the deed of the marital home). She works in a dealership making minimum wage and my brother was making close to 6 figures. It was most mostly his income that paid for additions on her house, all the updates, etc... too much to list.

So bahahaha that we want to ride on her coat tails. Laughable. If you only knew where she came from and grew up. Deep in the woods of the poconos. The only one that will be the winner here one day is her if my brother does wake the heck up!

Wow. You are a very unpleasant person. If your story and attitude are indicative of the familial interactions, you are creating a lot of marital stress for your brother. Perhaps you should focus on your own gold-digging.

DC

 

[nalnk]

Has anyone called you on your bigotry and prejudice? You strike me as a spoiled entitled brat who thinks you and your family are worthwhile but anyone not as financially set as you are nothing but trash. Where she came from? Where she grew up? Growing up in the country is not an issue. Nor is growing up poor. Unless of course you are a snob or think you run the world because you have money. Guess what? Money can't buy you integrity, honesty or morals. It also can't make you a likeable person and you are coming across as extremely unlikeable. You are laughable. Your jealousy is definitely showing through and I can guarantee I am not the only one who sees it just bubbling off of you in droves.

Ok..let me set something straight. I am an average mid-class person who has worked hard for everything i have.. not that that is one bit of your business. Nothing has ever been handed to me!
My family does not come from "snobery" money as you so imply
My parents worked hard (blue collar) and saved even harder since the day they arrived in the US
My parents do not want to see their hard earn money be taken from their only son (which by the way, they too suspect the same)
My mom is being asked by my brother for the money and she wants to give it to HIM and only him. They are european with a language barrier (oopps is that being prejudice???) so I have to come to these boards/forums to ask questions, which in the end become entertaining.
When I had to make a move for personal reasons, I uprooted and lived in the Poconos myself. I actually know a handful of people that have lived there and are quite lovely.
I no longer live there.. that was my choice.
So, with all of the above being said... I'm not a snob, don't run the world ... i don't have all this money you claim that i have (it would be nice though
I have morals and integrity..I'm very likeable.. you just don't have the pleasure of knowing me... I have nothing to be jealous over.. i wake up every morning, i'm thankful for lots of things....

So now you probably have a reason not to like me.. oh well! no loss!

 

[Just Blue]

I'm the sister... I have spoken to him about his mess... He knows he is screwed... he doesn't want to hear it. If he left her, she'd clean his clocks.. He foolishly put her name on everything two days after they were married.. but i would be willing to bet that it was done under duress.

Goodness.

SIL Should run far and fast from your over-involved self. Actually your brother should as well.

 

[nalnk]

Wow. You are a very unpleasant person. If your story and attitude are indicative of the familial interactions, you are creating a lot of marital stress for your brother. Perhaps you should focus on your own gold-digging.

DC

Read my last reply... I guess that goes for you as well. Peace out!

 

[Just Blue]

Ok..let me set something straight. I am an average mid-class person who has worked hard for everything i have.. not that that is one bit of your business. Nothing has ever been handed to me!
My family does not come from "snobery" money as you so imply
My parents worked hard (blue collar) and saved even harder since the day they arrived in the US
My parents do not want to see their hard earn money be taken from their only son (which by the way, they too suspect the same)
My mom is being asked by my brother for the money and she wants to give it to HIM and only him. They are european with a language barrier (oopps is that being prejudice???) so I have to come to these boards/forums to ask questions, which in the end become entertaining.
When I had to make a move for personal reasons, I uprooted and lived in the Poconos myself. I actually know a handful of people that have lived there and are quite lovely.
I no longer live there.. that was my choice.
So, with all of the above being said... I'm not a snob, don't run the world ... i don't have all this money you claim that i have (it would be nice though
I have morals and integrity..I'm very likeable.. you just don't have the pleasure of knowing me... I have nothing to be jealous over.. i wake up every morning, i'm thankful for lots of things....

So now you probably have a reason not to like me.. oh well! no loss!

Px Hx. OP is in a bad marrage...perhaps that is why she is so bitter.

 

[nalnk]

Px Hx. OP is in a bad marrage...perhaps that is why she is so bitter.

Hey Blue Meanie... the OP..that would be me... is in a wonderful marriage. My husband and I got married later in life and came into this union with assets. It's just being smart/wise/educated... whatever you want to call it... we are protecting our assets.. we don't squable over it... No marriage is perfect and we went into it with our eyes open. We're in our 50's... a little wiser!

and for the record, I'm not bitter... maybe you are ha!

Why is it that when i post something on a message board here, all of you have nothing but nasty comments... maybe you are all the ones that are angry, bitter, etc.. given all the time you have to spend here going thru everyone's concerns/questions etc.

 

[Eekamouse]

I'd venture to guess that your SIL doesn't like you or your parents much.

 

[Zigner]

Hey Blue Meanie... the OP..that would be me... is in a wonderful marriage.

From your June 19 thread (https://forum.freeadvice.com/divorce-separation-annulment-36/bank-accounts-606856.html) (Emphasis mine):

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? NJ

Husband always threatens divorce..... We have separate bank accounts and some joint accounts. He has a good job and wears a uniform, I have a good job as an executive assistant to the chairman of the company I work for. I work in New York City. I dress up for work. I spend a decent amount of my $ in clothing and accessories, shoes, etc.

Since he wears a uniform, he saves a bit more than I do but I put a fair amount of money away as well. I have a bit more in my 401K plan but he has more in his savings account.

This morning, in one of his mental meltdowns, he said he was going to hide his money that's in his saving account so that I don't go after it to take 1/2. Just a tidbit of information ...he co-mingled his pre marital $ with the money that he is earning during our marriage which is a big no-no on his part.. (he doesn't know that what he did, was a big mistake). Since I make more than he does, technically he can come after me for alimony. Since he co-mingled assets, I could go after his bank account and get 1/2....

So, what happens if he hides his $ ????

 

[nalnk]

From your June 19 thread (https://forum.freeadvice.com/divorce-separation-annulment-36/bank-accounts-606856.html) (Emphasis mine):

Wow... you have alot of free time on your hands...

Has it occurred to you that things have turned around for me.. You really think alot of yourself to post something like that... what are you out to prove?