Visitation schedule & cell phone numbers

[casa]

What is the name of your state? MD

Two items......

My ex and I agreed to a visitation schedule. My ex followed it for a few months and has blown it off since August. What should I do about this? Is this a contempt of court issue? Or, should I just not bother to do anything about it?

My ex wants my kids cell phone numbers. I'm the CP and bought the cell phones for my teen age sons and the numbers are in my name. I view them as personal property as I wouldn't just give the numbers out to just any one.
Can I be made to give these numbers over. Or, is this just a stupid thing make an issue of?

Thanks.

Did you and the X agree to this visitation schedule between yourselves, or did you file in court and establish it as a court order for visitation/custody? If it's court ordered, he would only face contempt if he failed to return the children at the ordered time. If he isn't showing up for visitation~ there's nothing you can do about that. Visitation is a Right, not an obligation.

Why wouldn't you want the father to be able to call his sons? Give Dad the #.

 

[PickleZ]

The visitation is court ordered. I was curious if the ex was violating anything by not see the kids as agreed. I guess the ex is in the clear on that one.

I know it's not a big issue with the cell phones.... I just don't feel like I should be forced to hand them over.

 

[casa]

The visitation is court ordered. I was curious if the ex was violating anything by not see the kids as agreed. I guess the ex is in the clear on that one.

I know it's not a big issue with the cell phones.... I just don't feel like I should be forced to hand them over.

Then the only time he'd be in contempt is if he refused to return them (or some other specific language which he was not adhering to). But failure to show up- though irritating- is not contempt.

I don't think teen sons will be spending a costly amount of time on their cellphones with Dad. It's more likely they'll run up the bill with their friends, girls and text msgs.

 

[stealth2]

I know it's not a big issue with the cell phones.... I just don't feel like I should be forced to hand them over.

Petty. Grow up.

 

[nextwife]

So what do you want as an alternative? He ALSO gets them cel phones, so they have to carry TWO phones, one to talk to Dad, and one to talk to Mom?

 

[betterthanher]

My ex wants my kids cell phone numbers. I'm the CP and bought the cell phones for my teen age sons and the numbers are in my name. I view them as personal property as I wouldn't just give the numbers out to just any one.

The cell numbers are not YOUR property. Since they are for the children -- and they are teenagers -- then it should be up to THEM as to whether or not they wish to give THEIR numbers to dad. Leave it up to them.

Or, is this just a stupid thing make an issue of?

Yes.

 

[dannysmyboy]

The visitation is court ordered. I was curious if the ex was violating anything by not see the kids as agreed. I guess the ex is in the clear on that one.

I know it's not a big issue with the cell phones.... I just don't feel like I should be forced to hand them over.

My husband had to get his children cell phones, because the mother would not answer the phone at home or answer her cell phone when he called to talk to her about the kids or to talk to the kids in general. A lot of parents, play this "control" game constantly.

Our stress level has definitely decreased since his kids got the phones.

 

[OverwhelmedinNC]

I agree with the one poster that said that visitation is a Right, not and obligation, so therefore there is nothing you can do on that end.

As far as the cell phones go - you're in the wrong on that one. They're not your personal property, they're cell phones for Pete's sake. Give the Dad the cell phone numbers. I don't understand why you wouldn't want him to be able to contact his children, at least he's trying.

 

[LdiJ]

I agree with the one poster that said that visitation is a Right, not and obligation, so therefore there is nothing you can do on that end.

As far as the cell phones go - you're in the wrong on that one. They're not your personal property, they're cell phones for Pete's sake. Give the Dad the cell phone numbers. I don't understand why you wouldn't want him to be able to contact his children, at least he's trying.

Please don't revive threads that are almost 10 years old.

 

[OverwhelmedinNC]

Please don't revive threads that are almost 10 years old.

showed up at the bottom of my screen like it was new. Sorry.

 

[Zigner]

I agree with the one poster that said that visitation is a Right, not and obligation, so therefore there is nothing you can do on that end.

As far as the cell phones go - you're in the wrong on that one. They're not your personal property, they're cell phones for Pete's sake. Give the Dad the cell phone numbers. I don't understand why you wouldn't want him to be able to contact his children, at least he's trying.

(I understand this is an old thread - I'm using it as a teaching moment for the new member)

Why do you assume that the NCP is dad? The OP was careful to remain gender/role neutral.

 

[CJane]

(I understand this is an old thread - I'm using it as a teaching moment for the new member)

Why do you assume that the NCP is dad? The OP was careful to remain gender/role neutral.

But it appears that every respondent assumed that OP was Mom.

 

[Zigner]

But it appears that every respondent assumed that OP was Mom.

Two of them did - and they don't seem to be active members any longer.