I fail to see how refusing to go along with every random whim my ex has makes me a bad parent.
I intend to follow our court order, which does not require me to pay for plane tickets or put her on an airplane in lieu of him picking her up.
I'm willing to take her to the airport for his court ordered parenting time if he purchases a round trip ticket for the correct dates. That's far beyond what it appears I'm legally required to do.
Hell, a few months ago I showed up to his previous show cause hearing, and stated that the court should be aware of what an active parent he is.
That clearly worked out well.
The reality of things is that your first post on this thread (which is why I called you a poor communicator) really came off badly and that is what started the round of you being a bad co-parent.
You got answers that basically said that you both HAD to stick to the exact court orders (pick up the child from dad) but were a horrible parent if you didn't violate the orders by giving dad everything he wanted. That of course is contradictory and not true. Its also certainly not what dad would have been told if he was the one posting here.
HOWEVER...I cannot disagree with what anyone else had to say about the phone calls. Once a day is not excessive, AT ALL. What's more, denying phone contact could be the ONE thing that would get your butt handed to you in court. On top of that, even if the phone calls actually kept on being once a day they would end up being short phone calls because dad and daughter would run out of things to talk about for longer than a few minutes so its utterly silly to even make phones calls an issue.
In fact, for your daughter's sake you should encourage skyping (I don't think I spelled that right) when its possible. I don't have a smart phone so I don't know if skyping is possible from a smart phone and dad may not have internet capability for a while.
I personally have some sympathy for your poor communication because you were obviously blindsided by dad's dropping by on his way out of town, with no warning and knowing he was skipping out on a bench warrant...AND his making almost ridiculous demands about visitation.
Nevertheless, take a big deep breath, think about what is truly best for your child, weighing in all the factors, and then proceed from there.
However, my advice is that you do NOT put her on a plane, round trip ticket or not, unless you provide her with both a cell phone AND have received an address from dad that you have verified is real...because after all, dad IS skipping out on a warrant.