Boy hides in girls bathroom and pulls up my daughters dress

[davislee]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Georgia
My daughter is enrolled in an afterschool program that sublets the space from the school she attends. A boy that is in the same program hid in the girls bathroom and while she was in there washing her hands he came up behind her and pulled her dress up. She pushed him away and ran out. She told the director who went to look for the boy. They couldn't find him. A little later someone (still not sure who because of conflicting stories) found him still hiding in the girls bathroom standing on the toilet with the door closed. The director said that prior to the incident the boy had been signed out by his grandmother who was in a meeting with someone in the school office at the time that it happened. They said that he must have come back in and then hid in the bathroom. I still have not received a report from them. Every day I was told that I would get one, but for some reason they keep brushing it off. We filed a police report the day of the incident. Who should be held accountable and what should we do with the boy?

 

[Ohiogal]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Georgia
My daughter is enrolled in an afterschool program that sublets the space from the school she attends. A boy that is in the same program hid in the girls bathroom and while she was in there washing her hands he came up behind her and pulled her dress up. She pushed him away and ran out. She told the director who went to look for the boy. They couldn't find him. A little later someone (still not sure who because of conflicting stories) found him still hiding in the girls bathroom standing on the toilet with the door closed. The director said that prior to the incident the boy had been signed out by his grandmother who was in a meeting with someone in the school office at the time that it happened. They said that he must have come back in and then hid in the bathroom. I still have not received a report from them. Every day I was told that I would get one, but for some reason they keep brushing it off. We filed a police report the day of the incident. Who should be held accountable and what should we do with the boy?

How old is the boy? How old is your daughter?

 

[CdwJava]

The age of the children involved will make a LOT of difference here. Chances are this will not be able to be handled as a crime, unless we are talking children in their teens - and even then, the action may not be a crime absent some other facts (I am not familiar with GA law, so I cannot say for sure if it would be crime if they were of sufficient age).

The school may be able to address the issue, but if they do, do not expect to get any report from them as dealings with juveniles tend to be entirely confidential matters as a matter of law. You may get little more than a curt statement that the matter is being addressed.

 

[stealth2]

I can only tell you what I'd do (and did) - teach the girl to throw a good, strong punch to the nose. And tell the teacher/admins that she will defend herself if it happens again. I can almost guarantee that he will not mess with your kid again.

My daughter had a boy (T) bugging her - hitting, pushing, etc. - and nothing useful was done. I told her to tell him she would warn him three times to stop. On the fourth? She'd punch him in the nose. I heard "Oh, Mommy! Miss ABC will put me in time out!" Oh heck no she won't. I told Miss ABC the deal, as well as Miss ABC's boss. One day, while picking her up, I was stopped and told (very seriously) that Mrs. XYZ wanted to speak with me. Uh oh... The conversation went as follows:

XYZ: Mrs Stealth. Your daughter punched T today.

me: Oh. What did he do to precipitate that?

XYZ: He pushed her. Repeatedly. She did tell him three times to stop.

me: Well.... I told you this would happen. So where is (daughter)?

XYZ: In her classroom.

me: Huh. And T?

XYZ: In time out, while we wait for his parents. We are very proud of (daughter) for standing up for herself and the other girls. She is not in trouble.

She was all of 4. And I can tell you - she has not had a problem since. The only "negative"? She scares a lot of "boys". Luckily, there is the one young man....

Empower your daughter. Teach her to protect herself. It will serve her well.

 

[Just Blue]

I can only tell you what I'd do (and did) - teach the girl to throw a good, strong punch to the nose. And tell the teacher/admins that she will defend herself if it happens again. I can almost guarantee that he will not mess with your kid again.

My daughter had a boy (T) bugging her - hitting, pushing, etc. - and nothing useful was done. I told her to tell him she would warn him three times to stop. On the fourth? She'd punch him in the nose. I heard "Oh, Mommy! Miss ABC will put me in time out!" Oh heck no she won't. I told Miss ABC the deal, as well as Miss ABC's boss. One day, while picking her up, I was stopped and told (very seriously) that Mrs. XYZ wanted to speak with me. Uh oh... The conversation went as follows:

XYZ: Mrs Stealth. Your daughter punched T today.

me: Oh. What did he do to precipitate that?

XYZ: He pushed her. Repeatedly. She did tell him three times to stop.

me: Well.... I told you this would happen. So where is (daughter)?

XYZ: In her classroom.

me: Huh. And T?

XYZ: In time out, while we wait for his parents. We are very proud of (daughter) for standing up for herself and the other girls. She is not in trouble.

She was all of 4. And I can tell you - she has not had a problem since. The only "negative"? She scares a lot of "boys". Luckily, there is the one young man....

Empower your daughter. Teach her to protect herself. It will serve her well.

What my Eldest was in 7th grade a bully would whip a dodge ball at her in gym. Got her in the face and chest and bottom...this happened several times. Eldest didn't want to "tattle" ...but it bothered her. I told her to ask bully boy : "Are you trying to compensate for a small penis?"

She did. He never bothered her again...neither did any other bully boy.

Not my best parenting moment...but it was effective!

 

[LdiJ]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Georgia
My daughter is enrolled in an afterschool program that sublets the space from the school she attends. A boy that is in the same program hid in the girls bathroom and while she was in there washing her hands he came up behind her and pulled her dress up. She pushed him away and ran out. She told the director who went to look for the boy. They couldn't find him. A little later someone (still not sure who because of conflicting stories) found him still hiding in the girls bathroom standing on the toilet with the door closed. The director said that prior to the incident the boy had been signed out by his grandmother who was in a meeting with someone in the school office at the time that it happened. They said that he must have come back in and then hid in the bathroom. I still have not received a report from them. Every day I was told that I would get one, but for some reason they keep brushing it off. We filed a police report the day of the incident. Who should be held accountable and what should we do with the boy?

I really want to know how old these children are before I comment on anything.

 

[CdwJava]

Being that it is an after school program, I think it is safe to say that the children in question are LIKELY between 1st and 6th grade, but could be as high as 8th grade. Given the nature of the behavior, I am thinking the actors are between 1st through 4th (roughly 6-10 years old) ... with 4th being a stretch.