tranquility
Senior Member
I was not a cop for long, but one of my "training advisers" always talked to himself out loud as we were driving. Do you know what he said? He said the names of people he knew as he saw them. Even though he had been a cop in the city for decades, he still wanted to remember the names of those he came in contact with. This may surprise you, but, cops tend to come in contact with people who are related to a breaking of the law. Good ones remember those people. While a person who has never had contact with those who think the law is a suggestion rather than a rule may break the law, I might suggest they are statistically less likely to be a legal problem than those who hang out with those who have a...great sense of self entitlement.The whole boyfriend issue is beyond petty to me, but it somehow comes into every interaction. I would have easily dropped that issue the day he walked out but it's another story when I'm at the pharmacy with my baby inside Stop & Shop.... Or getting coffee... and an officer randomly approaches, with questions about him. I'm just not one to beat a dead horse for 4 months but some people do.
You hung out with a criminal. From your post, it seems he is gone now. But, you hung out with him. You are associated with him in the cops' minds. As long as they follow the law, you have no argument. Over time, if you don't have the indicia of one who violates the law and don't hang out with hooligans any longer, perhaps they will tire of saying your name as they see you. That might take time.