Leaving husband with 2/3 kids. Legal implications?

[RRevak]

Ok i'm hijacking the heck outta this thread:

As someone who was *actually* abused, i'm astounded and appalled at how many women (and men) these days are suddenly claiming "abuse" whenever it comes time to leave their significant others. Is it that men (and some women) are turning out to all be mindless beating beasts or does the "abuse" card now carry enough weight in the courts as to be a viable means of shifting views to a particular side? Someone please tell me why this is such a "thing" now?

 

[Ohiogal]

Ok i'm hijacking the heck outta this thread:

As someone who was *actually* abused, i'm astounded and appalled at how many women (and men) these days are suddenly claiming "abuse" whenever it comes time to leave their significant others. Is it that men (and some women) are turning out to all be mindless beating beasts or does the "abuse" card now carry enough weight in the courts as to be a viable means of shifting views to a particular side? Someone please tell me why this is such a "thing" now?

it has become a ploy to manipulate the system in this way in order to get sole possession of the marital residence, a restraining order for custody of the children and whatever else. In some places, just a claim that someone is afraid is enough to get an ex parte order.

 

[RRevak]

it has become a ploy to manipulate the system in this way in order to get sole possession of the marital residence, a restraining order for custody of the children and whatever else. In some places, just a claim that someone is afraid is enough to get an ex parte order.

I don't have words. I truly don't. Does there even need to be proof (police reports, witness statements, ANYthing)!? Or has it all really been reduced to "my husband said boo and now i'm in fear for my life" equaling parent is kicked in the pants and other parent trots off into the sunset with kids, home, and a winning smile

 

[LdiJ]

I don't have words. I truly don't. Does there even need to be proof (police reports, witness statements, ANYthing)!? Or has it all really been reduced to "my husband said boo and now i'm in fear for my life" equaling parent is kicked in the pants and other parent trots off into the sunset with kids, home, and a winning smile

Ex parte orders are basically temporary orders...and its easy to get a temporary order pretty much everywhere because the judges would prefer to err on the side of caution. However, lots of temporary orders never become permanent once the full hearing is held on the matter.

 

[RRevak]

I don't want him blowing up my phone with all of the manipulative, vengeful, abusive crap he always blows my phone up with. Name calling, threats. I'm tired of plain being harassed. No, it's not that he cares, sorry. That's not it at all. He's a control freak, and that's the bottom line. Trolls...

OP I was beaten, threatened with a car accident, manipulated into backing away from family and friends out of fear of what ex would do when angered, was nearly fired from 2 jobs because of the antics of my ex, and that isn't even the tip of the iceberg. THAT is abuse! If "blowing up your phone" is what you're considering telling the court is "abuse" because you're leaving him for another man after being an adulteress then you are a sick and sad individual and I spit in your general direction

I'm truly hoping dad ends up with the kids you're clearly not fit to raise.

 

[Silverplum]

Previous thread: https://forum.freeadvice.com/child-custody-visitation-37/forced-leave-without-child-610618.html

 

[stealth2]

Last time I checked, I didn't ask for opinions.

They're free with our service,

I've done everything I can for the ten year old. Problem is the man I'm married to. Everything I do, he undoes within two days when it comes to her which renders everything I've done absolutely useless. I'm at a point where I just plain give up. I'm tired of fighting a losing battle, the same one I've been fighting for ten damn years or more. She is in counseling, she has been in counseling.

Has it occurred to you that she may be acting out based on the example you have set for her? Between your affair (kids are more perceptive than many realize), your leaving and returning, putting up with verbal/emotional abuse, etc... She has gotten a very clear picture how people - especially women/girls - are to be treated. So, frankly, leaving her behind really would not paint you in a good light. And..... leaving her with Dad will tell the court that you consider him to be a fit and able father. Make no mistake - your husband is LEGALLY the father of all three kids, unless you have had paternity of another man established.

 

[RRevak]

Ex parte orders are basically temporary orders...and its easy to get a temporary order pretty much everywhere because the judges would prefer to err on the side of caution. However, lots of temporary orders never become permanent once the full hearing is held on the matter.

That at least makes me feel a bit better but still, i'm ill thinking about how easily the "abuse" card is thrown around these days. If some of these people knew what real abuse was like....*sigh*

 

[RRevak]

Previous thread: https://forum.freeadvice.com/child-custody-visitation-37/forced-leave-without-child-610618.html

Wow. I wonder if the new baby is from the same man she had the 1.5 yr old with or if this is a new man/new baby she's leaving her husband for? What tangled webs we weave when we first learn to deceive.....

 

[not2cleverRed]

I don't have words. I truly don't. Does there even need to be proof (police reports, witness statements, ANYthing)!? Or has it all really been reduced to "my husband said boo and now i'm in fear for my life" equaling parent is kicked in the pants and other parent trots off into the sunset with kids, home, and a winning smile

I think, for some people it's really, "I'm not happy because the world doesn't revolve around me, so this person must be abusive".

But I think that attitude doesn't actually get you very far in court.

 

[stealth2]

Wow. I wonder if the new baby is from the same man she had the 1.5 yr old with or if this is a new man/new baby she's leaving her husband for? What tangled webs we weave when we first learn to deceive.....

and I bet 10yo knows more than Momma thinks...

 

[RRevak]

and I bet 10yo knows more than Momma thinks...

Sadly they often do. No wonder the poor kiddo is acting out and its only a matter of time till the others follow suit. What a sad situation for those poor kids.