um, it was a slap...
The system is majorly overreacting to ...a slap.
Our mental status has been getting MUCH worse not better...However...I have a better plea to try.
less than a month in jail, no contact dropped with the stipulation that she gets into a facility for mental help, while she does that, we can get couples counseling and family counseling and actually make a difference.
My Son and I and her have been negatively affected much MUCH worse because of their "rules"...and all they can say is "get a counselor" I have been there and done that, a counselor does not remove the pain of not having your mother and your wife of over 13 years in your life.
My *legal* advice is that you do your best to satisfy any instructions to get counseling.
Realize that you are limited to what *you* can do - you have no control over what your wife chooses to do at this point, since without any contact you cannot even suggest anything to her.
Even if you think the counseling is a bunch of hooey, show up and participate to the best of your ability. Do everything you can to show that you are taking this seriously, attempting to be the best parent possible, and open to constructive suggestions. Dwelling on your depression won't help your son.
I would give similar advice to your wife, were she here, with the added advice to swallow her pride, and do what is asked of her to go forward and potentially reunify her family. If your wife let's her pride dictate her actions, if she is unwilling to do any and everything stipulated in order for the *chance* to be reunited with her child (notice I didn't say "you"), then it's in your son's best interest to *not* be around her unsupervised.
Furthermore, if you want to remain with a woman like that, then your son deserves something better than "REAL" parents.