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It means while you have her you can try to impress your beliefs and feelings about religious issues upon her. Your husband does not dictate to you what you are and are not allowed to say or where you are allowed to take her, or what you are to expose her to during your time with her.
While he has her, he is free to teach her about and freely practice his religion with her in tow. He is not required to fail to mention anything about his religion simply because mommy doesn't approve of the fact that they may believe all others should believe as they do, eternal rewards/eternal punishment sort of thing.
Fifty fifty. That is time and and religious ideas. Frankly, it sounds to me like you with all your over-discussing and analyzing about whether your husband is allowed to teach your child this and that sounds much more obsessive and disruptive than what they are doing. Not to mention all those little discussions you are having with her about whether she "truly believes" what they are teaching her in dad's church or "really wants" to go to church with them. I can't imagine anything more anxiety producing than having to lie to her mother about how she feels and then also having to lie to her father about how she feels concerning such a sensitive and personal topic. Why not make your home a healthy, functional religion free zone? Instead of beating this horse to death at every turn, show her the example of you, with a working sound system of beliefs or non beliefs that brings happiness and order to your life.
While he has her, he is free to teach her about and freely practice his religion with her in tow. He is not required to fail to mention anything about his religion simply because mommy doesn't approve of the fact that they may believe all others should believe as they do, eternal rewards/eternal punishment sort of thing.
Fifty fifty. That is time and and religious ideas. Frankly, it sounds to me like you with all your over-discussing and analyzing about whether your husband is allowed to teach your child this and that sounds much more obsessive and disruptive than what they are doing. Not to mention all those little discussions you are having with her about whether she "truly believes" what they are teaching her in dad's church or "really wants" to go to church with them. I can't imagine anything more anxiety producing than having to lie to her mother about how she feels and then also having to lie to her father about how she feels concerning such a sensitive and personal topic. Why not make your home a healthy, functional religion free zone? Instead of beating this horse to death at every turn, show her the example of you, with a working sound system of beliefs or non beliefs that brings happiness and order to your life.