In the first place I didn't use the word "whining" I wrote "whimpering"! But take your choice; one is as descriptive of your disagreeable, disputatious and nitpicking attitude as the other.Please tell me what I didn't understand. I was told substituted service isn't a thing, that it's called personal service. And at least in New York, that's not true. I was told that someone merely has to be present at your home to accept service on your behalf, when that's not true either (first link on substituted service New York in Google). I was advised to stop whining and get a copy of the affidavit of service and court documents, when my initial post makes clear I already had that affidavit. (I am in possession of other documents, as well, including the proposal of default judgment, which was accepted by the clerk.)
Multiple posters have told me I don't know what I'm doing and have it all wrong. And fine. Please. I'd love to know that. That's why I'm here. But instead of just being flippant and unhelpful, maybe point me to something that shows I'm wrong? In any case? Not one answer to the question I asked? Aren't lawyers supposed to be about evidence and walking you through and proving a case? Nothing here but empty suggestions that I don't know what I'm talking about, that I'll mess everything up, accompanied by inaccuracies.
I thought this was a forum for legal advice. And it seems like the only advice anyone's willing to offer is "consult a lawyer." It's a pretty poor showing if you all are actually lawyers.
Now if you will shut up for a minute I will explain where you are in error in confusing personal service of process in conformity with Rule 308 of New York's Civil Practice Laws and Rules with substituted service.
The Rule states (now try to stay with me - I know it is difficult for you) that PERSONAL SERVICE upon a natural person can be achieved by either:
(1) Delivering the summons within the state to the person to be served; or
(2) Delivering the summons within the state to a person of suitable age and discretion at the actual place of business of the person to be served or the usual place of abode of the person to be served. (Followed by mailing a copy of the summons by first class mail to the person to be served, etc., etc., )
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Now where you make you bloomer (which you can't seem to dislodge from your craw) is that service upon an individual of suitable age and discretion at either the place of business of the person to be served or the usual place of abode of said person to be served IS NOT SUBSTITUTED SERVICE! IT IS AN ALTERANTIVE TO PERSONAL SERVICE!
Which is precisely what FlyingRon was attempting to explain.
Some day you just might be blessed with the knowledge that the opposite of talking is not waiting. IT IS LISTENING!