What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? North Carolina
I am 16 years old ( 17 in 2 months ) & I want to leave home. I've been having family problems for the past year after my mom went through my phone and found out I had lost my virginity a couple years before. Now sex hasn't been a big topic in my household it's not like we are very religious, there weren't strict rules against it so I didn't think it would be such a big deal. I understand her distress to the situation mostly she is angry just because I didn't tell her. I don't confide in my mother because I don't trust her, just like most families she tells all my business to the other family members but besides that she is constantly telling me how she doesn't trust me, how I'm "busted, disgusted, & cant be trusted", and how I'm her "problem child". After she found out we got in a huge fight and she choked me and tried to beat me in the head with a wooden brush. She tore all my clothes out the closet ( which I bought with money from my job ) and even my underwear and tried to take it. She is constantly bashing me about how I do in school yet doesn't care about my schoolwork. She will take my computer and prohibit me from going to the library as punishment even when I tell her I have deadlines ( I am an AP/IB student so the teachers are very serious and don't believe me when I tell them ). When I tell her I have schoolwork to do she just says "I don't care". She has an physically and mentally abusive girlfriend and has had to call the police on her, get in her car and drive around the house to get away from her, she has called my siblings and I into her room just to stop her from hitting her. We've discussed it and yet they are still together, her excuse is that her girlfriend never did anything to us ( us being my siblings and I ). My mom has threatened me to punch me in the face just about an hour ago she said " I am going to ball up my fist and punch you right in your face" all because yesterday I made my little brother fix my sister a slice of pizza for dinner. I was doing homework and my mom was at work and my little sister wanted dinner so I told her to tell my little brother ( who is 12 ) and he didn't want to just because he wanted to stay in his room, I got up and pulled him out of his room to the kitchen. I didn't hit him I just pulled him out, he started pushing me so I pushed back then he pulled a knife on me and my mother just said I don't know what he's capable of so I shouldn't have done that. My point is I'm tired of the verbal abuse and the threats and the fear of her girlfriend and the physical altercations I'm much smaller than her yet she tries to fight me like I'm a girl on the street and gets mad when I defend myself. I really want to leave home I'm not comfortable here I'm scared here and I don't know if I'm being dramatic or is this a legit reason to leave home. I know I'll be welcomed back but I've been depressed and even have continuous thoughts of leaving school. I've had thoughts of killing myself which I NEVER think is the solution. The second I leave the house it's like a weight has been lifted off me I feel so happy I feel like a new me and the second I step in its like depression has settled in. It's not a sad feeling more like an empty feeling I feel like my insides are gone. Should I stay and try to push through? Or should I leave? Where can I go? I have no family in my city, and I don't want to mess up school because I want to go to college. Help
I am 16 years old ( 17 in 2 months ) & I want to leave home. I've been having family problems for the past year after my mom went through my phone and found out I had lost my virginity a couple years before. Now sex hasn't been a big topic in my household it's not like we are very religious, there weren't strict rules against it so I didn't think it would be such a big deal. I understand her distress to the situation mostly she is angry just because I didn't tell her. I don't confide in my mother because I don't trust her, just like most families she tells all my business to the other family members but besides that she is constantly telling me how she doesn't trust me, how I'm "busted, disgusted, & cant be trusted", and how I'm her "problem child". After she found out we got in a huge fight and she choked me and tried to beat me in the head with a wooden brush. She tore all my clothes out the closet ( which I bought with money from my job ) and even my underwear and tried to take it. She is constantly bashing me about how I do in school yet doesn't care about my schoolwork. She will take my computer and prohibit me from going to the library as punishment even when I tell her I have deadlines ( I am an AP/IB student so the teachers are very serious and don't believe me when I tell them ). When I tell her I have schoolwork to do she just says "I don't care". She has an physically and mentally abusive girlfriend and has had to call the police on her, get in her car and drive around the house to get away from her, she has called my siblings and I into her room just to stop her from hitting her. We've discussed it and yet they are still together, her excuse is that her girlfriend never did anything to us ( us being my siblings and I ). My mom has threatened me to punch me in the face just about an hour ago she said " I am going to ball up my fist and punch you right in your face" all because yesterday I made my little brother fix my sister a slice of pizza for dinner. I was doing homework and my mom was at work and my little sister wanted dinner so I told her to tell my little brother ( who is 12 ) and he didn't want to just because he wanted to stay in his room, I got up and pulled him out of his room to the kitchen. I didn't hit him I just pulled him out, he started pushing me so I pushed back then he pulled a knife on me and my mother just said I don't know what he's capable of so I shouldn't have done that. My point is I'm tired of the verbal abuse and the threats and the fear of her girlfriend and the physical altercations I'm much smaller than her yet she tries to fight me like I'm a girl on the street and gets mad when I defend myself. I really want to leave home I'm not comfortable here I'm scared here and I don't know if I'm being dramatic or is this a legit reason to leave home. I know I'll be welcomed back but I've been depressed and even have continuous thoughts of leaving school. I've had thoughts of killing myself which I NEVER think is the solution. The second I leave the house it's like a weight has been lifted off me I feel so happy I feel like a new me and the second I step in its like depression has settled in. It's not a sad feeling more like an empty feeling I feel like my insides are gone. Should I stay and try to push through? Or should I leave? Where can I go? I have no family in my city, and I don't want to mess up school because I want to go to college. Help
