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Ignorantwithlaw

Junior Member
California...My husband has been told (by his mother) his entire life that his father wanted nothing to do with him. In 2012, my husband was 33 years old and had never seen his father. My mother and father in law asked my husband if he would allow his step father to appt him. Since we had been married for over 10 years, I had to also sign consent. Before I signed anything, I asked about his biological father. My MIL proceed to tell my husband and I that his Bio had passed away in 2003. I told them I needed to speak with my husband and that if I was going to sign consent, it would be the following day. Later that evening, my husband told me he wanted to be adopted but that he was devastated by not ever meeting his biological father. Somehow, they had a court date finalizing the adoption almost immediately. A few days later, I I overheard my MIL say "... He may as well have died, he doesn't know his son.". I got a cringe worthy feeling deep in my heart that my husband's Biological father is still alive. I spent the last 4 1/2 years searching for my husband's Biological father and brother.

Guess what!!!! Found him alive!!! Found him less than 90 miles away.

My husband feels such betrayal and he wants to go back to his old name.

What can he do if anything?
 
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Just Blue

Senior Member
California...My husband has been told (by his mother) his entire life that his father wanted nothing to do with him. In 2012, my husband was 33 years old and had never seen his father. My mother and father in law asked my husband if he would allow his step father to appt him. Since we had been married for over 10 years, I had to also sign consent. Before I signed anything, I asked about his biological father. My MIL proceed to tell my husband and I that his Bio had passed away in 2003. I told them I needed to speak with my husband and that if I was going to sign consent, it would be the following day. Later that evening, my husband told me he wanted to be adopted but that he was devastated by not ever meeting his biological father. Somehow, they had a court date finalizing the adoption almost immediately. A few days later, I I overheard my MIL say "... He may as well have died, he doesn't know his son.". I got a cringe worthy feeling deep in my heart that my husband's Biological father is still alive. I spent the last 4 1/2 years searching for my husband's Biological father and brother.

Guess what!!!! Found him alive!!! Found him less than 90 miles away.

My husband feels such betrayal and he wants to go back to his old name.

What can he do if anything?

Somehow I doubt your "had to consent" to this adoption. You may have had to consent to your name change....but that is not the same.
 

justalayman

Senior Member
Your husband can go back to his old name anytime he chooses. A name change is a simple process.

Truth be told he never had to change his name to start with.
 

justalayman

Senior Member
So op is now married to her own brother?


And did the adoption severe the mother's legal relationship or does California allow a single parent adoption while leaving 1/2 of the existing parents to retain their status?
 

CTU

Meddlesome Priestess
Flipping strange and bizarre...But I stand corrected. Wow... sorry OP for my other post.

Thank You CTU for the info...
I thought the exact same thing as you!

I've thought about it since then and in a way it does make sense.

Now I'm compelled to search other states just to see :D
 

LdiJ

Senior Member
California...My husband has been told (by his mother) his entire life that his father wanted nothing to do with him. In 2012, my husband was 33 years old and had never seen his father. My mother and father in law asked my husband if he would allow his step father to appt him. Since we had been married for over 10 years, I had to also sign consent. Before I signed anything, I asked about his biological father. My MIL proceed to tell my husband and I that his Bio had passed away in 2003. I told them I needed to speak with my husband and that if I was going to sign consent, it would be the following day. Later that evening, my husband told me he wanted to be adopted but that he was devastated by not ever meeting his biological father. Somehow, they had a court date finalizing the adoption almost immediately. A few days later, I I overheard my MIL say "... He may as well have died, he doesn't know his son.". I got a cringe worthy feeling deep in my heart that my husband's Biological father is still alive. I spent the last 4 1/2 years searching for my husband's Biological father and brother.

Guess what!!!! Found him alive!!! Found him less than 90 miles away.

My husband feels such betrayal and he wants to go back to his old name.

What can he do if anything?
I truly do not know why his mother and stepfather even felt the need to do the adult adoption at this point in time. It seems a bit odd. The only person to benefit from this is your husband, as he now has some inheritance rights in an intestate situation since he is now legally your husband's father.

Your husband is free to change his last name. He does not need anyone's permission to do so. He is also free to reach out to his biological father and brother.
 

justalayman

Senior Member
Umm NO! He was adopted by his step dad...not mine.


My mother and father in law asked my husband if he would allow his step father to appt him.
Why would your mother be involved?

If you meant your mother in law, then to be less confusing you might write;

My inlaws

My mother in law and father in law


what you wrote refers to your legal mother and your father in law. I wasn't even going
To get into the relationship between your father in law and what would appear to also be your step father based on your statements.
 

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