Treatment by probation officers

[jessicadbandy]

I understand that the probation officer has a job to do and I agree if you do what you're suppose to then it will go a lot smoother. My case is not just, "oh she's being too hard on me." I have literally been doing 10x better by not rescheduling, being on time for my appts, having my fees, payment on my fines, and some hours of community service (not always the full 8 hrs but 5-6) and not to mention I just paid up my past due balance $230 technically over paid just 3 weeks ago also $100 on my fines. Because my year is up and I'm not completely done I had to go to court for an extension. The only day they do extensions in court is Thursday so I had to go a day early.I never schedule my appointments on any other day but Friday (payday). I was screamed at because I only had my community service of 3 hrs and didn't have $17 for my $40 monthly fee cuz I overpaid and had a $23 credit and no payment on my fines. I informed her that my husband had to come see his po the very next day and that I would bring both things back since it wass paydayAnd then I'd have everything I suppose to. She went off saying she didn't have time to see me several times a month . She preceded to tell me that I better at my appt and not be late. I apologized again for being late because I didn't have a babysitter and kids aren't allowed in the office. My 15 'yr old had to watch his 3 younger siblings. I said, "where school is out, I dont have anyone that can watch then and she cuts me off and tells me, " The kids will 've in school in a couple weeks so that's no excuse" the she said "it's always something with you" I tried to explain that I meant the couple times I HAVE been late but I couldn't help it I started to cry and tell her how hard of a time I have been having (which she ALREADY KNOWS I have a child just diiagnosed with a disability as well as a brother with a rare blood cancer as well as my mom dying of stage 4 lung cancer both of them on chemo, not to mention I'm raising my four children ) She then told me "I dont want to hear it, I'm not in the mood!" This is not the first or second time I have been straight up treated like I'm some kind of murderer, it is a DUI for Christ's sale! I have been screamed at just for asking if I can get my probation switched to the county I live in. She screamed so loud, my mom as well as others in the waiting room outside heard everything said. That was messing with my privacy. She had made previous bias remarks regarding my medication I was on at the time (Not now). Just today she straight lied to the judge about me saying I only pay about $5 s month and that Is a complete lie. She didn't say anything good. I could really use some advice. This can't be just allowed to go in. How can I get before the judge or request to switch my probation officer to someone else. Please info will help... I just don't know what to do I feel like she has a vendetta against be ava wants to make sure she gets me locked back up. My kids don't deserve to go through that again!!

 

[commentator]

What your son needs to be learning from all this is not what you seem to be determined to show him, that you're going to try to soften the blows and demand that you and he be treated very well and that you have an inherent "right" to demand professionalism and good treatment. As someone once said to a person who was complaining about the way they were treated in a public assistance facility, "If you don't like the service you can just take your business elsewhere!"

The point is, you CAN'T. You're not a customer or a selective consumer. He is at the mercy of this overworked and relatively inefficient system because HE has placed himself here by his own choices. The only way to guarantee that you'll never again be treated this way is to never again get into this situation, this network, this atmosphere. Let him complete what he has to do, without your consistent butting in and "going to bat" for him. If he finds it onerous, then don't try to soften the experience, let him know that it is within his power to avoid a repetition of this situation by his own choices.

In most probation systems, the caseload is spectacularly over reasonable capacity. As someone said, they're continuously being called off their schedules at random times to deal with other things. And don't worry about this particular officer, because within a few weeks, she may up and quit the job, leaving you with a total rookie who's worse. Same if you request and actually get your son re assigned. How do you know this probation officer is the worst he could do? What if your next one knows less about the system, is less forgiving and less concentrated on his case? Are you going to keep requesting changes? How much attention do you think they pay to complaining helicopter parents of juvenile offenders within the system as a whole?

 

[eerelations]

Please note folks that this thread is more than seven years old. OP is long gone. (And her son too. )

 

[quincy]

Please note folks that this thread is more than seven years old. OP is long gone. (And her son too. )

Huh?

The date of posting is today.

The post might have been added to an old thread originally but this appears to be a new thread, either created by jessicadbandy or created for jessicadbandy by the moderator.

The state name needs to be added.

 

[Just Blue]

Huh?

The date of posting is today.

The post might have been added to an old thread originally but this appears to be a new thread, either created by jessicadbandy or created for jessicadbandy by the moderator.

The state name needs to be added.

The OP posted on a 7 year old thread...some of the "follow-up" was reposted here.

 

[quincy]

The OP posted on a 7 year old thread...some of the "follow-up" was reposted here.

Ah. So eerelation's post was a response from the old thread where jessica first posted. Gotcha.