Child Support Keeps Increasing...

[rcrawford855]

So, I'm here in central Ohio with my roommate, who has child support payments that he has to make. Yes, this isn't about me, so there are some details I'll have to ask for.

However, what I do know is that his child support keeps increasing, despite his rate of pay staying the same. It's gotten so bad that we can't pay our bills. It's a struggle to even make rent.... we've been late 3 months in a row, and last time we had to have them cancel an actual eviction that they filed against us. And, what's gotten me to put my foot down and say that we need to seek legal advice is that the child support payments are now claiming far over half of every paycheck, which we were not notified of in advance, and is a drastic increase from what they were taking before. I don't know how I'm going to pay for food or utilities or even my own student loans (I'm in constant fear that they're going to repossess my car, which is just about the last thing they can take from me, at this point).

We have to do something about this, but we have no idea where to start looking or who to ask for help... or even how to go about negotiating of these oppressive child support payments.

We don't even know what's the most relevant information to give right now, so please, just ask us any questions about recent events that may be triggering these increases, or any questions you might need answered to see if we can find a solution to this. Because we can't keep living this way. We can't afford to keep living this way.

 

[Ohiogal]

So, I'm here in central Ohio with my roommate, who has child support payments that he has to make. Yes, this isn't about me, so there are some details I'll have to ask for.

However, what I do know is that his child support keeps increasing, despite his rate of pay staying the same. It's gotten so bad that we can't pay our bills. It's a struggle to even make rent.... we've been late 3 months in a row, and last time we had to have them cancel an actual eviction that they filed against us. And, what's gotten me to put my foot down and say that we need to seek legal advice is that the child support payments are now claiming far over half of every paycheck, which we were not notified of in advance, and is a drastic increase from what they were taking before. I don't know how I'm going to pay for food or utilities or even my own student loans (I'm in constant fear that they're going to repossess my car, which is just about the last thing they can take from me, at this point).

We have to do something about this, but we have no idea where to start looking or who to ask for help... or even how to go about negotiating of these oppressive child support payments.

We don't even know what's the most relevant information to give right now, so please, just ask us any questions about recent events that may be triggering these increases, or any questions you might need answered to see if we can find a solution to this. Because we can't keep living this way. We can't afford to keep living this way.

Your roommate needs to contact CSEA and find out what is going on.

 

[Just Blue]

So, I'm here in central Ohio with my roommate, who has child support payments that he has to make. Yes, this isn't about me, so there are some details I'll have to ask for.

However, what I do know is that his child support keeps increasing, despite his rate of pay staying the same. It's gotten so bad that we can't pay our bills. It's a struggle to even make rent.... we've been late 3 months in a row, and last time we had to have them cancel an actual eviction that they filed against us. And, what's gotten me to put my foot down and say that we need to seek legal advice is that the child support payments are now claiming far over half of every paycheck, which we were not notified of in advance, and is a drastic increase from what they were taking before. I don't know how I'm going to pay for food or utilities or even my own student loans (I'm in constant fear that they're going to repossess my car, which is just about the last thing they can take from me, at this point).

We have to do something about this, but we have no idea where to start looking or who to ask for help... or even how to go about negotiating of these oppressive child support payments.

We don't even know what's the most relevant information to give right now, so please, just ask us any questions about recent events that may be triggering these increases, or any questions you might need answered to see if we can find a solution to this. Because we can't keep living this way. We can't afford to keep living this way.

Are you in a relationship with the "roommate"?

 

[not2cleverRed]

You can get a new roommate.

You can get an additional job, to cover your roommates bills.

You can move to a cheaper place.

Your roommate can contact CSEA to see what is up. Your roommate can look up whether there were some court dates regarding cs modification that he missed.

 

[stealth2]

Your roommate moves.

You move.

Your roommate figures how to support his child.

 

[Zigner]

So, I'm here in central Ohio with my roommate, who has child support payments that he has to make. Yes, this isn't about me, so there are some details I'll have to ask for.

However, what I do know is that his child support keeps increasing, despite his rate of pay staying the same. It's gotten so bad that we can't pay our bills. It's a struggle to even make rent.... we've been late 3 months in a row, and last time we had to have them cancel an actual eviction that they filed against us. And, what's gotten me to put my foot down and say that we need to seek legal advice is that the child support payments are now claiming far over half of every paycheck, which we were not notified of in advance, and is a drastic increase from what they were taking before. I don't know how I'm going to pay for food or utilities or even my own student loans (I'm in constant fear that they're going to repossess my car, which is just about the last thing they can take from me, at this point).

We have to do something about this, but we have no idea where to start looking or who to ask for help... or even how to go about negotiating of these oppressive child support payments.

We don't even know what's the most relevant information to give right now, so please, just ask us any questions about recent events that may be triggering these increases, or any questions you might need answered to see if we can find a solution to this. Because we can't keep living this way. We can't afford to keep living this way.

If the payments are claiming "far over half" of his pay, then that means he's got back support that he's catching up on.

 

[rcrawford855]

Thanks for getting back to me, everyone.

I learned a few things, and have a few more answers now.

To get a quick answer out of the way, No, I am not in a relationship with this roommate. We're just close friends.

It turns out that a few things served to increase the payment this month. Originally, he had told me that his ex had requested more child support, which is technically true. However, what he did not tell me is that he had fallen behind and had to make up the difference. This does change a lot, because, as of posting, I didn't have all of the info because he willfully withheld it from me at first... I was pretty angry about that.

In the end, I guess the mystery is solved, somewhat. Unless anyone knows if there's any recourse for us for when his ex just blatantly asks for more money and gets approved for it? Because that did actually happen, and the payments from here on out, even after whatever is missing is made up for, will still be much greater than they were.

I'm not asking for a way out of it, I'm just asking if there was any way we could make them less crippling.... I mean I'd hate to take legal action on my roommate, but at this rate, he won't be able to pay me back from what I paid extra on the rent until WAY after our lease is up. It will take him literal years to pay me back at the current base rate of his child support, and that's only figuring in half the rent, not including utilities and food. I'd be lying if I said that I'm ok with this situation. I'd be lying if I said this was only for his own good - I also want what he owes me... my patience, even with close friends has limits.

 

[Ohiogal]

Thanks for getting back to me, everyone.

I learned a few things, and have a few more answers now.

To get a quick answer out of the way, No, I am not in a relationship with this roommate. We're just close friends.

It turns out that a few things served to increase the payment this month. Originally, he had told me that his ex had requested more child support, which is technically true. However, what he did not tell me is that he had fallen behind and had to make up the difference. This does change a lot, because, as of posting, I didn't have all of the info because he willfully withheld it from me at first... I was pretty angry about that.

In the end, I guess the mystery is solved, somewhat. Unless anyone knows if there's any recourse for us for when his ex just blatantly asks for more money and gets approved for it? Because that did actually happen, and the payments from here on out, even after whatever is missing is made up for, will still be much greater than they were.

I'm not asking for a way out of it, I'm just asking if there was any way we could make them less crippling.... I mean I'd hate to take legal action on my roommate, but at this rate, he won't be able to pay me back from what I paid extra on the rent until WAY after our lease is up. It will take him literal years to pay me back at the current base rate of his child support, and that's only figuring in half the rent, not including utilities and food. I'd be lying if I said that I'm ok with this situation. I'd be lying if I said this was only for his own good - I also want what he owes me... my patience, even with close friends has limits.

Your roommate would have been notified of any hearings and gone from there. If he didn't attend them and present evidence of his earnings, that is on him.

 

[Zigner]

It turns out that a few things served to increase the payment this month. Originally, he had told me that his ex had requested more child support, which is technically true. However, what he did not tell me is that he had fallen behind and had to make up the difference. This does change a lot, because, as of posting, I didn't have all of the info because he willfully withheld it from me at first... I was pretty angry about that.

This, folks, is why we shouldn't entertain anything beyond very basic questions from non-involved parties.

 

[CTU]

Unless anyone knows if there's any recourse for us for when his ex just blatantly asks for more money and gets approved for it? Because that did actually happen, and the payments from here on out, even after whatever is missing is made up for, will still be much greater than they were.

No, it didn't happen because that's not how this works. That's not how ANY of this works. Unless he and Mom agreed that he would pay below guidelines and Mom has now changed her mind ... which she is, of course, entitled to do.

I'm not asking for a way out of it, I'm just asking if there was any way we could make them less crippling.... I mean I'd hate to take legal action on my roommate, but at this rate, he won't be able to pay me back from what I paid extra on the rent until WAY after our lease is up. It will take him literal years to pay me back at the current base rate of his child support, and that's only figuring in half the rent, not including utilities and food. I'd be lying if I said that I'm ok with this situation. I'd be lying if I said this was only for his own good - I also want what he owes me... my patience, even with close friends has limits.

Did your friend think that his child/ren stopped eating and growing while he wasn't paying child support?

Your friend is a deadbeat. He didn't fall on hard times. He blatantly neglected to support his child ... his blood. Do you seriously think he's going to honor his debt to you?

If he does, he's lower than scum for putting a third party before his children. If he doesn't, it will simply confirm to you that he is, indeed, a deadbeat.

You don't need this type of person in your life.