Power of attorney abuse. What can an outsider do?

[Just Blue]

You could be right. Maybe my brother's information isn't totally accurate. But I have to ask based on what information I'm given. If what he's saying is correct, then I feel that I should get whatever advice I can and then give it to him so he can do something other than feel helpless. If this woman could die, I at least want to be able to provide my brother with some kind of advice instead of just assuming the situation is hopeless.

So why can your brother post for himself for the "child-like" "woman friend"?

 

[LdiJ]

Bottom line...if anyone believes that a vulnerable adult is being exploited by a guardian that person should report the situation to the elder/adult protection agency in their area.

 

[Just Blue]

Bottom line...if anyone believes that a vulnerable adult is being exploited by a guardian that person should report the situation to the elder/adult protection agency in their area.

Agreed!!!

 

[Subjection1]

Yes it does when you are 3rd party and have no FIRST HAND info. If you brother is concerned he could have posted.

Many of us here have posted on someone's behalf and were WRONG to do so. WE learn. Will you?

He doesn't have the knowledge about finding sites like this and asking questions. I do, so I'm trying to help him.

 

[Zigner]

He doesn't have the knowledge about finding sites like this and asking questions. I do, so I'm trying to help him.

You cannot help him properly except to suggest that he contact the appropriate authorities. That is really all there is to it.

 

[Subjection1]

I suspect that what you are calling "PoA" is actually some form of a guardianship, and that is a whole different ball of wax. Please tell your brother that if he suspects some sort of elder abuse, he should contact the authorities.

Thanks! I'll mention this to him and ask him if it's a guardianship situation rather than a POA one. Would a guardianship allow that person to refuse to allow someone a medical procedure?

 

[Zigner]

Thanks! I'll mention this to him and ask him if it's a guardianship situation rather than a POA one. Would a guardianship allow that person to refuse to allow someone a medical procedure?

I'm not even going to comment, because you really don't know what's going on in the first place.

 

[Just Blue]

He doesn't have the knowledge about finding sites like this and asking questions. I do, so I'm trying to help him.

Is he delayed in some way? Why can't you say "Brother...There is really excellent site that may give you guidance!!"

 

[Subjection1]

Is he delayed in some way? Why can't you say "Brother...There is really excellent site that may give you guidance!!"

He's never been clinically diagnosed as being delayed that I know of, but from dealing with him over the years I'd say that he's not exactly "with it" in many ways. It explains why he hangs out with other people who are delayed, like his current lady friend. I've sent him links to websites that explain what he can do and he writes back and tells me that it was just a bunch of legal codes and stuff he doesn't understand, even though there was nothing like that on the site. It was just a very straightforward article. So I learned that the best thing to do is just tell him everything if it's something important enough. If I tell him how to research something, he just argues that he probably wouldn't be able to find out anything anyway. He gives up on things easily.

FWIW, I sent him an email simply telling him that it's most likely a Guardianship issue and not a POA one, and that he should call the IL Adult Protective Services Hotline, and I gave him the phone number for it. That's about all I can do. He'll probably argue with me, saying that they probably won't do anything. He does that all the time. But at least he now has the tools to do what he could do.