Mistress won't stay away from my children

[Stacy75]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Michigan
My husband and I were separated and he was dating his mistress.
He and I have made up and he no longer has anything to do with her*.
This woman continues to be friends with my monster-in-law. Every time my 9 and 10 year old children go visit their grandma the mistress continues to have contact with our kids. My husband and I do not think it is appropriate. Is there anything my husband and I can do legally to keep this woman from seeing our children?

 

[TheGeekess]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Michigan
My husband and I were separated and he was dating his mistress.
He and I have made up and he no longer has anything to do with her*.
This woman continues to be friends with my monster-in-law. Every time my 9 and 10 year old children go visit their grandma the mistress continues to have contact with our kids. My husband and I do not think it is appropriate. Is there anything my husband and I can do legally to keep this woman from seeing our children?

Stop letting the children visit their grandmother.

 

[Stacy75]

Stop letting the children visit their grandmother.

It's not that easy... they love their grandma.

 

[quincy]

It's not that easy... they love their grandma.

Then it appears you have a decision to make. Let your kids visit their grandmother or keep your kids away to help prevent contact with the mistress. You cannot control who the grandmother chooses to be friends with.

 

[Stacy75]

Stop letting the children visit their grandmother.

It's not that easy... they love their grandma.

 

[quincy]

It's not that easy... they love their grandma.

Make a decision. You can control who your children visit but you cannot control who the grandmother sees. Invite the grandmother to your house if you want a mistress-free visit.

This is not a legal matter. It is a parenting issue.

Good luck.

 

[Stacy75]

Make a decision. You can control who your children visit but you cannot control who the grandmother sees. Invite the grandmother to your house if you want a mistress-free visit.

This is not a legal matter. It is a parenting issue.

Good luck.

If a parent asks an adult to discontinue contact with their children and they use the grandma to continue that's legal?
I don't have the right as a parent to keep an obsessive person from contacting my children?
She has been asked to stay away.... it's creepy. I feel like i might find a rabbit boiling on my stove one day!

 

[quincy]

If a parent asks an adult to discontinue contact with their children and they use the grandma to continue that's legal?
I don't have the right as a parent to keep an obsessive person from contacting my children?
She has been asked to stay away.... it's creepy. I feel like i might find a rabbit boiling on my stove one day!

You cannot control who others see. You can control who your children see.

This is not a legal issue. It is a parenting decision.

 

[eerelations]

If a parent asks an adult to discontinue contact with their children and they use the grandma to continue that's legal?
I don't have the right as a parent to keep an obsessive person from contacting my children?
She has been asked to stay away.... it's creepy. I feel like i might find a rabbit boiling on my stove one day!

As you've been told several times, you cannot legally control who Grandma allows to see the children when the children are in Grandma's home. Grandma has the legal right to have Mistress over to her house any time she wants, for however long she wants.

It's Grandma you need to be speaking to about this. And if Grandma refuses to prevent Mistress's access to your children when they're visiting Grandma, then your only legal recourse is to stop sending the children to Grandma's house. Repeatedly posting your objections to this fact won't change it.

 

[quincy]

... It's Grandma you need to be speaking to about this ...

And when speaking to grandma, it is best not to refer to her as "monster-in-law."

 

[CTU]

If a parent asks an adult to discontinue contact with their children and they use the grandma to continue that's legal?

Absolutely.

I don't have the right as a parent to keep an obsessive person from contacting my children?

If the person is harassing or stalking you or the children, there may be recourse. But you didn't say that in your other posts, so I doubt that it's actually the case.

She has been asked to stay away.... it's creepy. I feel like i might find a rabbit boiling on my stove one day!

You understand that she's not actually the problem here, yes?

 

[justalayman]

Why isn’t your husband speaking to his parents about this?

I would be more concerned about that than grandma

 

[Just Blue]

Why isn’t your husband speaking to his parents about this?

I would be more concerned about that than grandma

Just to add to the ^....

And why did you, OP, post in the Juvi forum? Is the mistress under the age of 18?

 

[HighwayMan]

... he no longer has anything to do with her*.

That you know of.

What's the asterisk for?

 

[HighwayMan]

Just to add to the ^....

And why did you, OP, post in the Juvi forum? Is the mistress under the age of 18?

I'm guessing that Stacy, like many posters, thinks that this is the appropriate place to post if children are involved in any way at all. Which is,of course, not correct.