Joint legal custody question when NCP is excessively controlling

[Greatkiddos]

I am in the middle of an ugly ugly custody battle because I got remarried last year and my ex had an emotional meltdown apparently, even though he has been married for last 6 years and has another child by his new wife. I have always been the Primary Residential Parent...still am, even though he has fought viciously trying to change this for the last year & 1/2. I just found out that he completed a medical form for my child to participate in sports this year for school...and listed himself as Parent/Guardian...and his sister (who has been the one behind all the ugliness and also the cash cow behind it all) as the next in line to call...no where on the form is my name. I have obviously fixed this with the school but is there ANYTHING I should do, can do to put a stop to these things?

 

[xylene]

What state is this occurring in?

 

[stealth2]

What state is this occurring in?

TN, according to her other thread.

 

[Zigner]

I am in the middle of an ugly ugly custody battle because I got remarried last year and my ex had an emotional meltdown apparently, even though he has been married for last 6 years and has another child by his new wife. I have always been the Primary Residential Parent...still am, even thought he has fought viciously trying to change this. I find out that he completed a medical form for my child to participate in sports this year for school...and listed himself as Parent/Guardian...and his sister (who has been the one behind all the ugliness and also the cash cow behind it all) as the next in line to call...no where on the form is my name. I have obviously fixed this with the school but is there ANYTHING I should do, can do to put a stop to these things?

Realistically, no. Sure, you can go to court and fight it out, but the fact of the matter is that is all reactionary and doesn't help prevent it.

 

[HRZ]

You seem to have handled that low key event with smarts and got necessary results ....pick actual battles with care

 

[laurakaye]

You seem to have handled that low key event with smarts and got necessary results ....pick actual battles with care

I agree with HRZ about picking your battles. Schools are really careful now about who gets contacted and if you stay in contact with the school, and it sounds like you do, chances are they'd contact you instead of him. He's doing this to get under your skin - don't let his tactic work.

 

[Greatkiddos]

Thank you...I am trying to take deep breaths here but I only have 18 years before my daughter flies off into adulthood...I wish things were easier.

 

[xylene]

Thank you...I am trying to take deep breaths here but I only have 18 years before my daughter flies off into adulthood...I wish things were easier.

That math does not work.

 

[stealth2]

That math does not work.

I was just thinking that...

 

[Just Blue]

I was just thinking that...

Many of us were...

 

[LdiJ]

Realistically, no. Sure, you can go to court and fight it out, but the fact of the matter is that is all reactionary and doesn't help prevent it.

I kind of disagree with you. Many parents actually obey court orders even when they start out recalcitrant.

 

[Zigner]

I kind of disagree with you. Many parents actually obey court orders even when they start out recalcitrant.

...and many don't.

 

[LdiJ]

...and many don't.

True but the post I responded to seemed to indicate that none obeyed court orders.

 

[Zigner]

True but the post I responded to seemed to indicate that none obeyed court orders.

I stand by my post...