Grandparents and Visitation, help!

[LdiJ]

This Weekend would have been my ex’s first weekend to visit his daughter. He already told me that he would not be there but he expects me to allow his parents to have the visitation. I said that I would allow the grandparents to have my daughter once a month if her dad can’t visit, they didn’t like that. I asked if this weekend they would like to use their one weekend for this month and they never responded. Apparently they showed up at my house to get my daughter and I wasn’t there so now they are saying they are going to file contempt of court, etc.

I am trying to help you but it's becoming increasingly frustrating that you won't answer my questions. Frankly, I am not going to respond to this thread any further until you do.

 

[Halcarte]

I am trying to help you but it's becoming increasingly frustrating that you won't answer my questions. Frankly, I am not going to respond to this thread any further until you do.

I am not exactly sure which questions I am not answering. So far nothing has been filed that I know of. The dad, his wife, the grandma and grandpa all put me in a group text to tell me about all the things they plan to do. I do have an attorney, but it’s been pretty slow because I’m not really able to afford him so I do services for him like babysit and house sit, etc. Did I answer everything?

 

[LdiJ]

I am not exactly sure which questions I am not answering. So far nothing has been filed that I know of. The dad, his wife, the grandma and grandpa all put me in a group text to tell me about all the things they plan to do. I do have an attorney, but it’s been pretty slow because I’m not really able to afford him so I do services for him like babysit and house sit, etc. Did I answer everything?

That is what I wanted to know. They have merely threatened you. They haven't actually filed anything yet. Do not allow threats from the other party to rattle you. You have done nothing wrong.

Also, this information should have been included in your very first post. "They are trying to" is a very vague phrase that could mean anything. That is why I was trying to get you to clarify.

 

[Halcarte]

That is what I wanted to know. They have merely threatened you. They haven't actually filed anything yet. Do not allow threats from the other party to rattle you. You have done nothing wrong.

Also, this information should have been included in your very first post. "They are trying to" is a very vague phrase that could mean anything. That is why I was trying to get you to clarify.

I will update this post if anything does get filed. I hope my attorney reaches out to me today so I can figure out what he thinks my next steps should be.

 

[LdiJ]

I will update this post if anything does get filed. I hope my attorney reaches out to me today so I can figure out what he thinks my next steps should be.

Honestly your next step should be nothing. The ball is in their court. You offered them the weekend as their one weekend a month and they never got back to you. That is their problem, not yours.

 

[t74]

The grandparents have been involved in my daughters life since she was 3 months old. She actually recently flew to Washington, D.C. with the grandparents for 10 days to see her dad. The grandparents live in Houston, Tx so they are only about 2 and half hours away. I have done my best to keep my daughter involved with both sides of the family even though we didn’t have any order in place.

I am glad to hear that. One question is why it took so long for orders and why it isn't a long distance plan. If dad is deployable, have you considered goodbyes and homecomings?In some ways your DD is lucky that she she sees other than dad frequently so his long absences will be less traumatic.

Court is a stressful situation for all. While all should realize that the child benefits greatly, it sets up an adversarial relationship by its very nature. Once cooperative relationships can become an "us against them" when the court becomes involved. Hopefully, tempers will calm down over time.

You should realize that you are luckier than most since the military insists that its members comply with support orders.

 

[txmom512]

t - please stop - this OP is asking for legal advice and answers to legal questions, people are posting legal advice and answers to OPs questions but you are muddying up the responses with opinions that are not legal, just your opinions and non-legal responses regarding grandparents. They really don't have a place on this particular thread...