Bosses getting divorced 1 is harrassing me

[Tlpw2525]

Missouri. I am the manager at work I report to 2 owners of the company that are currently in a divorce. I love my job and my the work I do. So I have 1 owner that I do not report to and 1 owner that I do report to. The one I report to, no issues, love working for her and we communicate well. The other owner threatens me, calls me and screams as me, (she is bi polar, but still 1/2 owner till the divorce is over) she is threatening not paying me, sending me emails about her ex, harassing emails and rude emails. She came into the office and threatened to press criminal charges against me for doing my job! Found out she actual did try to pursue charges. She threatened to have my cell phone subpoenaed. Cusses me put, said she will kick my ass, and much more has happened. What do I do? I love my job and my main boss but is there anything I can do legally to stop her without causing issues with my job or company? Only 1 owner is the issue, after the divorce I wont have to worry about it. It's just progressing with the one and it's at the point I am scared to be in the same room as her. Any input or advice please!

 

[Taxing Matters]

Talk to a lawyer about seeking an injunction or restraining order against her.

 

[adjusterjack]

What does the "nice" owner say about all this?

 

[Tlpw2525]

She apologizes and doesn't agree with what what she is doing but they are 50/50 owners and everything is getting reported to the lawyers but until the judge grants one of them primary decision maker or makes a ruling about it or sets guidelines there is nothing that can be enforced. The nice one is having me do as much as I can from home to not have me around the other one. Problem is there is alot of cameras that goes to the not nice ones phone. She can see when I'm there and take advantage of that. The nice one keeps coming in and taking them down or painting them but then they pop right back up.

 

[quincy]

She apologizes and doesn't agree with what what she is doing but they are 50/50 owners and everything is getting reported to the lawyers but until the judge grants one of them primary decision maker or makes a ruling about it or sets guidelines there is nothing that can be enforced. The nice one is having me do as much as I can from home to not have me around the other one. Problem is there is alot of cameras that goes to the not nice ones phone. She can see when I'm there and take advantage of that. The nice one keeps coming in and taking them down or painting them but then they pop right back up.

I have a close friend who went through a similar situation in her job, albeit not in Missouri.

My friend is an attorney who worked for a small law firm that was co-owned by a couple prior to their contentious divorce.

My friend tried hard to maintain neutrality throughout their divorce to preserve her job. The firm was an asset and she was not sure which partner would wind up with it in the settlement. She also tried hard to maintain neutrality to preserve her sanity.

As it turned out, her least favorite partner wound up with control of the firm. The sole owner remained angry and bitter after the divorce and made life miserable for all of the employees who had remained with the firm throughout the numerous uncomfortable in-office battles.

My friend quickly found a new job and was happy she did.

When you wake each morning dreading the work day ahead, it can be mentally healthier and best to just walk away.

 

[xylene]

You may love your job, but consider this may be the end.

I'd be looking for work just in case the business is not sustained.

 

[Tlpw2525]

I have a close friend who went through a similar situation in her job, albeit not in Missouri.

My friend is an attorney who worked for a small law firm that was co-owned by a couple prior to their contentious divorce.

My friend tried hard to maintain neutrality throughout their divorce to preserve her job. The firm was an asset and she was not sure which partner would wind up with it in the settlement. She also tried hard to maintain neutrality to preserve her sanity.

As it turned out, her least favorite partner wound up with control of the firm. The sole owner remained angry and bitter after the divorce and made life miserable for all of the employees who had remained with the firm throughout the numerous uncomfortable in-office battles.

My friend quickly found a new job and was happy she did.

When you wake each morning dreading the work day ahead, it can be mentally healthier and best to just walk away.

I really hope it's the opposite outcome for me. I didn't dread work until the other owner started her stuff. It didn't even feel like work when it was mellow, because I enjoy what I do. And its only when she is in her crazy faze and fixated on what I am doing.

 

[Tlpw2525]

You may love your job, but consider this may be the end.

I'd be looking for work just in case the business is not sustained.

I had that feeling, the nice boss even said she wouldn't blame me for it. She said she would even not fight any unemployment benefits. I was hoping I could file something against just the one owner and not effect the other.

 

[quincy]

I really hope it's the opposite outcome for me. I didn't dread work until the other owner started her stuff. It didn't even feel like work when it was mellow, because I enjoy what I do. And its only when she is in her crazy faze and fixated on what I am doing.

Divorce can make people temporarily crazy. When the couple divorcing owns a business together, the craziness is multiplied.

If you have enjoyed your job, you might want to suffer through this craziness and hope the workplace can once again become the place it was. But I think it would be smart for you to have a backup plan.

As a note: I do not see a restraining order as feasible in your described situation. Seeking one is apt to get you fired.

 

[Tlpw2525]

Divorce can make people temporarily crazy. When the couple divorcing owns a business together, the craziness is multiplied.

If you have enjoyed your job, you might want to suffer through this craziness and hope the workplace can once again become the place it was. But I think it would be smart for you to have a backup plan.

As a note: I do not see a restraining order as feasible in your described situation. Seeking one is apt to get you fired.

Someone mentioned a injuction? I was just reading about that. She can't fire me though. It has to be requested through one lawyer then presented to the opposition lawyer then a retired judge is a semi mediator to work out the deal but if only one party wants to fire me the judge has to make a ruling for it.

 

[quincy]

Someone mentioned a injuction? I was just reading about that. She can't fire me though. It has to be requested through one lawyer then presented to the opposition lawyer then a retired judge is a semi mediator to work out the deal but if only one party wants to fire me the judge has to make a ruling for it.

I think it will create difficulties for you that are best avoided.

 

[Tlpw2525]

Divorce can make people temporarily crazy. When the couple divorcing owns a business together, the craziness is multiplied.

If you have enjoyed your job, you might want to suffer through this craziness and hope the workplace can once again become the place it was. But I think it would be smart for you to have a backup plan.

As a note: I do not see a restraining order as feasible in your described situation. Seeking one is apt to get you fired.

And no the bad boss is not temporarily crazy she is diagnosed as bi polar. I'm a lpn by trade and worked in a hospital phych ward for awhile. I would fit her into mixed featured bipolar. When she starts up I can see the mania from a mile away.

 

[Tlpw2525]

I think it will create difficulties for you that are best avoided.

Yeah you're right.

 

[Tlpw2525]

Yeah you're right.

The messages from her today had my BP way up there.

 

[quincy]

You definitely have been placed in a difficult situation at work. You have options available and none of them are perfect. Whatever you decide to do, I wish you good luck doing it.