Supervised visits

[momtofive]

My name is Jeanie from California. I have a question, I have set a motion hearing for multiple items one of which is requesting supervised visits between my youngest son who is 10 and has special needs with his father. We have many kids and our older kids have had nothing to do with their father since they were old enough to make the choice. He has a history of mental abuse on us all. What should I bring to prove he needs supervised visits. In the past year prior to my filing he has only seen my son less than 8 hours total.

 

[Just Blue]

My name is Jeanie from California. I have a question, I have set a motion hearing for multiple items one of which is requesting supervised visits between my youngest son who is 10 and has special needs with his father. We have many kids and our older kids have had nothing to do with their father since they were old enough to make the choice. He has a history of mental abuse on us all. What should I bring to prove he needs supervised visits. In the past year prior to my filing he has only seen my son less than 8 hours total.

Do you have a current court order? Did you have a court order for the older children when you decided to commit contempt? Define "special needs", please. Why has he only seen the 10 year old for 8 hours? Was it his choice or did you make it difficult for him?

 

[Zigner]

We have many kids and our older kids have had nothing to do with their father since they were old enough to make the choice.

You mean they chose when they turned 18, right?

 

[LdiJ]

My name is Jeanie from California. I have a question, I have set a motion hearing for multiple items one of which is requesting supervised visits between my youngest son who is 10 and has special needs with his father. We have many kids and our older kids have had nothing to do with their father since they were old enough to make the choice. He has a history of mental abuse on us all. What should I bring to prove he needs supervised visits. In the past year prior to my filing he has only seen my son less than 8 hours total.

In your other thread you made it sound like you were just getting divorced. How long have you been living apart?

 

[not2cleverRed]

My name is Jeanie from California. I have a question, I have set a motion hearing for multiple items one of which is requesting supervised visits between my youngest son who is 10 and has special needs with his father. We have many kids and our older kids have had nothing to do with their father since they were old enough to make the choice. He has a history of mental abuse on us all. What should I bring to prove he needs supervised visits. In the past year prior to my filing he has only seen my son less than 8 hours total.

What evidence do you have that Dad is a danger to his child and/or an unfit parent?

Are there police reports?
Medical reports?
CPS?
A therapist who has worked with your son who will testify that the supervised visits are necessary?

A better route to take is to seek therapeutic visitation first, with father and child seeing the therapist together (as well as separately). It is a reasonable thing to ask for in court, as it shows that you are willing to help foster the child's relationship with his father. Dad of course probably won't comply... Dad's noncompliance with a court order would hurt his credibility, and strengthen your case. Dad's compliance could weaken your case if things go well in therapy, I'm sure that if Dad showed signs of becoming a better parent you would be happy, not sad.

 

[momtofive]

Do you have a current court order? Did you have a court order for the older children when you decided to commit contempt? Define "special needs", please. Why has he only seen the 10 year old for 8 hours? Was it his choice or did you make it difficult for him?

The older kids quit any relationship with him once they were 16. He still lived in the home. He has been abusive towards them, neglectful etc. He has had the opportunity to see our youngest when he asks as long as he gives me a few days notice. When he's suppose to have him 2 hours he is done texting me after an hour. Christmas eve he was to have him 4 hours but after less than 2 said they were done. He also has moved 2 hours away

 

[momtofive]

In your other thread you made it sound like you were just getting divorced. How long have you been living apart?

He filed for divorce in January never served me I was ill and could not deal with the issues needed but I got a copy of the divorce and just filed my response along with my request for orders. We have been separated and were going through a divorce a couple years ago, he claimed to change and wanted to work things out but that only lasted 8 months. We have been living apart this time since November 2018

 

[Just Blue]

The older kids quit any relationship with him once they were 16. He still lived in the home. He has been abusive towards them, neglectful etc. He has had the opportunity to see our youngest when he asks as long as he gives me a few days notice. When he's suppose to have him 2 hours he is done texting me after an hour. Christmas eve he was to have him 4 hours but after less than 2 said they were done. He also has moved 2 hours away

Do. You. Have. A. Court. Order?

 

[momtofive]

What evidence do you have that Dad is a danger to his child and/or an unfit parent?

Are there police reports?
Medical reports?
CPS?
A therapist who has worked with your son who will testify that the supervised visits are necessary?

A better route to take is to seek therapeutic visitation first, with father and child seeing the therapist together (as well as separately). It is a reasonable thing to ask for in court, as it shows that you are willing to help foster the child's relationship with his father. Dad of course probably won't comply... Dad's noncompliance with a court order would hurt his credibility, and strengthen your case. Dad's compliance could weaken your case if things go well in therapy, I'm sure that if Dad showed signs of becoming a better parent you would be happy, not sad.

Our older kids are all adults now, they would like a chance to speak with someone in the court to tell them their experience with my husband to avoid having my youngest have to deal with what they had to. I have statements from various people supporting my claim. He is a abusive person, smart enough never to make it physical and has a history of drug abuse.

 

[momtofive]

Do. You. Have. A. Court. Order?

I opened up a claim with DCSS in December, that's all we have a support order, however he lied to DCSS in December when doing their investigation that he closed his self employment business. I am trying to request the check copies proving that was a lie

 

[Zigner]

I opened up a claim with DCSS in December, that's all we have a support order, however he lied to DCSS in December when doing their investigation that he closed his self employment business. I am trying to request the check copies proving that was a lie

You're going to want to find a way to retain an attorney. Really.

 

[momtofive]

You're going to want to find a way to retain an attorney. Really.

I have asked in my paperwork if he hires an attorney that he pay for all of mine. I don't have any money, my family (unlike his) doesn't have money so unless the court orders him pay for one there is just no way. I am struggling every month, I have tried to find a pro bono attorney without success