Legal Duties of a (physical) Custodial Parent

[Just Blue]

Yes. But that is only true if the non-custodial parent is informed of the school or doctor. Also, the school or doctor is naturally cautious at someone appearing out of the blue and contradicting the story they have been told by the 'nice' 'sole parent' (sic) of the child. Thus, it may take some considerable time and effort to establish the truth to their satisfaction. Highly stressful.

Most everything about being a parent is stressful.

If your ex is violating the CO file for contempt.

A question: How old is your child?

 

[Tony Dawson]

First: New York is not Colorado. Don't look up information for any states outside of the state that is involved, you'll only confuse yourself.

Second: I don't see any requirement to provide the information in the snippet you posted.

You are right that the info which I specified is not required to be provided by the school;. However, the school DOES require the provision of some related information. I recognise that the law is different between States. I was just looking for something somewhere.

 

[stealth2]

You are right that the info which I specified is not required to be provided by the school;. However, the school DOES require the provision of some related information. I recognise that the law is different between States. I was just looking for something somewhere.

No, the school does not require the information you claim it does. Not at all.

Why are you unaware of where your child goes to school?

 

[Just Blue]

You are right that the info which I specified is not required to be provided by the school;. However, the school DOES require the provision of some related information. I recognise that the law is different between States. I was just looking for something somewhere.

Looking for answers in a state that is not your is a waste of time. Looking for legal answers in a school handbook is a wicked waste of time.

 

[Tony Dawson]

Live a long way from the child's main home and wasn't informed of change of school

No, the school does not require the information you claim it does. Not at all.

Why are you unaware of where your child goes to school?

 

[Zigner]

Yes. But that is only true if the non-custodial parent is informed of the school or doctor. Also, the school or doctor is naturally cautious at someone appearing out of the blue and contradicting the story they have been told by the 'nice' 'sole parent' (sic) of the child. Thus, it may take some considerable time and effort to establish the truth to their satisfaction. Highly stressful.

Your original post was about information being provided. Not providing information is not the same as providing false information.

 

[Zigner]

Live a long way from the child's main home and wasn't informed of change of school

You don't talk to your kid?

 

[livinmybestlife]

That is why you take your court orders with you, to speed up the process. Schools are not in the habit of violating court orders, and sadly deal with things like this fairly often. You should only have to do it once a year at most. And if you have access to the medical bills then you know the name of the doctor. There are ways to find this information out if the custodial parents is not being cooperative. If they are actually violating the court order you should file for contempt.

 

[stealth2]

If you provide more concrete information, we may have ideas for you.

Absent that, I shall leave the dentistry to those more amenable.

 

[Tony Dawson]

Your original post was about information being provided. Not providing information is not the same as providing false information.

Here I think you are both right and wrong. It depends upon what is being withheld. 'Material Withholding' is treated very seriously by courts in pretty much all jurisdictions around the world in certain circumstances. Fraud can be established on the basis of material withholding just as it can be on the basis of false representation.

 

[Tony Dawson]

That is why you take your court orders with you, to speed up the process. Schools are not in the habit of violating court orders, and sadly deal with things like this fairly often. You should only have to do it once a year at most. And if you have access to the medical bills then you know the name of the doctor. There are ways to find this information out if the custodial parents is not being cooperative. If they are actually violating the court order you should file for contempt.

The school has been emailed the relevant Orders. It is a public school so they are addressing the issue of conflicting information (don't know what the other parent has provided which conflicts) with the School Board legal advisor. I understand the 'contempt' route but am concerned to not use this unless it becomes necessary since some courts appear to require such pleadings to be 'serious' in their eyes which assessment varies from judge to judge - and a failed contempt case can backfire badly.

 

[livinmybestlife]

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The school has been emailed the relevant Orders. It is a public school so they are addressing the issue of conflicting information (don't know what the other parent has provided which conflicts) with the School Board legal advisor. I understand the 'contempt' route but am concerned to not use this unless it becomes necessary since some courts appear to require such pleadings to be 'serious' in their eyes which assessment varies from judge to judge - and a failed contempt case can backfire badly.

So you have done what you can. Be patient and let the school do what it needs to do. They are just covering their bases. Unless the court orders state that the custodial parent is required to provide your information, I don't think there is much you can do.

 

[Tony Dawson]

You don't talk to your kid?

That's how the school change info finally came out (video call)? AFTER the event. Mother or granny supervises call at the other end so certain topics often don't get raised if child feels other parent would be uncomfortable with it.

 

[Just Blue]

The school has been emailed the relevant Orders. It is a public school so they are addressing the issue of conflicting information (don't know what the other parent has provided which conflicts) with the School Board legal advisor. I understand the 'contempt' route but am concerned to not use this unless it becomes necessary since some courts appear to require such pleadings to be 'serious' in their eyes which assessment varies from judge to judge - and a failed contempt case can backfire badly.

Your legal recourse if filing for contempt.

 

[stealth2]

The school has been emailed the relevant Orders. It is a public school so they are addressing the issue of conflicting information (don't know what the other parent has provided which conflicts) with the School Board legal advisor. I understand the 'contempt' route but am concerned to not use this unless it becomes necessary since some courts appear to require such pleadings to be 'serious' in their eyes which assessment varies from judge to judge - and a failed contempt case can backfire badly.

Generally speaking, it is more effective to provide physical copies of court orders in person. Apparently, you are aware of where the child goes to school. Is there a reason you cannot get to the school in person? Yes, yes, you live a distance away. You're neither the first nor the last.

ETA: Absent the ability to go in person, a certified hard copy would be more appropriate than via email.