concern over children being alone with other parent

[stealth2]

See, but the kids telling you "we celebrated ABC's 18th birthday" is proof of nothing. His texting you "I slept with ABC" means nothing either. Now he tells the judge "I didn't sleep with her - it was wishful thinking - I was trying to make Alessia jealous."

What the judge will see is him making stuff up about you, you making stuff up about him. Courts see it all the time. Ask for therapeutic therapy (couldn't think of that phrase before).

I'm assuming paternity has been established.

I'm sorry - but you REALLY need to at least consult a lawyer, if you can't retain one.

 

[LdiJ]

I was in florida when I was impregnated and he was in new York and Florida with the other minor girls. he lives in florida currently as well. I thought the other girls looked young but I didn't know ages until my kids brought it to my attention that they celebrated said girls 18th birthday. there are no court mandated places for supervised visits in the state of new Hampshire as I have already requested it. I put the kids in therapy awhile and ago I cant report something he hid and he made the kids lie about it most I can do is mention it to show his character. He has sent me messages admitting being with her etc but he claimed she was 19. he was the manager where she worked and knew her age. my kids ages are 12,10,8 and with that being said my 12 year old has seen and heard the most and suffers from ptsd from his own father.
the whole reason new Hampshire plays a big role in this was because I'm originally from here and have been raising our children out here for over 7 years. I fled Florida with my two children back in 2009 and we have basically been here since. how can my kids report something they didn't know was wrong? they just notified me not even 2 weeks ago of some new stuff. I understand anybody can walk into a court room and make things up because he's doing it to me but the difference is that I can back my claims. I feel like I'm over my head because this story is almost unbelievable. I'm ok with being investigated but i'm not sure if all these things will open the door for an investigation regarding him. I have tried calling social services on myself to start an investigation but was told they cant do that. this trial has gone on 18 months and the final hearing is this month. He has never come up for one visit regarding the kids nor one hearing. judge HAS taken notice to certain behaviors but im just not sure it will be enough. I wasn't sure if I would be able to request a psych evaluation.

Did I understand you correctly that he has never shown up for any of the hearings regarding the custody case?

 

[Alesia55]

See, but the kids telling you "we celebrated ABC's 18th birthday" is proof of nothing. His texting you "I slept with ABC" means nothing either. Now he tells the judge "I didn't sleep with her - it was wishful thinking - I was trying to make Alessia jealous."

What the judge will see is him making stuff up about you, you making stuff up about him. Courts see it all the time. Ask for therapeutic therapy (couldn't think of that phrase before).

I'm assuming paternity has been established.

I'm sorry - but you REALLY need to at least consult a lawyer, if you can't retain one.

there is more proof than that I just cant get into too much detail because this has so many twist and turns. I understand what you are saying but there really is definitive proof. it was my kids statement that made me actually look into the situation in which I discovered that they were right. he sent sexually explicit images to messenger of said girl because he likes to brag about his new gfs. the date and time is listed in which girl was a minor. thank you for your advice its much appreciated

 

[stealth2]

there is more proof than that I just cant get into too much detail because this has so many twist and turns. I understand what you are saying but there really is definitive proof. it was my kids statement that made me actually look into the situation in which I discovered that they were right. he sent sexually explicit images to messenger of said girl because he likes to brag about his new gfs. the date and time is listed in which girl was a minor. thank you for your advice its much appreciated

So, again, this raises the question - why did you not report it?

 

[Alesia55]

Did I understand you correctly that he has never shown up for any of the hearings regarding the custody case?

hes skipped on some and phoned in telephonically for others. He has never once come in person and it took him 18 months to ask permission to see communicate with our children. the whole time he has just been sending crazy motions to the court

 

[Alesia55]

So, again, this raises the question - why did you not report it?

I literally just found out. this is FRESH. im trying to figure out who I go to, cops here cops in that state?

 

[LdiJ]

hes skipped on some and phoned in telephonically for others. He has never once come in person and it took him 18 months to ask permission to see communicate with our children. the whole time he has just been sending crazy motions to the court

Doing a hearing telephonically counts as being present. So, watch your wording to avoid causing yourself problems. I suspect that the judge already has a picture of how dad operates. I really wish you had an attorney because I think that it would not have dragged on this long if you had one.

 

[not2cleverRed]

there is more proof than that I just cant get into too much detail because this has so many twist and turns. I understand what you are saying but there really is definitive proof. it was my kids statement that made me actually look into the situation in which I discovered that they were right. he sent sexually explicit images to messenger of said girl because he likes to brag about his new gfs. the date and time is listed in which girl was a minor. thank you for your advice its much appreciated

No, you're the one that doesn't understand: the only "proof" that matters are the items admissible as evidence in court. Long meandering stories aren't "evidence". Boil down your saga to brief legally relevant facts.

 

[Alesia55]

No, you're the one that doesn't understand: the only "proof" that matters are the items admissible as evidence in court. Long meandering stories aren't "evidence". Boil down your saga to brief legally relevant facts.

No, you're the one that doesn't understand: the only "proof" that matters are the items admissible as evidence in court. Long meandering stories aren't "evidence". Boil down your saga to brief legally relevant facts.

messages can be submitted in court. I have the facts and I do have things admissible in court I'm not posting about it all. I'm trying to sum things up without writing a book but it seems impossible. its still illegal to posses images of minors. My son is walking proof as well he was with a minor. I gave birth and had the relationship in Florida which legal age of consent is 18. he added his name to our childs birth certificate about a year ago. the reason it wasn't originally listed was because he was evading getting caught.

 

[Zigner]

messages can be submitted in court. I have the facts and I do have things admissible in court I'm not posting about it all. I'm trying to sum things up without writing a book but it seems impossible. its still illegal to posses images of minors. My son is walking proof as well he was with a minor. I gave birth and had the relationship in Florida which legal age of consent is 18. he added his name to our childs birth certificate about a year ago. the reason it wasn't originally listed was because he was evading getting caught.

"He" didn't just unilaterally add his name - you both did (he couldn't do it alone without a court order).

 

[Alesia55]

"He" didn't just unilaterally add his name - you both did (he couldn't do it alone without a court order).

NO I did not, I brought my kids to Ny to see him and he kept them for the summer, while he was there he went to court acted like he couldn't get in touch with me and gave them wrong address. (I never knew about the court date till after the fact of the ruling)

 

[Ohiogal]

NO I did not, I brought my kids to Ny to see him and he kept them for the summer, while he was there he went to court acted like he couldn't get in touch with me and gave them wrong address. (I never knew about the court date till after the fact of the ruling)

Apparently if you left the children with him for the summer, he is NOT a danger to them. And you are just spinning lies.

 

[Alesia55]

"He" didn't just unilaterally add his name - you both did (he couldn't do it alone without a court order).

he was secretly trying to build a case making it seem like I abandoned the kids so he could get custody and not have to pay child support.

 

[stealth2]

messages can be submitted in court. I have the facts and I do have things admissible in court I'm not posting about it all. I'm trying to sum things up without writing a book but it seems impossible. its still illegal to posses images of minors. My son is walking proof as well he was with a minor. I gave birth and had the relationship in Florida which legal age of consent is 18. he added his name to our childs birth certificate about a year ago. the reason it wasn't originally listed was because he was evading getting caught.

Not all courts will admit messages. If he says HE didn't send it, but someone else may have, then YOU will have to provide proof that it was actually him. Not always easy to do. Your son may or may no longer be proof - depends on the statute of limitations in FL. It is possible that you may have missed the boat on that. When he was added to the birth certificate is likely irrelevant.

 

[stealth2]

NO I did not, I brought my kids to Ny to see him and he kept them for the summer, while he was there he went to court acted like he couldn't get in touch with me and gave them wrong address. (I never knew about the court date till after the fact of the ruling)

What did the court rule? Seriously, I think you are in way over your head.