concern over children being alone with other parent

[Ohiogal]

he doesn't have our address he doesn't know where the kids go to school etc. there is a pending case right now regarding custody here in new Hampshire. there has been a restraining order as well that's been set for 18 months

Does New Hampshire know about the court case that took place in NY?

 

[Zigner]

"He" didn't just unilaterally add his name - you both did (he couldn't do it alone without a court order).

NO I did not, I brought my kids to Ny to see him and he kept them for the summer, while he was there he went to court acted like he couldn't get in touch with me and gave them wrong address. (I never knew about the court date till after the fact of the ruling)

So, he had a court order.

 

[Alesia55]

Apparently if you left the children with him for the summer, he is NOT a danger to them. And you are just spinning lies.

nope I wouldn't waste my time on a forum spinning lies, I only left my two older boys not my young daughter, it was a trial period of trying to coparent because he was absent for 6 years. we spoke for a year by phone and he facetimed the kids. We thought he was a changed man we had no reason to think otherwise. he claimed he was in school got a great job lived in a great neighborhood he claimed he had therapy. i didn't go after him when he left I continued trying to support kids as if nothing happened. I buried the trauma. i tried to get along but once i knew something was up I got the courts involved.AS a MOTHER I was trying to do the right thing despite him abusing me for years. I tried to put it aside but he used that to his advantage. while he had them in his care things began to spin out of control and when I tried to get my kids he ups and moves to Florida without my consent. told my kids to lie to me, told my children I wasn't trying to see or speak to them when in reality It was the opposite. I have taken parenting classes I do everything to cooperate with courts! I understand the importance of having a father but not at the cost of psychological harm. I coparent with my stepchilds mother and have done so for years. I refuse to lay down and let this pedophile continue to abuse young girls and abuse our children despite you claiming im lying. I have better things to do than hide behind a keyboard trying to lock up the ONLY other person responsible for them unless it is necessary. I have 6 children in total 3 are his and he has only ever barely supported 2 of them. im not bitter over money im not bitter over exes im happily married and have been for years im trying to protect my kids, period.

 

[Ohiogal]

What did the court rule? Seriously, I think you are in way over your head.

Way over her head. She is not going to get text messages admitted unless they are relevant. Unless dad says he is having sex with his children, that isnot going to matter. Also, the fact that she left the children with dad for the summer disproves the idea he is a danger to them. The fact that she has an ongoing case in NH makes me wonder if the properly notified the NY courts that they lost jurisdiction. Or if NH knew about NY.

 

[Alesia55]

So, he had a court order.

yes but you were implying I knew about it and would've consented which I didn't. he did this on purpose. it was a tactic.

 

[Ohiogal]

nope I wouldn't waste my time on a forum spinning lies, I only left my two older boys not my young daughter, it was a trial period of trying to coparent because he was absent for 6 years. we spoke for a year by phone and he facetimed the kids. We thought he was a changed man we had no reason to think otherwise. he claimed he was in school got a great job lived in a great neighborhood he claimed he had therapy. i didn't go after him when he left I continued trying to support kids as if nothing happened. I buried the trauma. i tried to get along but once i knew something was up I got the courts involved.AS a MOTHER I was trying to do the right thing despite him abusing me for years. I tried to put it aside but he used that to his advantage. while he had them in his care things began to spin out of control and when I tried to get my kids he ups and moves to Florida without my consent. told my kids to lie to me, told my children I wasn't trying to see or speak to them when in reality It was the opposite. I have taken parenting classes I do everything to cooperate with courts! I understand the importance of having a father but not at the cost of psychological harm. I coparent with my stepchilds mother and have done so for years. I refuse to lay down and let this pedophile continue to abuse young girls and abuse our children despite you claiming im lying. I have better things to do than hide behind a keyboard trying to lock up the ONLY other person responsible for them unless it is necessary. I have 6 children in total 3 are his and he has only ever barely supported 2 of them. im not bitter over money im not bitter over exes im happily married and have been for years im trying to protect my kids, period.

A) you shouldn't be coparenting with your stepchild's mother. Your spouse should be doing that.
B) How long have your children been in therapy? What are their diagnoses? When did they start therapy?
C) How long ago were they with dad in the summer?
D) Why do you think dad needed your permission to move to Florida?
E) When did you get a child support order for dad?

 

[stealth2]

yes but you were implying I knew about it and would've consented which I didn't. he did this on purpose. it was a tactic.

We can't know things you haven't shared.

And be advised - OHGal is a lawyer/GAL, although not in any of the states involved.

 

[Alesia55]

Way over her head. She is not going to get text messages admitted unless they are relevant. Unless dad says he is having sex with his children, that isnot going to matter. Also, the fact that she left the children with dad for the summer disproves the idea he is a danger to them. The fact that she has an ongoing case in NH makes me wonder if the properly notified the NY courts that they lost jurisdiction. Or if NH k

Way over her head. She is not going to get text messages admitted unless they are relevant. Unless dad says he is having sex with his children, that isnot going to matter. Also, the fact that she left the children with dad for the summer disproves the idea he is a danger to them. The fact that she has an ongoing case in NH makes me wonder if the properly notified the NY courts that they lost jurisdiction. Or if NH knew about NY.

i only left two kids for the summer for a trial period . besides me and his history I had no reason to think he would danger anybody else.. the extra craziness did not start till he had them in his possession already. which i started building a case. there was nothing in ny except him adding himself to birth certificate he took off to florida without consent. i went to florida and picked my kids up anyways brought them back here and continued on with court. i havent told new hampshire that he added himself to the birth certificate yet it will be discussed at next hearing. i didnt leave the kids thinking he was a danger i was making lemonade out of lemons. ALLLLLLLLL this started after he refused to give them back. he started avoiding phone calls and webcam calls meant for the kids. i would have to threaten him to call cops and do wellness check just to get responses.

 

[Zigner]

Right, you left two kids with him for an extended time, which shows that he's not a danger in your mind. What harm did he cause to the children in that period of time?

 

[Ohiogal]

i only left two kids for the summer for a trial period . besides me and his history I had no reason to think he would danger anybody else.. the extra craziness did not start till he had them in his possession already. which i started building a case. there was nothing in ny except him adding himself to birth certificate he took off to florida without consent. i went to florida and picked my kids up anyways brought them back here and continued on with court. i havent told new hampshire that he added himself to the birth certificate yet it will be discussed at next hearing. i didnt leave the kids thinking he was a danger i was making lemonade out of lemons. ALLLLLLLLL this started after he refused to give them back. he started avoiding phone calls and webcam calls meant for the kids. i would have to threaten him to call cops and do wellness check just to get responses.

A) When did you leave them with him during the summer?
B) Adding himself to the birth certificate is an establishment of parentage. Which means NH should have been informed. By not informing the NH court you have committed fraud upon the court and created a jurisdictional issue.
C) Why do you think he needed your permission to move to Florida?
D) how long have your children been in therapy? And with what have they been diagnosed?

 

[stealth2]

i only left two kids for the summer for a trial period . besides me and his history I had no reason to think he would danger anybody else.. the extra craziness did not start till he had them in his possession already. which i started building a case. there was nothing in ny except him adding himself to birth certificate he took off to florida without consent. i went to florida and picked my kids up anyways brought them back here and continued on with court. i havent told new hampshire that he added himself to the birth certificate yet it will be discussed at next hearing. i didnt leave the kids thinking he was a danger i was making lemonade out of lemons. ALLLLLLLLL this started after he refused to give them back. he started avoiding phone calls and webcam calls meant for the kids. i would have to threaten him to call cops and do wellness check just to get responses.

WHERE is the court order from? What does it address? Really, we're trying to help, but you're not making it easy.

 

[Alesia55]

A) you shouldn't be coparenting with your stepchild's mother. Your spouse should be doing that.
B) How long have your children been in therapy? What are their diagnoses? When did they start therapy?
C) How long ago were they with dad in the summer?
D) Why do you think dad needed your permission to move to Florida?
E) When did you get a child support order for dad?

A) my spouse does coparent but we are a family and the point is that we get along great. we have been doing this awhile as a team.
b) our oldest who witnessed alot of abuse has been in since he was 4. when his father took him he went without therapy but since they have been in my care he started going back this year. he has been diagnosed with ptsd and adhd. ptsd stemming from the abuse. our second child never witnessed much but I did put him in play therapy to talk to someone if he needed. My daughter never witnessed anything because I did the pregancy alone because he choked me when I was pregnant with her and sent me to the hospital so her step dad and I ended up raising her without him. hes only met his 8 year old daughter twice.
c) i had the kids for years i had physical custody he decided that after a visit with the kids he was just going to take them without telling me. he had never been alone with them this was their first visit with him. he had never previously visited he had never taken them before he had never flown the kids in to see him ever!
d) child support was ordered in 2011 for only two of the children not our oldest son because of the age thing

 

[Ohiogal]

A) my spouse does coparent but we are a family and the point is that we get along great. we have been doing this awhile as a team.
b) our oldest who witnessed alot of abuse has been in since he was 4. when his father took him he went without therapy but since they have been in my care he started going back this year. he has been diagnosed with ptsd and adhd. ptsd stemming from the abuse. our second child never witnessed much but I did put him in play therapy to talk to someone if he needed. My daughter never witnessed anything because I did the pregancy alone because he choked me when I was pregnant with her and sent me to the hospital so her step dad and I ended up raising her without him. hes only met his 8 year old daughter twice.
c) i had the kids for years i had physical custody he decided that after a visit with the kids he was just going to take them without telling me. he had never been alone with them this was their first visit with him. he had never previously visited he had never taken them before he had never flown the kids in to see him ever!
d) child support was ordered in 2011 for only two of the children not our oldest son because of the age thing

You have three children with him and he added himself to WHOSE birth certificate?
The oldest is now nine. So how old are the two youngest children?
You never answered when he had them for the summer in New York. You chose to leave him alone with them. You are making very little sense.

 

[Alesia55]

WHERE is the court order from? What does it address? Really, we're trying to help, but you're not making it easy.

court order right now is going on in NH. idk anything about ny except that's where he added his name to bc and a stalking order he got from a gf while my kids were present. jurisdictional issues are between Florida and new Hampshire because that's where he lives and had the kids before I took them back. florida lost jurisdiction and new Hampshire took it. I'm not trying to make this hard but it really is confusing. I know this matter isn't funny but im definitely going to write a book about all this. its truly a crazy a$$ story. I don't know how to explain anything else other than answer questions yall may have. I appreciate everyone jumping on here to try an help

 

[Alesia55]

court order right now is going on in NH. idk anything about ny except that's where he added his name to bc and a stalking order he got from a gf while my kids were present. jurisdictional issues are between Florida and new Hampshire because that's where he lives and had the kids before I took them back. florida lost jurisdiction and new Hampshire took it. I'm not trying to make this hard but it really is confusing. I know this matter isn't funny but im definitely going to write a book about all this. its truly a crazy a$$ story. I don't know how to explain anything else other than answer questions yall may have. I appreciate everyone jumping on here to try an help

court order is addressing custodial issues and child support the kids have already been here with me 2 years. I tried to ask the courts for supervised visits but its not court appointed in new Hampshire we have to do it ourselves