concern over children being alone with other parent

[Alesia55]

You have three children with him and he added himself to WHOSE birth certificate?
The oldest is now nine. So how old are the two youngest children?
You never answered when he had them for the summer in New York. You chose to leave him alone with them. You are making very little sense.

im making perfect sense your not reading some information correctly, my oldest is 12 (hes the one who just got his father added to his bc) our middle child is 10 and youngest child is 8 i left the two older BOYS but not our daughter in new york because we webcammed and spoke on the phone fpr a year with the kids and he wanted to see them he had given me no reason to think he hadnt changed or matured after being absent for6 years, he made it seem like life was good and hes back on track with school and a job nd claimed he was in therapy and a MAN OF GOD it wasn't until he had them i started seeing things differently and he was acting strange. it was all part of his plan. he was just trying to alienate me from the kids which i do have proof of as well. he told the kids i didnt want them anymore and all types of messed up stuff. during me going to court for custody and child support he started submitting motion after motion some 89 pages most being 35+ of accusations about my household (clearly because hes scared of going against me in court ) but the claims are INSANE. we apparently live in a sex dungeon with the kids and my husband pimps me out for drugs. he describes me in all types of sexual positions claiming that my kids watch me have sex. he claims all three of my kids are being sexually abused. he claims his daughter is being molested by my husband he claims my husband walks around swing his penis from left to right. he said i tell my daughter he will have sex with her. he claimed our two boys "touched my little brothers erect penis". ""alesia was in a supine position moaning and grimacing in pleasure while our son ... watched". i could go on and on and while they are just accusations they are ruining peoples lives and makes one think, should this man reakly be around children if hes still abusive if hes still messing with minors if hes clealry writing soft porn novels to the court, will there be reprocussions from all that crazy stuff or i he allowed to walk around speaking ill oneverybodys character? everything he writes is so sexual. to think he would make up a statement such as shes telling our daughter i will have sex with her makes me really wonder how sick this man is. im petrified for my kids and my 12 year old doesnt want to be alone with him

 

[Alesia55]

Not all courts will admit messages. If he says HE didn't send it, but someone else may have, then YOU will have to provide proof that it was actually him. Not always easy to do. Your son may or may no longer be proof - depends on the statute of limitations in FL. It is possible that you may have missed the boat on that. When he was added to the birth certificate is likely irrelevant.

I know but NH and florida will. I have already submitted some. I probably did miss the boat but I guess it shows character so its worth mentioning.

 

[Alesia55]

Way over her head. She is not going to get text messages admitted unless they are relevant. Unless dad says he is having sex with his children, that isnot going to matter. Also, the fact that she left the children with dad for the summer disproves the idea he is a danger to them. The fact that she has an ongoing case in NH makes me wonder if the properly notified the NY courts that they lost jurisdiction. Or if NH knew about NY.

florida and NH were fighting jurisdiction NH took it ny was only involved in the addition to his birth certificate.

 

[LdiJ]

Right, you left two kids with him for an extended time, which shows that he's not a danger in your mind. What harm did he cause to the children in that period of time?

Since there currently is an 18 month restraining order against dad apparently a judge agrees with mom at this point in time.

 

[t74]

Sweetie,

Your "issues" - real and imagined - are beyond you receiving help from the forum members. You do not appear to comprehend what you are being told. Get a lawyer. Get a job, a second job or whatever is needed to get the money for the fee. And listen and not argue that you are in the right when you do not know the legal system. It will cost you less in the long run.

You are as guilty as he is for you getting pregnant while a minor. You chose to date a man much older than yourself - probably against your parents' advice. And then you had two more children over several years. He may not be a winner, but then you have your own character flaws. You want to be seen as a victim. The only victims I see here are the poor children caught in a war of will between their parents; my heart aches for them.

 

[Zigner]

Since there currently is an 18 month restraining order against dad apparently a judge agrees with mom at this point in time.

...gained by default.

 

[LdiJ]

...gained by default.

And you know that how?

 

[Alesia55]

Sweetie,

Your "issues" - real and imagined - are beyond you receiving help from the forum members. You do not appear to comprehend what you are being told. Get a lawyer. Get a job, a second job or whatever is needed to get the money for the fee. And listen and not argue that you are in the right when you do not know the legal system. It will cost you less in the long run.

You are as guilty as he is for you getting pregnant while a minor. You chose to date a man much older than yourself - probably against your parents' advice. And then you had two more children over several years. He may not be a winner, but then you have your own character flaws. You want to be seen as a victim. The only victims I see here are the poor children caught in a war of will between their parents; my heart aches for them.

I understand that this forum may not be able to help its not just a matter of me not comprehending what im told either. theres no playing victim when you are one. I made stupid decisions as a stupid 15-16 year old girl because I was a TEENAGER that doesn't give any man at the age of 25 to do what he did and continue to do so to other 16 year olds at 37. the kids are not the only victims regardless of "what you see"and while I agree with you about that statement. while I was younger yeah I thought it was cool an di outgrew him by the age of 20 but it wasn't cool when I find out that hes still doing it. not only do I feel guilty because other girls were harmed but I feel guilty because I have kids with him that have to claim this man as a father. as for my parents they didn't know about it because he preys on new girls that get their first job at mcdonalds. hes the manager so that's always been his playing field.

 

[Zigner]

And you know that how?

I'm guessing

 

[Alesia55]

...gained by default.

what makes you think that?

 

[Zigner]

what makes you think that?

Was it not gained by default?

 

[LdiJ]

I understand that this forum may not be able to help its not just a matter of me not comprehending what im told either. theres no playing victim when you are one. I made stupid decisions as a stupid 15-16 year old girl because I was a TEENAGER that doesn't give any man at the age of 25 to do what he did and continue to do so to other 16 year olds at 37. the kids are not the only victims regardless of "what you see"and while I agree with you about that statement. while I was younger yeah I thought it was cool an di outgrew him by the age of 20 but it wasn't cool when I find out that hes still doing it. not only do I feel guilty because other girls were harmed but I feel guilty because I have kids with him that have to claim this man as a father. as for my parents they didn't know about it because he preys on new girls that get their first job at mcdonalds. hes the manager so that's always been his playing field.

You could report him to the MacDonald's corporate headquarters. I suspect that they would seriously frown on that type of behavior.

 

[Alesia55]

I'm guessing

he threatened to kill me if I take the kids. he told me he had nothing to lose. he has a history of abuse he submitted crazy stuff to the courts to the point they are looking at him crazy. im assuming its because the judge isn't an idiot and can see past his bs. any normal person would read these motions mouth wideeeeee open

 

[stealth2]

he threatened to kill me if I take the kids. he told me he had nothing to lose. he has a history of abuse he submitted crazy stuff to the courts to the point they are looking at him crazy. im assuming its because the judge isn't an idiot and can see past his bs. any normal person would read these motions mouth wideeeeee open

So was it or was it not by default? The reasons are moot to that question.

 

[Alesia55]

Was it not gained by default?

no it wasn't