Can my kids father leave for basic training without my knowledge and not include me in his family plan?

[Zigner]

Then you should be picking up the children after school, at the school. If the school tries not to release them to you then you need to show them your custody orders. Take a copy of the Madison County Standard Visitation Schedule with you in case its needed.

I agree.

Of course, the OP shouldn't even have to do that (show the order), because it's none of the school's business, but it might make things easier.

 

[LdiJ]

I agree.

Of course, the OP shouldn't even have to do that (show the order), because it's none of the school's business, but it might make things easier.

I agree but I said that because in her first post she said that the new wife/girlfriend had taken the POA to the school and had the OP taken off the list of people who could pick the children up. The school should not have allowed the new wife/girlfriend to do that either.

 

[Zigner]

I agree but I said that because in her first post she said that the new wife/girlfriend had taken the POA to the school and had the OP taken off the list of people who could pick the children up. The school should not have allowed the new wife/girlfriend to do that either.

I agree - the school has done a lot of things that they "shouldn't" have done.

 

[atms256]

So why refer to her as the girlfriend?

Because I saw the documents they gave to the school yesterday. So it was confirmed officially to me then

 

[atms256]

Then you should be picking up the children after school, at the school. If the school tries not to release them to you then you need to show them your custody orders. Take a copy of the Madison County Standard Visitation Schedule with you in case its needed.

They have a copy of are agreement along with a visitation schedule , I sat down with the principal yesterday and told her this, but still she said it wasn't specific enough

 

[atms256]

The principal said that since father has given wife POA she is allowed to make changes and that in the court order it doesnt say what days I am suppose to pick them up nor how i am suppose to pick them up. And I cant add myself back on the list because I do not have sole physical custody

 

[Zigner]

They have a copy of are agreement along with a visitation schedule , I sat down with the principal yesterday and told her this, but still she said it wasn't specific enough

She is breaking FEDERAL LAW by taking such a stance. It is NOT the school's place to interfere as they are. Absent a court order that specifically restricts you from contact with the child(ren), they simply are not allowed to under FEDERAL LAW. Go higher up in the district...TODAY.

 

[stealth2]

I'm thinking a strongly worded letter from a family law attorney may change Ms. Principal's viewpoint.

 

[livinmybestlife]

It's concerning to me that it seems the step mom has more rights in this situation than the mother. I would definitely be speaking with an attorney for a consult at the very least.

 

[Zigner]

It's concerning to me that it seems the step mom has more rights in this situation than the mother.

Nobody here has stated or implied any such thing.

 

[atms256]

I'm thinking a strongly worded letter from a family law attorney may change Ms. Principal's viewpoint.

Yes I plan on seeking legal advice Friday to get some answers.

 

[Zigner]

Yes I plan on seeking legal advice Friday to get some answers.

Speak to the district superintendent. You will need to be persistent.

 

[LdiJ]

The principal said that since father has given wife POA she is allowed to make changes and that in the court order it doesnt say what days I am suppose to pick them up nor how i am suppose to pick them up. And I cant add myself back on the list because I do not have sole physical custody

You have joint legal custody. The school is breaking the law. Do as Zig said and take it up the chain of command. Go to the superintendent's office if necessary.

 

[t74]

Nobody here has stated or implied any such thing.

I interpreted the statement to refer to the school and not the forum participants.

I certainly question why GF/step-mom felt it to be necessary/appropriate to make the changes. It would be interesting to know if this was at the direction of dad especially since it sounds like the previous arrangement was working otherwise dad would have likely gone to court before he left.

 

[bcr229]

So he can be relocated if he’s only doing the reserve for Army national guard?

I don't believe he would necessarily be relocated, but he may end up deployed for several months at a time. No one has a crystal ball to know where the military will post him. Custody during his deployments should definitely be added to your court orders.