throwawaymywhig1010
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I live in New Jersey and go to college in Pennsylvania. I'm a 19 y/o college student. I'm gonna call this person Smith (which isn't his real name). This is a complex story so I really appreciate any advice because I've been super worried about it.
Going into college, me and Smith were best friends since high school. We coincidently went to the same college and decided to dorm with each other in September 2019. However, Smith had a history with mental illness. I knew about this mental illness before, but did not know it was severe at all. Anyways, in college, Smith attempted to kill himself three times (my friends witnessed these suicide attempts as well). All three times I urged Smith to get help from the college therapy center and his psychologist. However, all three times, he did not listen.
Eventually, Smith irresponsibly drank alcohol while taking his medication which caused him to have a seizure. As we called 911, Smith woke up and magically was completely okay. We suspect that Smith had faked this seizure to lure me away from a girl I was interested in, but obviously, we are not sure. I called his parents, notifying them of Smith's suicide attempts. They picked him up from campus, but he returned a week later.
Anyways, while we were at college, Smith treated me like we were in some kind of relationship. He was very protective and didn't like others associating with me. Eventually, in March 2020, I found Smith to be very mentally draining and had nicely told him that I no longer wanted to be friends.
After I had cut off Smith, he revealed to the public that he was bisexual. Smith then made up rumors to many others that him and I were in a "secret relationship" and that were "consistently having gay sex". Being from a very religious family, he knew that by telling people this, it would hurt my relationship with my family and religious friends. He expressed to his friends that he hated me, and that he wanted to get revenge on me for "breaking his heart" (because I'm not gay and didn't want a relationship lol). He told people that he had videos as proof.
When people confronted me about these rumors, I denied them. When asked about the video, I said that I wasn't aware of the video, but if there is one, it wasn't consensual and it was sexual assault. The reason why I said it is sexual assault is because I heard I was sleeping in this video. I do not remember doing anything with him... unless I was blacked out drunk in my dorm. I didn't know how else to respond to those claims of videos because when ever someone said "but there is video proof", I didn't know what to say. This is where the legal problems start to arise. Rumors then circulated that Smith had sexually assaulted me and that there is a video of it. The rumor got around to Smith, and then he tried to commit suicide because two of his close friends dropped him. He says that I edited this video to defame him and to cover up our "secret relationship"....which never happened.
Smith's family confronted my family, blaming his suicide attempt on me. They say that I started this rumor and that I intended to harm Smith. They want me to be held accountable for starting a rumor that I never made. After I dropped Smith, I never wanted to hurt him. They also say that I had sexually assaulted Smith sometime in October 2019, which also did not happen. They are supporting this claim by saying that Smith's rectum was bleeding in October (documented by a doctor) due to the fact that I apparently sexually assaulted him. However, Smith confessed to his friends that he wanted to have sex with me again just last month. If I actually did sexually assault him...why would he say this?
My question is.... is there any case here? They keep saying they are going to get lawyers and the authorities involved, but I have done nothing wrong. They say they have overwhelming documentation from the psychiatrist and psychologists Smith has been working with to prove we were in a secret relationship and that I caused his suicide. However, these medical officials have only been speaking to Smith and have no other choice but to believe them. Smith is also severely mentally ill and is diagnosed with depression and bipolar disorder. He is known to lie and mistake fantasy for reality (not diagnosed, just known from his friends). This is super draining and upsetting to be involved in and I just want to know if they can frame me for doing something I didn't do. I really appreciate any advice or help in advance.
I live in New Jersey and go to college in Pennsylvania. I'm a 19 y/o college student. I'm gonna call this person Smith (which isn't his real name). This is a complex story so I really appreciate any advice because I've been super worried about it.
Going into college, me and Smith were best friends since high school. We coincidently went to the same college and decided to dorm with each other in September 2019. However, Smith had a history with mental illness. I knew about this mental illness before, but did not know it was severe at all. Anyways, in college, Smith attempted to kill himself three times (my friends witnessed these suicide attempts as well). All three times I urged Smith to get help from the college therapy center and his psychologist. However, all three times, he did not listen.
Eventually, Smith irresponsibly drank alcohol while taking his medication which caused him to have a seizure. As we called 911, Smith woke up and magically was completely okay. We suspect that Smith had faked this seizure to lure me away from a girl I was interested in, but obviously, we are not sure. I called his parents, notifying them of Smith's suicide attempts. They picked him up from campus, but he returned a week later.
Anyways, while we were at college, Smith treated me like we were in some kind of relationship. He was very protective and didn't like others associating with me. Eventually, in March 2020, I found Smith to be very mentally draining and had nicely told him that I no longer wanted to be friends.
After I had cut off Smith, he revealed to the public that he was bisexual. Smith then made up rumors to many others that him and I were in a "secret relationship" and that were "consistently having gay sex". Being from a very religious family, he knew that by telling people this, it would hurt my relationship with my family and religious friends. He expressed to his friends that he hated me, and that he wanted to get revenge on me for "breaking his heart" (because I'm not gay and didn't want a relationship lol). He told people that he had videos as proof.
When people confronted me about these rumors, I denied them. When asked about the video, I said that I wasn't aware of the video, but if there is one, it wasn't consensual and it was sexual assault. The reason why I said it is sexual assault is because I heard I was sleeping in this video. I do not remember doing anything with him... unless I was blacked out drunk in my dorm. I didn't know how else to respond to those claims of videos because when ever someone said "but there is video proof", I didn't know what to say. This is where the legal problems start to arise. Rumors then circulated that Smith had sexually assaulted me and that there is a video of it. The rumor got around to Smith, and then he tried to commit suicide because two of his close friends dropped him. He says that I edited this video to defame him and to cover up our "secret relationship"....which never happened.
Smith's family confronted my family, blaming his suicide attempt on me. They say that I started this rumor and that I intended to harm Smith. They want me to be held accountable for starting a rumor that I never made. After I dropped Smith, I never wanted to hurt him. They also say that I had sexually assaulted Smith sometime in October 2019, which also did not happen. They are supporting this claim by saying that Smith's rectum was bleeding in October (documented by a doctor) due to the fact that I apparently sexually assaulted him. However, Smith confessed to his friends that he wanted to have sex with me again just last month. If I actually did sexually assault him...why would he say this?
My question is.... is there any case here? They keep saying they are going to get lawyers and the authorities involved, but I have done nothing wrong. They say they have overwhelming documentation from the psychiatrist and psychologists Smith has been working with to prove we were in a secret relationship and that I caused his suicide. However, these medical officials have only been speaking to Smith and have no other choice but to believe them. Smith is also severely mentally ill and is diagnosed with depression and bipolar disorder. He is known to lie and mistake fantasy for reality (not diagnosed, just known from his friends). This is super draining and upsetting to be involved in and I just want to know if they can frame me for doing something I didn't do. I really appreciate any advice or help in advance.
