Disagreement with guidelines

[Winsome]

It really sounds like your big argument against this is that "it's not fair that she gets to do it and I don't". The kids seem to come in second to your own desires.

EDIT: I'm just saying how it comes across...

Thanks, I guess that helps me to figure out my blind spot. My argument is 'she did it again, refused to send the children though I offered an alternate plan.' She seemed to follow my alternate plan at first, then at the last moment reversed her position. I guess my OP sounded the opposite.

Just to clarify, she did not offer a replacement. I did. But it was rejected. Now what she offered in the beginning is a vastly trimmed down version of what I have to get. She is of the impression that she is 100% adhering to the guidelines, whereas she is not. I confirmed this with my attorney as well as the children's therapist.

 

[Zigner]

I confirmed this with ... the children's therapist.

Do not take legal advice from your childrens' therapist. A therapist should not even be offering legal opinions on this.

 

[PayrollHRGuy]

I confirmed this with my attorney

And what did your attorney suggest be done about it?

 

[Winsome]

And what did your attorney suggest be done about it?

Filed a contempt.

 

[Winsome]

Do not take legal advice from your childrens' therapist. A therapist should not even be offering legal opinions on this.

Understood. The children and I had a therapist before our current one. He had recommended full custody to the mother and vouched for her completely. The problem, besides his going out of bounds, he hadn't met or talked to me prior to that recommendation. After this therapist was dismissed by the Court, I complained with the ATG office who sat on the case for 18 months, then came up with the cliché 'they could not find any evidence of unethical practice'.

 

[LdiJ]

Understood. The children and I had a therapist before our current one. He had recommended full custody to the mother and vouched for her completely. The problem, besides his going out of bounds, he hadn't met or talked to me prior to that recommendation. After this therapist was dismissed by the Court, I complained with the ATG office who sat on the case for 18 months, then came up with the cliché 'they could not find any evidence of unethical practice'.

It is not unethical for a therapist to have an opinion that is contrary to what one side believes is fair or just. Divorce/separation is inherently unfair and unjust to everyone involved.

 

[Ohiogal]

It is not unethical for a therapist to have an opinion that is contrary to what one side believes is unfair or unjust. Divorce/separation is inherently unfair and unjust to everyone involved.

It is unethical for a therapist to give opinions on visitation/custody decisions.

 

[stealth2]

It is unethical for a therapist to give opinions on visitation/custody decisions.

Interesingly, Winsome doesn't seem to think the current therapist did anything unethical by weighing in on the current issue.

 

[Winsome]

It is unethical for a therapist to give opinions on visitation/custody decisions.

It is my understanding talking with other highly qualified therapists, the APTA does not approve a therapist who recommends custody. Secondly, without talking or assessing the other parent, is a mistake. I may be wrong, but this is what I was told.

 

[Winsome]

Interesingly, Winsome doesn't seem to think the current therapist did anything unethical by weighing in on the current issue.

I asked the therapist and he gave me his opinion. He did not write a formal report to the court or vouched for a parent like the other one did.

 

[Zigner]

It is according to the APTA for a therapist to write a report recommending custody without talking or assessing the other parent.

What does the American Physical Therapy Association have to do with this? If you meant something else, then please clarify it.

 

[Zigner]

I asked the therapist and he gave me his opinion. He did not write a formal report to the court or vouched for a parent like the other one did.

Are you saying that the court ordered an evaluation?

 

[stealth2]

What does the American Physical Therapy Association have to do with this? If you meant something else, then please clarify it.

Could be the Americal Public Transportation Assoc. or American Platform Tennis Assoc....

 

[Winsome]

What does the American Physical Therapy Association have to do with this? If you meant something else, then please clarify it.

Sorry, psychological association

 

[Winsome]

Are you saying that the court ordered an evaluation?

No