Our family wizard

[Lookforward]

What is the name of your state? IL

Both parents are still living under the same roof, and seems like we are headed for a trial.
We both have this our wizard parenting app.

Just needed some guidance. I have been logging everything under moments. For example doing laundry, dishes, taking kids to school etc.
wondering if this is the right approach? Do i have to do anything else? I just want to make sure if the Judge is looking at my app she/he gets an accurate version of what my day to day is like.
Any advice will be appreciated

 

[zddoodah]

Both parents are still living under the same roof

Both of your parents? Or are you one of the parents?

and seems like we are headed for a trial.

A trial for what? A divorce case?

Just needed some guidance. I have been logging everything under moments. For example doing laundry, dishes, taking kids to school etc.
wondering if this is the right approach?

The right approach for what?

Do i have to do anything else?

Anything else for what?

I just want to make sure if the Judge is looking at my app she/he gets an accurate version of what my day to day is like.

No one here has any insight about your day-to-day life or what your app shows.

If there's a trial coming up, you should retain an attorney.

 

[quincy]

Doodah, Lookforward (like many posters to this site) have posting histories that describe what exactly their situations are. Although it would be nice if returning posters would add to their existing threads instead of starting a new thread, many don’t.

https://forum.freeadvice.com/threads/spousal-alimony.660875/

https://forum.freeadvice.com/threads/child-support-calculation.660937/

Lookforward, here is a link to the features on Our Family Wizard:
https://www.ourfamilywizard.com/product-features/

Forum members who have used Our Wizard will no doubt be by shortly to tell you how best to utilize it.

 

[Zigner]

What is the name of your state? IL

Both parents are still living under the same roof, and seems like we are headed for a trial.
We both have this our wizard parenting app.

Just needed some guidance. I have been logging everything under moments. For example doing laundry, dishes, taking kids to school etc.
wondering if this is the right approach? Do i have to do anything else? I just want to make sure if the Judge is looking at my app she/he gets an accurate version of what my day to day is like.
Any advice will be appreciated

Nobody cares when you do the laundry or the dishes...why do you think anybody would? What does *your* "day to day"(life, I'm assuming) have to do with anything?

 

[Lookforward]

I assumed the court would care who does Children laundry, who made them dinner who put them to sleep, who dropped them off to school, who picked them up from school, who takes them out to spend quality time etc etc.

@zddoodah
Both parent meaning Biological mom and dad are still living under the same roof with the kids

I just needed information on what i can write on the parenting app. It states moments. In moments i would put that i took the kids to school, I bought them back from school, i did their laundry etc etc

Thanks

 

[Zigner]

You *can* write anything you want...

 

[quincy]

I believe the main purpose of Our Wizard is to communicate with the other parent, to let them know the dates and times of important events in your children’s lives (e.g., PTA meetings, doctor appointments, sports practices, dance recitals) and things that the other parent needs to know (e.g., medicines that must be given and when, times to pick children up).

Because you and your wife still live together, there is really no need to make a note of when you do the wash or make a lunch - she already knows - unless you are trying to keep a record to show you are an involved parent or the primary caretaker of the children.

Our Wizard is generally recommended when parents cannot communicate civilly with each other, there is a lot of fighting or drama, and the court wants to monitor the exchanges.

I know there are forum members who have used the App. Perhaps they can give you a better idea of how to best utilize it.

 

[Ohiogal]

I assumed the court would care who does Children laundry, who made them dinner who put them to sleep, who dropped them off to school, who picked them up from school, who takes them out to spend quality time etc etc.

@zddoodah
Both parent meaning Biological mom and dad are still living under the same roof with the kids

I just needed information on what i can write on the parenting app. It states moments. In moments i would put that i took the kids to school, I bought them back from school, i did their laundry etc etc

Thanks

You are going to annoy the court with your ideas. They don't care about the minutiae. They really don't.
Moments should be big moments quite frankly -- Child's first day of school, first concert, first steps, first lost tooth, first haircut. Those types of things... And the court is going to wonder if both parents were able to participate (knew about it) or if one parents was being overly exclusive or trying to "hog" all the moments.

ETA: To be clear they should be moments that are big and to share with the other parent. Not to impress the court. If you are using OFW to impress the court, you are using it wrong.

 

[stealth2]

ISTM that the day-to-day routine is better documented in a journal. The court really isn't interested in reading the details of daily life. Including those just dilutes the important stuff. And, as stated, OFW is for the two of you (Mom& Dad) to communicate what's going on with the kids. So... you pick them up from school and (presumably) see whatever notes come home. In OFW, under moments (and I'm spitballing - we didn't use it), you write something like:

09/01/2021:
(a) Back To School Night is on 09/XX/2021.
(b) Parent-Teacher Conferences will be held week of AA/BB/2021, between hours of CC and DDpm.. A note will be sent home (whenever) for sign-ups.
(c) (Teacher) is looking for parent volunteers for the following:
*List*
(Teacher) requests feedback on parental interest by 09/YY/2021.

In your journal, you write what you/they did:
09/01/2021:
* dropped kids at school at ~time.
* picked kids up from school at ~time.
* Played (whatever), talked about their day, had snack.
* Kids did homework while I put in kids' laundry - how do their clothes get dirty so fast? At least they're having fun!
* Made XYZ for dinner. #1 loved it, #2 was okay with it, but hated the green beans.
* Watched *whatever*/Read together/etc. until ~time. Bathed #2, #1 showered while I put #2 to bed (read *story*, lights out at ~time. #1 did xyz, then lights out at ~time.

Your journal is for your use. When/if you have to respond to a GAL's interrogatories, you have a handy reference wrt your general routine with the kids, what they enjoy, etc. When you're in court and you're asked "Mr. Lookforward - could you describe your typical day with #1 and #2?" you've written it so many times, it's in your head.

 

[zddoodah]

@zddoodah
Both parent meaning Biological mom and dad are still living under the same roof with the kids

That was clear. What wasn't clear was whether you're one of the parents or the child of the parents (or someone else).

I just needed information on what i can write on the parenting app.

Obviously, you can write anything you like. If you would answer the questions I asked, it might help someone point you in the right direction.

 

[quincy]

Ohiogal is a FreeAdvice site-vetted family law attorney. Lookforward HAS been pointed in the right direction.

 

[stealth2]

That was clear. What wasn't clear was whether you're one of the parents or the child of the parents (or someone else).

Obviously, you can write anything you like. If you would answer the questions I asked, it might help someone point you in the right direction.

Ohiogal is a FreeAdvice site-vetted family law attorney. Lookforward HAS been pointed in the right direction.

Especially if one bothers to read the other posts - including those with links to prior threads by OP.

 

[not2cleverRed]

Both parent meaning Biological mom and dad are still living under the same roof with the kids

Perhaps a minor quibble, but in a divorce, what matters is who the legal parents are. Legal parents are not always biological parents.

 

[Lookforward]

@Ohiogal Noted and thanks for your advice.

My attorney's advice was to write everything down in OFW (Perhaps she meant all conversation moving forward)
I will check. I really don't want to piss off anyone. I am writing everything down in Google Calander what i do on a day-to-day basis for the children but since i got this app i started putting everything down here.


@not2cleverRed Long time ago you told me to agree on the parenting plan because it seemed to you like my STBX was not reasonable and will not agree to any plan not matter what, and that's exactly what happened. I agreed to their version of a parenting plan and after agreeing, then backed out of it.

There was another agreement on the table but instead of any positive news, I got a deposition order. They also send a deposition order to a close friend of mine. What a waste of time and money.
Don't even know why she sent a deposition to him.....


Every time I think it's getting close to over, she opens a new front. I am just tired and I want to get out but the fun continues.
Thank You guys you have been very helpful

 

[zddoodah]

My attorney's advice

Is what you should be seeking and following with respect to your original question.