What evidence to gather on open Affair

[burgesj7]

My wife and I agreed it's over about a month ago. We then decided to work on separation and we are still in that process. Her primary residence is the home that we share. She admitted to having an affair and has been living with him for about 2 weeks now, coming home every now and again.

I know the mans name, his full address and his telephone number.

I need advice on how I can collect the best evidence.

 

[adjusterjack]

Hire a private investigator.

That hadn't occurred to you?

 

[burgesj7]

Hire a private investigator.

That hadn't occurred to you?

I don't have 2500 dollars, I'm struggling being a single dad now.

 

[cbg]

What is the name of your state?

 

[Just Blue]

My wife and I agreed it's over about a month ago. We then decided to work on separation and we are still in that process. Her primary residence is the home that we share. She admitted to having an affair and has been living with him for about 2 weeks now, coming home every now and again.

I know the mans name, his full address and his telephone number.

I need advice on how I can collect the best evidence.

What state?

 

[adjusterjack]

I don't have 2500 dollars, I'm struggling being a single dad now.

Why do you want evidence of the affair if you already know about it and you're getting divorced anyway?

 

[Taxing Matters]

My wife and I agreed it's over about a month ago. We then decided to work on separation and we are still in that process. Her primary residence is the home that we share. She admitted to having an affair and has been living with him for about 2 weeks now, coming home every now and again.

I know the mans name, his full address and his telephone number.

I need advice on how I can collect the best evidence.

The state in which the divorce proceeding will take place matters. In a number of states that affair doesn't really change much in how the divorce would come out. You'll want a lawyer anyway if you plan to divorce, so consult a divorce lawyer and see if this will make any difference in how the divorce plays out before spending any more time, money, or effort getting more evidence of the affair.

 

[burgesj7]

What is the name of your state?

SC

 

[burgesj7]

The state in which the divorce proceeding will take place matters. In a number of states that affair doesn't really change much in how the divorce would come out. You'll want a lawyer anyway if you plan to divorce, so consult a divorce lawyer and see if this will make any difference in how the divorce plays out before spending any more time, money, or effort getting more evidence of the affair.

I'm in SC

 

[burgesj7]

Why do you want evidence of the affair if you already know about it and you're getting divorced anyway?

Gives me upper hand with custody and money

 

[burgesj7]

What is the name of your state?

SC

 

[burgesj7]

What is the name of your state?

SC

 

[stealth2]

Gives me upper hand with custody and money

Adultery will affect alimony but will likely have no impact on custody. Even in SC. In terms of custody, you would be better served showing why you would be the better custodial parent.

What is your end game in terms of custody?

 

[Ohiogal]

Gives me upper hand with custody and money

No it doesn't. The only thing that matters is whether the wife dissipated assets.

 

[stealth2]

No it doesn't. The only thing that matters is whether the wife dissipated assets.

In SC, adultery may affect the wife's ability to be awarded alimony.