What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Oregon
ex is being charged by state for telephonic harassment (class B misdemeanor). his lawyer contacted me for civil compromise. what do I do? I have PTSD that advanced to severe PTSD because of him and this contact has triggered me. I will talk to prosecutor on monday and let him know I have txt messages of him threatening to take my dog after I told him to not contact me on more than one occasion and him admitting to pushing me when he was drunk. will this make a difference to the case? how will having a misdemeanor on his record affect him in the future? What can I ask for as a compromise?
I met him 6mth after being raped and thought I was fine. He started showing red flags but would say I was overreacting or use my dog against me (i.e. you know she misses me). I was dealing with alot of guilt and shame from the rape and thought everything was my fault. I told him to go away in December 2012 and that is when he threatened to take my dog and I called the cops but they didn't do anything. I kept taking him back because I wasn't right in the head. My PTSD started to get uncontrollable around this time. In May 2013, I was diagsnosed with PTSD and ADHD. Once I was put on medication for this, I could see his true character and told him to stop contacting me. This is when he txted me 30 times and emailed me. I called the cops and they called him and told him not to contact me. He then sent about 15 more txt messages and I called the cops again and he was arrested for breaking the law since he disobeyed the officer. This has caused me distressed and my PTSD is now Severe PTSD and Severe Anxiety. I have had to move back to Colorado because I just feel unsafe from everything.
I just got to Colorado and was feeling better and now I am contacted by his lawyer for a civil compromise. Part of me wants to say, "yeah, $40,000 dollars and I will write the letter of settlement." (he is very well off). I am wondering if having this on his criminal record will really adversely affect him in the future (he works in a high end financial planning office and works in Politics) or if he is more worried about the stigma from his family for having this.
I am trying to figure out if I will feel closure knowing he is taking accountability for his actions by: A) having it on his record or B) hitting him where it hurts the most.....his wallet and make him at the same savings level as the majority of America. Also, if it will affect his job, He will be making bank by not having it on his record. I have to take this into consideration.
Please, any help will help me to stop obsessively thinking about it and getting flashbacks of my fear from it and my other traumas.
Thanks
ex is being charged by state for telephonic harassment (class B misdemeanor). his lawyer contacted me for civil compromise. what do I do? I have PTSD that advanced to severe PTSD because of him and this contact has triggered me. I will talk to prosecutor on monday and let him know I have txt messages of him threatening to take my dog after I told him to not contact me on more than one occasion and him admitting to pushing me when he was drunk. will this make a difference to the case? how will having a misdemeanor on his record affect him in the future? What can I ask for as a compromise?
I met him 6mth after being raped and thought I was fine. He started showing red flags but would say I was overreacting or use my dog against me (i.e. you know she misses me). I was dealing with alot of guilt and shame from the rape and thought everything was my fault. I told him to go away in December 2012 and that is when he threatened to take my dog and I called the cops but they didn't do anything. I kept taking him back because I wasn't right in the head. My PTSD started to get uncontrollable around this time. In May 2013, I was diagsnosed with PTSD and ADHD. Once I was put on medication for this, I could see his true character and told him to stop contacting me. This is when he txted me 30 times and emailed me. I called the cops and they called him and told him not to contact me. He then sent about 15 more txt messages and I called the cops again and he was arrested for breaking the law since he disobeyed the officer. This has caused me distressed and my PTSD is now Severe PTSD and Severe Anxiety. I have had to move back to Colorado because I just feel unsafe from everything.
I just got to Colorado and was feeling better and now I am contacted by his lawyer for a civil compromise. Part of me wants to say, "yeah, $40,000 dollars and I will write the letter of settlement." (he is very well off). I am wondering if having this on his criminal record will really adversely affect him in the future (he works in a high end financial planning office and works in Politics) or if he is more worried about the stigma from his family for having this.
I am trying to figure out if I will feel closure knowing he is taking accountability for his actions by: A) having it on his record or B) hitting him where it hurts the most.....his wallet and make him at the same savings level as the majority of America. Also, if it will affect his job, He will be making bank by not having it on his record. I have to take this into consideration.
Please, any help will help me to stop obsessively thinking about it and getting flashbacks of my fear from it and my other traumas.
Thanks