splcstr2001 said:
Child support whatever she wants it to cover.
C/S is to cover the basic needs of the child (food,clothing & shelter). States state this differently. I'd say that $225.00 per kid per week is very decent. It's not as if they need new clothes every week.
Your hausband DOES NOT HAVE TO PROVIDE ANYTHING ELSE other than what is in his paperwork.
If you two provide extra clothes, supplies, etc. It's a gift to the children.
I have a friend that recently stopped all the "extra's".
The CP was mad as hell. She was getting support, medical & dental (ordered) AND he was paying for 1/2 of all extra curricular activities, spending $500.00 at school time for clothes and an additional $600.00 at Christmas time for more clothes........................the CP had it made because she used the kids to manipulate him.
the NCP (your husband) does not have to do this.
Besides.........didn't she have to pay her rent, car, lights,etc before she had kids????
I mean, how much water, electricity and food can 2 pre teens use, certainly not $225.00 weekly.
Good Luck!
I wish my ex husband would give our daughter "extras". He never asks if she needs anything more nor does he bother to have things for her at his house. I pay for her medical/dental insurance even though he is court ordered to do so. I do it because I dont want the hassle of "hoping" he will pay copays and/or deductibles so that the bills wont go to collections eventually.
He is married to a gal with 3 girls. The youngest child is about a year older than our daughter. My ex asks constantly if I will send our daughter over with a few toys so that she has something to play with at his house the weekends she visits. I have sent her with a few things she picked out to bring over there. But, my argument is that if the youngest stepchild is playing with pretty much the same toys our daughter does, why can she not share?? If she is not wanting to share, then why cant he go out and buy a few toys for our daughter to have there? It just seems petty that he cannot provide his child with a few things to play with or ask the stepchild to share.
Back to what was quoted above, why is it you feel that what your husband may buy the children is considered "extras"??? Those are his kids and he should do whatever he can for them. I go without buying new things for a long while so that my kids can have new school clothes, shoes and supplies. I dont get child support for my son, so I have to do for him on my own. I dont have a problem with it though. I do get minimal child support every month for my daughter, most of which goes to before/after school care. But, I still do a lot for my kids without much help from others. I do it out of love for my kids.
Although your husband doesnt have to buy the kids "extras", if that is what you choose to do, then there shouldnt be a b*tch fit about it. Maybe, just maybe his kids will be thankful that Dad thought of them enough to buy them some nice goodies. Maybe they will see that Dad isnt being selfish when it comes to them. Maybe one day down the road they will thank him for being as kind and loving as he has been. Just a thought...