17 year old moved out

[djmiddle]

What is the name of your state? South Carolina
My 17 year old just told me he was moving in with a friend and his family. Is there anything legally I can do to stop this? He is a Junior in High School. I am afraid he will drop out of school.

 

[JETX]

Is there anything legally I can do to stop this?

Yep. The evening he first 'moves out', send the police to his friends house and have him picked up and brought home.
When his friend (or his friends parents) get warned of their potential arrest, wanna' bet their home would no longer be available to him??

 

[djmiddle]

If I do this, is there anything they can do to me. When I got home, his clothes and stuff was gone.

 

[Happy Trails]

If I do this, is there anything they can do to me. When I got home, his clothes and stuff was gone.

Who is "they"?

 

[xylene]

Yep. The evening he first 'moves out', send the police to his friends house and have him picked up and brought home.
When his friend (or his friends parents) get warned of their potential arrest, wanna' bet their home would no longer be available to him??

Yeah the police are gonna be all over that hot call. Here how that will work out as a 1940's style radio play...

Dispatch: "Radio Car 37... Radio Car 37... I have a report 17 year old MALE possibly cooling out for a few nights a friends until he realizes that mom is supporting his butt..."

RC37 "Radio Car 37 in route at top speed. " Sgt Rockson (to self) "Kids doubling his chances of dropping out of High School. Makes me sick."

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Now you might see that I am being extremely sarcastic. In calling the police prepare to be underwelmed by the urgency they give to your nearly adult MALE offspring and that you have to push things ALOT.

 

[djmiddle]

"they" would be the parents of the friend that my son has moved in with. When I got home his clothes and things are gone. I am very upset about this and I am just trying to find out any information I can.

 

[gawm]

What in the world would they be able to do to you? You're not beating or molesting this kid are you? Call the police, have them go get your son. Tell them next time you will press charges. That should be the end of the story.

 

[djmiddle]

No, no one has beat or molested my son. He has a good home here. He thinks that his dad and I are to strict on him. We like to know where he is and who he is with. My son has gotten to the point he thinks he can come and go as he pleases. My husband and I have told him that will not be the case here. We require that he be at home at a certain time. I do not know if the kid is on some type of drugs or just under the influence of his friends. I am going to the police today to see if they can do anything. I do not want to see my son get into trouble and I am afraid that is where he is headed.

 

[JETX]

I am going to the police today to see if they can do anything.

Don't waste your, or the police departments, time. There is NOTHING they can do until your son actually leaves.

 

[CdwJava]

You might consider speaking to these other parents and suggesting that you will have them charged with contributing to the delinquency of a minor or harboring a runaway (presuming these are crimes in SC) if they follow through with allowing your son to remain with them. Lacking that, you can tell your son that he will become the poison pill because you will have anyone he stays with charged for violating the law.

Tell him that when he is 18 he can flush his life down the toilet. Until then, he has to follow the rules and there will be consequences to breaking those rules. Right now he is trying to manipulate you - do not cave in.

As a father of three sons myself, I wish you good luck.

- Carl

 

[moburkes]

Don't waste your, or the police departments, time. There is NOTHING they can do until your son actually leaves.

He already left.

 

[Happy Trails]

South Carolina statute:

SECTION 16-17-490. Contributing to delinquency of a minor.

It shall be unlawful for any person over eighteen years of age to knowingly and wilfully encourage, aid or cause or to do any act which shall cause or influence a minor:

(1) To violate any law or any municipal ordinance;

(2) To become and be incorrigible or ungovernable or habitually disobedient and beyond the control of his or her parent, guardian, custodian or other lawful authority;

(3) To become and be habitually truant;

(4) To without just cause and without the consent of his or her parent, guardian or other custodian, repeatedly desert his or her home or place of abode;

(5) To engage in any occupation which is in violation of law;

(6) To associate with immoral or vicious persons;

(7) To frequent any place the existence of which is in violation of law;

(8) To habitually use obscene or profane language;

(9) To beg or solicit alms in any public places under any pretense;

(10) To so deport himself or herself as to wilfully injure or endanger his or her morals or health or the morals or health of others.

Any person violating the provisions of this section shall upon conviction be fined not more than three thousand dollars or imprisoned for not more than three years, or both, in the discretion of the court.

This section is intended to be cumulative and shall not be construed so as to defeat prosecutions under any other law which is applicable to unlawful acts embraced herein.

The provisions of this section shall not apply to any school board of trustees promulgating rules and regulations as authorized by Section 59-19-90(3) which prescribe standards of conduct and behavior in the public schools of the district. Provided, however, that any such rule or regulation which contravenes any portion of the provisions of this section shall first require the consent of the parent or legal guardian of the minor or minors concerned.

 

[CdwJava]

There ya go! The kid is poison to any adult that takes him in without the parents' permission!

- Carl

 

[gretchen leslie]

what

If I do this, is there anything they can do to me. .

such as? what can they do? theyre the ones breaking the law, keeping a kid thats not theirs, and refusing to send him home. whatever is going on in your house is not their business.

 

[djmiddle]

Thank you all for your advice. I have spoken with the police. In South Carolina, a individual can move out of the home at 17 years of age. I can not force him to come home. South Carolina laws sees him as a person that is capable of making their own decisions at 17 years of age. He would still have to attend school. If he does not attend school, I will have to attend a hearing, but will not be held resposible for his actions. He will be tried as an adult at the age of 17. So, there is nothing at all I can do in this case. Just hope and pray he sees the light and comes to his sences.