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22 y/o considering a platonic relationship with a 15 y/o- Am I a Freak??
What is the name of your state? California (City, Los Angeles)
In doing research on the Internet I came to this place.
I am 22 years old and have a bright future ahead of me. I received my Bachelors of Science in Electronics Engineering when I was 20 years old. I am working hard in building my career so that I can a strong and financial foundation for when its time for me to get married. Long story short, I do not want jeopardize my future or throw my efforts all away.
As you have guessed, this question is about dating a minor.
First off, I am not looking for a loophole to have sex with her, as I will not, even if she consents to it. My question is not about having sex because it is beyond my morals and more importantly against the law. I wont risk the possibility of going to Jail.
My question is about kissing and holding hands; can it get me in trouble?
I am a Hispanic American and have the mothers consent to see her daughter. In a Mexican culture, this kind of relationship is not frowned upon. However, I am well aware that I am an American and am in the United States and this sort of thing is not condoned.
Last night I visited her.. Just before I left, she kissed me on the lips. Needless to say, I have been a nervous wreck because of that.
I will see her later this afternoon, and I will tell her that it made me very uncomfortable and we have to take things a lot Slower. However, at the same time it made me feel closer to here. I just want to know the legal ramifications of what happened last night. Is kissing considered sexual contact?
I have been thinking a lot about this and the difference in age is really stressing me. You’re probably asking yourself, why is he seeing a minor in the first place? (Which I have asked my self many a times…) My interest with her is not to have sex with her because she is young and desirable, albeit that doesn’t take away from it either. We have many, many things in common which we completely 100% agree on, we rarely argue, and more importantly she makes me feel complete.
I understand that because of her age, we will not have the full freedoms of a normal relationship and I have no say in that and must accept it if I want to continue to see her.
I like her a lot and decided that I would rather give up sexual part of the relationship than stop seeing her.
I have dated girls my age and even older. It’s not so much the age but the compatibility. I have not previously meet a person whom am I so compatible with.
I am looking for guidance on how to maintain a healthy relationship with someone who I care about without ruining my life.
She is 15 years old turning 16 in June 2005. I am 22 yrs old turning 23 in Nov 2004.
When I talked to her about it, she said I wouldn’t go to jail if no one knows about it because she won’t tell anyone. However, I am not that naive and recognize that because of her age she lacks maturity that age brings. All this being said, I will not have sex with her because of the legal issues.
However, I still want to be able to hold her hands when I watch a movie with her or I still want to be able to put my arms around her when we go to the park for walks.
I do feel comfortable kissing her on the check but do not feel comfortable kissing her on the lips. I am afraid that kissing on the lips will eventually lead to further things as it always does with couples.
I know that many of you people reading this will be quick to judge but only god can judge me when I die and the courts right now that I am alive. Basically, my plans are to play by both the parents and the courts rules.
If this means simply having conversations with her for the next 3 years, then that is something I am preparing myself to deal with both physically and emotionally.
Both positive and Negative comments are welcome. I understand everyone will have very different opinions regarding my situation and I respect that.
I just want to know how the courts dictate my relationship with her will be.
Basically, I want a very detailed and exact as possible explanation of what is and what is not allowed by our laws in terms of physical contact. (ex. kissing, hugging, etc. )
Thanks in advance.
TrzVpr
What is the name of your state? California (City, Los Angeles)
In doing research on the Internet I came to this place.
I am 22 years old and have a bright future ahead of me. I received my Bachelors of Science in Electronics Engineering when I was 20 years old. I am working hard in building my career so that I can a strong and financial foundation for when its time for me to get married. Long story short, I do not want jeopardize my future or throw my efforts all away.
As you have guessed, this question is about dating a minor.
First off, I am not looking for a loophole to have sex with her, as I will not, even if she consents to it. My question is not about having sex because it is beyond my morals and more importantly against the law. I wont risk the possibility of going to Jail.
My question is about kissing and holding hands; can it get me in trouble?
I am a Hispanic American and have the mothers consent to see her daughter. In a Mexican culture, this kind of relationship is not frowned upon. However, I am well aware that I am an American and am in the United States and this sort of thing is not condoned.
Last night I visited her.. Just before I left, she kissed me on the lips. Needless to say, I have been a nervous wreck because of that.
I will see her later this afternoon, and I will tell her that it made me very uncomfortable and we have to take things a lot Slower. However, at the same time it made me feel closer to here. I just want to know the legal ramifications of what happened last night. Is kissing considered sexual contact?
I have been thinking a lot about this and the difference in age is really stressing me. You’re probably asking yourself, why is he seeing a minor in the first place? (Which I have asked my self many a times…) My interest with her is not to have sex with her because she is young and desirable, albeit that doesn’t take away from it either. We have many, many things in common which we completely 100% agree on, we rarely argue, and more importantly she makes me feel complete.
I understand that because of her age, we will not have the full freedoms of a normal relationship and I have no say in that and must accept it if I want to continue to see her.
I like her a lot and decided that I would rather give up sexual part of the relationship than stop seeing her.
I have dated girls my age and even older. It’s not so much the age but the compatibility. I have not previously meet a person whom am I so compatible with.
I am looking for guidance on how to maintain a healthy relationship with someone who I care about without ruining my life.
She is 15 years old turning 16 in June 2005. I am 22 yrs old turning 23 in Nov 2004.
When I talked to her about it, she said I wouldn’t go to jail if no one knows about it because she won’t tell anyone. However, I am not that naive and recognize that because of her age she lacks maturity that age brings. All this being said, I will not have sex with her because of the legal issues.
However, I still want to be able to hold her hands when I watch a movie with her or I still want to be able to put my arms around her when we go to the park for walks.
I do feel comfortable kissing her on the check but do not feel comfortable kissing her on the lips. I am afraid that kissing on the lips will eventually lead to further things as it always does with couples.
I know that many of you people reading this will be quick to judge but only god can judge me when I die and the courts right now that I am alive. Basically, my plans are to play by both the parents and the courts rules.
If this means simply having conversations with her for the next 3 years, then that is something I am preparing myself to deal with both physically and emotionally.
Both positive and Negative comments are welcome. I understand everyone will have very different opinions regarding my situation and I respect that.
I just want to know how the courts dictate my relationship with her will be.
Basically, I want a very detailed and exact as possible explanation of what is and what is not allowed by our laws in terms of physical contact. (ex. kissing, hugging, etc. )
Thanks in advance.
TrzVpr
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