Luckymommy6
Junior Member
We live in California,
I have 3 girls ages 12, 11, and 9. We have a court ordered custody and live approx. 2 hours apart. The girls live with me and we have went through a custody evaluation and was pretty much pointless. A year ago my two oldest daughters said they wanted to stop going every other weekend to their dad's house because they miss out on sports and going to friends and parties. I have tried to work with him by changing weekends but he refuses. So we have tried counseling and lots of therapy but nothing works. About 4 months ago my ex said he would sign over all rights and let my daughters be adopted by my husband and they at that time were upset and said no, but two months later my oldest daughter asked again and he said yes. We were in a family therapy session and my other two daughters were asking for more time with their dad. At the time everyone was happy and got what they wanted. Two days later my oldest daughter was being told that she had to come over for a visit. Dad wanted my other daughters to live with him and he began saying he wanted to change the court papers to show that and he wouldn't make my oldest come over anymore. When I refused he said that my oldest had to come over again. By the end of the summer the two oldest girls wanted nothing to do with him. Told him so. Called him as often as possible begging to get out of visitation.
Last month he demanded everyone to be there for a meeting so we could talk. He sat down the girls and told us that he was signing over full custody to me and that my daughters no longer had to come see him for visits. He said this to myself and my daughters along with his ex boss. The girls were told it was done and then he left and they were not made to go to his house anymore. Now, he is trying to force me to let my youngest daughter live with him. I refused so he is saying he won't follow what he promised the other girls. He actually tells them if I don't come to an agreement with him then they willl be forced to do this until they turn 18.
Legal question
What can be done to help my daughters? Is there anything to force him to make him follow through with what he promised them?
I have 3 girls ages 12, 11, and 9. We have a court ordered custody and live approx. 2 hours apart. The girls live with me and we have went through a custody evaluation and was pretty much pointless. A year ago my two oldest daughters said they wanted to stop going every other weekend to their dad's house because they miss out on sports and going to friends and parties. I have tried to work with him by changing weekends but he refuses. So we have tried counseling and lots of therapy but nothing works. About 4 months ago my ex said he would sign over all rights and let my daughters be adopted by my husband and they at that time were upset and said no, but two months later my oldest daughter asked again and he said yes. We were in a family therapy session and my other two daughters were asking for more time with their dad. At the time everyone was happy and got what they wanted. Two days later my oldest daughter was being told that she had to come over for a visit. Dad wanted my other daughters to live with him and he began saying he wanted to change the court papers to show that and he wouldn't make my oldest come over anymore. When I refused he said that my oldest had to come over again. By the end of the summer the two oldest girls wanted nothing to do with him. Told him so. Called him as often as possible begging to get out of visitation.
Last month he demanded everyone to be there for a meeting so we could talk. He sat down the girls and told us that he was signing over full custody to me and that my daughters no longer had to come see him for visits. He said this to myself and my daughters along with his ex boss. The girls were told it was done and then he left and they were not made to go to his house anymore. Now, he is trying to force me to let my youngest daughter live with him. I refused so he is saying he won't follow what he promised the other girls. He actually tells them if I don't come to an agreement with him then they willl be forced to do this until they turn 18.
Legal question
What can be done to help my daughters? Is there anything to force him to make him follow through with what he promised them?