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Loko, I know what a crappy childhood feels like, but I'm the last one to make excuses for someone because of a bad childhood. I'm much more likely to hold you accountable for doing better than your childhood.
You are not seeing how irresponsible your mother is behaving because you are young. To responsible adults, her behavior is inappropriate. That isn't your fault, and you have no control over that so don't take remarks about her irresponsibility personally.
You are intelligent enough to ask for help, even to make some excuses, so you are intelligent enough to help yourself out of the hell you are living in now. Right now you have no real control over a lot of your circumstances, but you can still make good choices. Making good choices now will keep you out of prison in the future.
The first thing you need to do is to do is to clear up your youthful indiscretions while you are still a youth. Call a criminal defense attorney and beg them to help you if your mother will not pay for it. There is no guarantee that it will work, but you might be able to find someone to help you because you are young, and you WANT to get this straightened out.
The second thing you need to do is take a good look around yourself. I know it isn't good and so do you. Admitting that is not disrespectful of your mother, or your upbringing. It is reality, life really sucks for some, and the way out is going to have to be done through your own hard work. You do not get to be a child any longer, and I'm sorry for you, but someone in your life has to behave like an adult. You might as well get use to it, you are going to spend most of your life as an adult anyway. If your grades suck right now, you still have a few more years to get it together. Work at it. If you don't understand it, ask for help. I would bet your teachers would help you if you approach them right.
Do you have any goals? Now would be a good time to set some if your don't. Set high, but achievable goals for five years from now and ten years from now. Since you are young, you can do anything you want as long as you want it enough and you know how to get it. If you need help, a teacher can help with that too. If for some reason the teacher tries to dissuade you from what you want, tell the teacher he/she is wrong about you, and really mean it. Then set out to prove it.
Escaping poverty is difficult. You already have some marks against you, but it is possible, and it is worth the struggle. In ten years from now you can be damn near anything you want if you keep yourself out of trouble and apply yourself.
When you look back on this later, you will see it in a whole different light. Right now you cannot control everything around you, but soon enough it is all going to be up to you. Control what you can right now by making good choices. I'm sorry it is boring where you live. A few years of boredom is a lot better than a few years behind bars. The next time you and your friends are bored, play charades or something.
You are not seeing how irresponsible your mother is behaving because you are young. To responsible adults, her behavior is inappropriate. That isn't your fault, and you have no control over that so don't take remarks about her irresponsibility personally.
You are intelligent enough to ask for help, even to make some excuses, so you are intelligent enough to help yourself out of the hell you are living in now. Right now you have no real control over a lot of your circumstances, but you can still make good choices. Making good choices now will keep you out of prison in the future.
The first thing you need to do is to do is to clear up your youthful indiscretions while you are still a youth. Call a criminal defense attorney and beg them to help you if your mother will not pay for it. There is no guarantee that it will work, but you might be able to find someone to help you because you are young, and you WANT to get this straightened out.
The second thing you need to do is take a good look around yourself. I know it isn't good and so do you. Admitting that is not disrespectful of your mother, or your upbringing. It is reality, life really sucks for some, and the way out is going to have to be done through your own hard work. You do not get to be a child any longer, and I'm sorry for you, but someone in your life has to behave like an adult. You might as well get use to it, you are going to spend most of your life as an adult anyway. If your grades suck right now, you still have a few more years to get it together. Work at it. If you don't understand it, ask for help. I would bet your teachers would help you if you approach them right.
Do you have any goals? Now would be a good time to set some if your don't. Set high, but achievable goals for five years from now and ten years from now. Since you are young, you can do anything you want as long as you want it enough and you know how to get it. If you need help, a teacher can help with that too. If for some reason the teacher tries to dissuade you from what you want, tell the teacher he/she is wrong about you, and really mean it. Then set out to prove it.
Escaping poverty is difficult. You already have some marks against you, but it is possible, and it is worth the struggle. In ten years from now you can be damn near anything you want if you keep yourself out of trouble and apply yourself.
When you look back on this later, you will see it in a whole different light. Right now you cannot control everything around you, but soon enough it is all going to be up to you. Control what you can right now by making good choices. I'm sorry it is boring where you live. A few years of boredom is a lot better than a few years behind bars. The next time you and your friends are bored, play charades or something.
I live in Massachusetts right now and it's not that boring here. I am though 1,000+ Miles away from where this incident happend (FL). I would have no idea on how to go about this because the laws in FL are extremely different. I dont also think there is a Lawyer in MA to help me with this case. Unfortunately I live in a city where if you live in poverty you are an outcast. You may be able to tell I dont have many friends also my grades are great in school I have A's & B's and very few teachers are supportive of me (many of them dont know what I live with). The only teacher that really supports me and talks to me would be my U.S. History teacher. I also do not see my mom as being irresponsible and if I tryed to take this matter into my own hands it would be very difficult to come home and eat at the same dinner table.
I appreciate the NICE response I recived.
Thank You
I appreciate the NICE response I recived.
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I do understand some of the way you feel. I'm trying to think of a way to help you, but I'm not sure how to go about it. I'll let you in on a secret though, it isn't because I'm feeling sorry for you, I'm wanting to help because there is a lot of potential that I am seeing. If you want people to help you, you should capitalize on your abilities, but not your ability to be a snot or invoke sympathy 
I do understand why you aren't wanting to go around your mother right now, and that MIGHT be understood, if you take care of it quickly when you turn 18. It is pretty likely to come back to haunt you if you ignore it forever.
I am glad you love your mother, that is exactly the way it should be. I wish I could show you what I am seeing without it hurting. For now though, just keep in mind what I'm saying. Admitting that things aren't entirely as they should be is not being disrespectful towards your mother. If you never see it, you are bound to repeat it. I don't know you, or your mother, so I cannot possibly be saying that just to be mean, or because you're poor. I'm saying it to try to give you half a chance. Maybe you can keep it in the back of your mind, and mull over it occasionally?
I do understand why you aren't wanting to go around your mother right now, and that MIGHT be understood, if you take care of it quickly when you turn 18. It is pretty likely to come back to haunt you if you ignore it forever.
I am glad you love your mother, that is exactly the way it should be. I wish I could show you what I am seeing without it hurting. For now though, just keep in mind what I'm saying. Admitting that things aren't entirely as they should be is not being disrespectful towards your mother. If you never see it, you are bound to repeat it. I don't know you, or your mother, so I cannot possibly be saying that just to be mean, or because you're poor. I'm saying it to try to give you half a chance. Maybe you can keep it in the back of your mind, and mull over it occasionally?
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