Abandoned Kids

[RiotAct]

She seems to be concerned about the children's welfare even when they are with their parents. If there are drugs and such involved, I can understand her concern for the kids and if I were in her shoes, I'd contact Children's Services (and hope it's a lot better than Children's Services here where I live!) and relay my concerns to an investigator. This woman has her own kids and a baby on the way to worry about right now. As much as she cares for these other children and loves them, I hope she's able to do what she feels she needs to without feeling bad about it. I feel bad for those children and for the OP. It's a horrible position she's been put into.

 

[casa]

The $700 was for an unspecified amount of time. It was just sort of "starter" money. They needed all new clothes, we had to buy some furniture for their room, I wanted to enroll them in a local "Mommy and Me" type art/craft class so we could get to know each other and bond, it was just for initial expenses. They claimed at the beginning that they were unemployed and had very little money, so they were just going to send what they could when they could.

The expense is another thing. At the very least these kids need some serious counseling, and of course our insurance won't cover it. I was hoping that CPS or some kind of social service could at least help with that.

I'd like to address 2 points.

1) First of all your state does not have Jurisdiction of these children at this point...they've only been there a month & CA is their home state as their Married parents live there & they were born there. It's unclear at this point who holds Jurisdiction...therefore involving Social Services would be wise, as they have the authority to take Jurisdiction for the sake of the Health & Welfare of these children.

2) Social Services DOES have no and low cost medical, dental & psychiatric care. You must contact them, advise them of your situation and ASK for it. (Meanwhile, YOUR insurance will cover YOUR counseling sessions, in which case you'd have some direction/advice re; this situation).
In addition, Social Services will contact the parents~ and if ever they needed a push to be more responsible, that could be it. They'll either ACT to retrieve their children...or risk them being placed in Foster Care. If that happens...it's up to YOU if you want to petition for Guardianship, etc. of the children...and also support from the parents or state aid which the parents will be responsible for repaying.


As an end note~ a child of age 2-4 is still forming who they are. To label them Sociopaths is alarming at best. Abandoned, Instituionalized, etc. children will have some needs in the beginning (& possibly lingering for awhile). They are not beyond help. They are very young and need love, support, structure & care. If you cannot provide that~ then get them into the hands of someone who is willing to continue trying.