Admissible Legal Statements

[BL]

The court awarded me child support for each child residing with me. [ quote ]

That's what I meant by the whole truth , and not playing hop scotch , or whatever that game is called .

The feet missed a few blocks .

I hope your saying that the 20 yr. old is the only child left , and that he is still in school , witch entitles you to child support.

Honesty , I can NOT see an order of " JOINT CUSTODY " on an Adult 20 yr. old .

CUSTODY & CHILD SUPPORT ARE SEPARATE ISSUES .

 

[delayjf]

I got joint custody in the original divorce settlement. I was the only one award CS for the three kids, my two oldest children lived with me. However, the son in question choose to live with his dad. Obviously I recieved no CS for him while he lived with his father. But at 16, my ex kicked him out and from then on he lived with me. The court award CS until the minor graduated HS and was 18 years old, or until the minor was 19 years old.

I didn't mean to be vague on those specifics, only I didn't think all of this was relevant to my question of proving that he resided with me those three years.

 

[nextwife]

And so, did you pay CS to the father for the years the child was with him?

 

[delayjf]

No, the court did not award him CS, rather they only awarded me CS for the children living with me. I was never required to pay him CS nor did the child living with him off set any CS due me for the two children residing with me.

 

[BL]

The court awarded me child support for each child residing with me. [ quote ] { by original poster}

That's what I meant by the whole truth , and not playing hop scotch , or whatever that game is called . { by Blonde }

Oh boy !! Oh Women !!

Let's play hopscotch .. Then You can try drawing blood from a Rock .

and please don't ask what it means .

 

[stealth2]

No, the court did not award him CS, rather they only awarded me CS for the children living with me. I was never required to pay him CS nor did the child living with him off set any CS due me for the two children residing with me.

Let's try to make this s.i.m.p.l.e. You were awarded support for the children living with you - 2 children, yes? You did not receive, nor did you pay, support for child #3. Correct? How long did child #3 live with Dad? With you?

The more clear you can be, the better we can help you. To now, your posts are as clear as mud, tho.

 

[BL]

6 months ago, I took my exhusband back to court to get back child support due to me after the father kicked my youngest son out of his house (joint custody). But in the pre-trail meeting with their attorney, my son stabbed me in the back claiming that he'd only lived with me a "short time". Not the 18 months that he actually did live with me.

Now he's in a bad spot finacially and is living with me again. But I told him that in order for him to move in, he'd have to sign a paper acknowleging that he did in fact live with me those 18 months.
[ quote ] orig. poster :

I think the second paragraph said it all .. Never mind the "father" supported 2 children while raising 1 .

Now because the 1 son the father raised ,needs money mom wants to draw blood .

For peets sake he's an adult NOW.

 

[nextwife]

Poster, is the period of time ex had custody of the child (WHILE OF CS AGE) without recieving support equal or greater than the period of time you had him without recieving support? If so, consider it a wash (if the same) or even that you came out ahead (if his time of custody exceeded yours) and forget the whole thing.

 

[delayjf]

Stealth2

Let's try to make this s.i.m.p.l.e. You were awarded support for the children living with you - 2 children, yes? You did not receive, nor did you pay, support for child #3. Correct? How long did child #3 live with Dad? With you?

The ex and I were awarded joint custody. I alone was awarded support for all my children, I never paid him anything. My two oldest decided to reside with me, my youngest with his dad. Because one child lived with the father, I never asked or recieved any CS for him. He lived with his father for 6 years. He then threw him out of the house, he then moved in with me for 3 years.

Nextwife
Funny this issue never came up with my lawyer in my first attempt to collect from my EX. He never at anytime intimated that his time of custody would off set the time I had custody.

Blonde Lebinese
You sound bitter, somebody stick it to you lately???

 

[stealth2]

I think you're really wasting your money on this one, delay. But that's your choice.

 

[nextwife]

"Nextwife
Funny this issue never came up with my lawyer in my first attempt to collect from my EX. He never at anytime intimated that his time of custody would off set the time I had custody."

It should not be that the ONLY one expected to pay CS is the male parent. XS should go to whomever the CP happens to be.

Well, lets really look at this. YOU wish to be able to recieve CS for a period of time that you had custody without a CS order, right? Three years?

So, he also had custody for a period of time in which there was no CS order, nor any corresponding REDUCTION in his CS order. Three years or more? If you and your attorney feel he should owe CS for the time the child was with you, isn't it logical that you should then owe support for the period of time the child was with him? After all, CS is money the CP is putting out to care for the child. You EACH were CPs to this child, you for three years, he for the rest.

 

[BL]

Blonde Lebinese
You sound bitter, somebody stick it to you lately???
[ quote]

Joint custody was awarded , and I was awarded CS for ALL my children [ orig . poster ]

No, the court did not award him CS, rather they only awarded me CS for the children living with me. [ quote from another post ]

My son decided to live w/ his Dad [ orig. poster ]

To the original poster, no I'm not bitter , and no I haven't had it stuck to me recently !!

But I have had it stuck to me in the past !! But finally I got my day even though it had to go all the way to appeals !!

I am simply responding to your own words , and what I see as in my opinion , is someone looking for a way to get some cash because finances are strained, and a little bitterness on your end.

Read your own post . " I was awarded CS for ALL MY CHILDREN "

You are contradicting yourself !!!

So the the son chose to live w/ Dad a few yrs & you a Few yrs.

In that scenario , you believe you should be paid TWICE ?

 

[delayjf]

It should not be that the ONLY one expected to pay CS is the male parent. XS should go to whomever the CP happens to be

I was awarded CS based on the huge differences in our income. I was basically a stay at home mom for 19 years. I can't argue with the logic of the CP recieving CS, but that was not the way the court ordered CS to be paid.

Well, lets really look at this. YOU wish to be able to recieve CS for a period of time that you had custody without a CS order, right? Three years?

No, there is a CS order. I'm not asking for anything that was not originally awarded to me.

I think you're really wasting your money on this one, delay. But that's your choice

I'm assuming this is a legal opinion, if so, do you you feel that my old attorney should have advised me that I had no legal standing from the get go. In which case, I've already wasted my money.

Read your own post . " I was awarded CS for ALL MY CHILDREN " You are contradicting yourself !!!So the the son chose to live w/ Dad a few yrs & you a Few yrs.In that scenario , you believe you should be paid TWICE ?

I don't understand how the Courts awarding me CS for all my children contradicts myself. In the original hearing it was assumed that all three would live with me. But in later hearings the court knew that he was residing with the father but the courts did not order me to pay him nor did they offset one child for the other.

I could go into a long story of how I got burned as well, and yes, I wouldn't mind a little blood. But my personal feeling aside, that do not change the legality of my action. If I have no legal foundation, that's one thing. If you don't feel I can or should persue this because its sound personal, I say so what. Payed Twice!!! I never got paid once.

 

[nextwife]

Maybe we are misunderstanding what you wrote.

You wrote that the CS order was for ALL your children and that the award was NOT reduced when your son went to live with his dad. So far correct?

So, even after your son was living with the father, your CS continued to be the same. Is this correct?

If so, Dad WAS paying CS to you for him during the entire time. If he now pays more, he is being asked to pay AGAIN. Based on what we read in your posts.

 

[AdoreUrPrincess]

Here is my two cents, and that's exactly what it's probably worth! You indicated that the ncp was to pay until your son was 18 OR graduated. He didn't graduate, but has satisfied the 18yrs of age portion. Soooo.... you've gone at least two years (maybe more) without this money. It may be frustrating but it is what it is. Forget the money. Right now you have a grandchild that you admit to having to care for. Focus all of the energy you're expending on sticking it to your ex on a more suitable venture: turning your son into a self sufficient adult who can care for his own child. Don't get so caught up in petty retribution that you can't see the bigger problem living under your own roof....