Adopted Daughter

[Payne333]

A woman had a stroke and was placed in a nursing home In Virginia. she has a daughter who she gave up to adoption as a baby. The woman’s family now consists of nieces. One has allowed the daughter who was adopted out to control her medical, etc in Nursing home - shutting other niece out of any decision to help. My question is Does the daughter who was adopted out at birth have any legal rights to control the woman’s medical health? She never visits and the niece who is allowing this are neglectful.

 

[quincy]

A woman had a stroke and was placed in a nursing home In Virginia. she has a daughter who she gave up to adoption as a baby. The woman’s family now consists of nieces. One has allowed the daughter who was adopted out to control her medical, etc in Nursing home - shutting other niece out of any decision to help. My question is Does the daughter who was adopted out at birth have any legal rights to control the woman’s medical health? She never visits and the niece who is allowing this are neglectful.

Possibly. You have not provided enough information to give you an answer other than that.

 

[LdiJ]

A woman had a stroke and was placed in a nursing home In Virginia. she has a daughter who she gave up to adoption as a baby. The woman’s family now consists of nieces. One has allowed the daughter who was adopted out to control her medical, etc in Nursing home - shutting other niece out of any decision to help. My question is Does the daughter who was adopted out at birth have any legal rights to control the woman’s medical health? She never visits and the niece who is allowing this are neglectful.

If the woman who had the stroke is not competent to manage her own care, then the person who would control that would be the person whom she gave Power of Attorney (POA) to before she became incompetent. If she did not give anyone a POA then her legal next of kin would be in control. The daughter who was adopted (if it was a true and legal adoption) is no longer legally related to the woman so she could not be her next of kin.

If there is no power of attorney and the relatives are not in agreement it could be taken to court and someone ask to be appointed as her guardian. The court would then appoint the person who seems to have the woman's best interests in mind.

 

[Just Blue]

A woman had a stroke and was placed in a nursing home In Virginia. she has a daughter who she gave up to adoption as a baby. The woman’s family now consists of nieces. One has allowed the daughter who was adopted out to control her medical, etc in Nursing home - shutting other niece out of any decision to help. My question is Does the daughter who was adopted out at birth have any legal rights to control the woman’s medical health? She never visits and the niece who is allowing this are neglectful.

Just a FYI as it is a pet peeve of mine:

The term is "placed for adoption"...not "adopted out" as that is an offensive way of putting it. The child is not a puppy ...and adopted out is what one does with a unwanted pet.

 

[quincy]

Payne333, who are you in relation to this family?

 

[Foamback]

Just a FYI as it is a pet peeve of mine:

The term is "placed for adoption"...not "adopted out" as that is an offensive way of putting it. The child is not a puppy ...and adopted out is what one does with a unwanted pet.

I’m adopted and it doesn’t bother me

 

[quincy]

I’m adopted and it doesn’t bother me

Some people are more sensitive than others. Blue is correct, though, that “adopted out” is a phrase best avoided. See “common phrases to avoid:”

https://info.adoptmatch.com/words-matter-adoption-terminology

 

[Foamback]

Some people are more sensitive than others. Blue is correct, though, that “adopted out” is a phrase best avoided. See “common phrases to avoid:”

https://info.adoptmatch.com/words-matter-adoption-terminology

Thanks for the heads up. I wouldn’t want to offend myself

 

[quincy]

Thanks for the heads up. I wouldn’t want to offend myself

You probably don’t want to risk offending others.

 

[Just Blue]

Thanks for the heads up. I wouldn’t want to offend myself

You do realize that you are not the only adopted child out there...right?

 

[Foamback]

Geez, I get it.

 

[quincy]

Geez, I get it.

That’s good to know.

Now hopefully Payne333 will return with some additional information so we can provide some additional information.

 

[Payne333]

A woman had a stroke and was placed in a nursing home In Virginia. she has a daughter who she gave up to adoption as a baby. The woman’s family now consists of nieces. One has allowed the daughter who was adopted out to control her medical, etc in Nursing home - shutting other niece out of any decision to help. My question is Does the daughter who was adopted out at birth have any legal rights to control the woman’s medical health? She never visits and the niece who is allowing this are neglectful.

The woman in nursing home has not relinquished her power. No one has POA. Her daughter only came into her life as an adult. She has and was always at arms length. Her adoptive parents even warned her birth mother about her daughter. Her rather harsh behavior. Later on found out she is bipolar. Takes meds but still a harsh person. She befriended one of the nieces who never had a relationship with the woman in nursing home. So now the daughter in lives in a state far away. But tell the niece she’s in control. This niece is an harsh person as well. She blocks the rest family from medical information, etc. The rest of family don’t know what or how to be included in her care.

 

[LdiJ]

The woman in nursing home has not relinquished her power. No one has POA. Her daughter only came into her life as an adult. She has and was always at arms length. Her adoptive parents even warned her birth mother about her daughter. Her rather harsh behavior. Later on found out she is bipolar. Takes meds but still a harsh person. She befriended one of the nieces who never had a relationship with the woman in nursing home. So now the daughter in lives in a state far away. But tell the niece she’s in control. This niece is an harsh person as well. She blocks the rest family from medical information, etc. The rest of family don’t know what or how to be included in her care.

Somebody in the family needs to file to become the woman's guardian. Someone should also probably tell the niece that the bio daughter is not legally the daughter of the woman and cannot legally make any decisions. The niece could end up in a lot of legal trouble if she is facilitating the bio daughter making decisions. It also wouldn't hurt to let the nursing home know as well.

 

[quincy]

The woman in nursing home has not relinquished her power. No one has POA. Her daughter only came into her life as an adult. She has and was always at arms length. Her adoptive parents even warned her birth mother about her daughter. Her rather harsh behavior. Later on found out she is bipolar. Takes meds but still a harsh person. She befriended one of the nieces who never had a relationship with the woman in nursing home. So now the daughter in lives in a state far away. But tell the niece she’s in control. This niece is an harsh person as well. She blocks the rest family from medical information, etc. The rest of family don’t know what or how to be included in her care.

Who are you in relation to this family?