This might be very confusing and sound really stupid to a lot of people but here goes:
* My EX and I were married in April 2003.
* She has 3 children.
* Shortly before we got married the father of the children signed over rights of the children to me. I legally adopted them.
* When we got married I was a consultant for a major firm. I made around 875,000 a year.
* In June 2003 I was on a business trip for my firm. The driver fell asleep at the wheel and crashed. I received extensive brain damage, hearing in 1 ear and my left leg from the thigh down, with extensive nerve damage all over my body. I have involuntary spasms in my arms and leg to this day.
* 3 Weeks after I got released from the hospital my (then) wife approached me with a lawyer standing next to her. She said that she could not be with me anymore because of my new condition.
* I agreed to the divorce and did not fight it in any way. I agreed to the child support only to ensure that the children would be taken care of. I bought her a moderate (450,000) 4 bedroom house and furnished it but I refused to pay alimony or any part of the estate. I told her that it was her own selfishness that was causing the divorce. I think that she decided to not fight it because she knew what kind of money I had and what kind of lawyers I could get with my money. I send her 4000 a month in CS (the kids go to a private school). I know that I do not have to send that much but the children became accustomed to this type of lifestyle and I don't see why they can't stay in it as long as I can afford it.
* 3 weeks ago she ran off to Vegas and got married again.
* The man that she married is the father of her children!
* I called the dad and asked him when he was going to meet (I just assumed he would) with me and my lawyer to have me sign over the parental rights to him. He said that he had no intention of doing this and told me that they are my legal responsibility.
* I can definitely afford to still pay the child support so that is not really my problem.
* My questions are these: Does it seem to anybody else like I am getting scammed here? Does it seem right that dad can do this? Do you think that it would be right for me to fight for custody?
I can afford and do have a lawyer, I am not asking for legal advice, I am asking for your opinions on this matter. What do you think I should do? I have not yet consulted with my lawyer about this for I am not yet sure if I am going to take any action. This is not about me wasting my money or anything like that. Between the settlement from the accident and my savings (I kept everything from the marriage) I have more than enough in savings to not have to worry about money for the rest of my lifetime. My main concern is making sure that the children are well taken care of. I might be interested in appointing a guardian in the event of my death that will ensure that the children are taken care of but I am very torn on the matter. The children come and visit every other weekend (this is all I really wanted because of my condition).
* My EX and I were married in April 2003.
* She has 3 children.
* Shortly before we got married the father of the children signed over rights of the children to me. I legally adopted them.
* When we got married I was a consultant for a major firm. I made around 875,000 a year.
* In June 2003 I was on a business trip for my firm. The driver fell asleep at the wheel and crashed. I received extensive brain damage, hearing in 1 ear and my left leg from the thigh down, with extensive nerve damage all over my body. I have involuntary spasms in my arms and leg to this day.
* 3 Weeks after I got released from the hospital my (then) wife approached me with a lawyer standing next to her. She said that she could not be with me anymore because of my new condition.
* I agreed to the divorce and did not fight it in any way. I agreed to the child support only to ensure that the children would be taken care of. I bought her a moderate (450,000) 4 bedroom house and furnished it but I refused to pay alimony or any part of the estate. I told her that it was her own selfishness that was causing the divorce. I think that she decided to not fight it because she knew what kind of money I had and what kind of lawyers I could get with my money. I send her 4000 a month in CS (the kids go to a private school). I know that I do not have to send that much but the children became accustomed to this type of lifestyle and I don't see why they can't stay in it as long as I can afford it.
* 3 weeks ago she ran off to Vegas and got married again.
* The man that she married is the father of her children!
* I called the dad and asked him when he was going to meet (I just assumed he would) with me and my lawyer to have me sign over the parental rights to him. He said that he had no intention of doing this and told me that they are my legal responsibility.
* I can definitely afford to still pay the child support so that is not really my problem.
* My questions are these: Does it seem to anybody else like I am getting scammed here? Does it seem right that dad can do this? Do you think that it would be right for me to fight for custody?
I can afford and do have a lawyer, I am not asking for legal advice, I am asking for your opinions on this matter. What do you think I should do? I have not yet consulted with my lawyer about this for I am not yet sure if I am going to take any action. This is not about me wasting my money or anything like that. Between the settlement from the accident and my savings (I kept everything from the marriage) I have more than enough in savings to not have to worry about money for the rest of my lifetime. My main concern is making sure that the children are well taken care of. I might be interested in appointing a guardian in the event of my death that will ensure that the children are taken care of but I am very torn on the matter. The children come and visit every other weekend (this is all I really wanted because of my condition).