Yep, I saw your reply the first time and...
one from the mysterious "Fireheart 35" on the original thread.
So, no, you aint going crazy.
Okay, I'll say one more thing about this whole thread-
we have the court order, we were in court....
anything else is just speculation or heresay through a phone call on her part....
sure has been a real learning experience, these past 14 months-and really, I may be posting about a personal situation and the other person involved posts here, as well, but from all the replies I have gotten (both on here and email), I think our situation may have helped others, no?
I learned so much going through this with my husband-so, why not share that info? We were expecting the worse, and hoped for the best....and I do actually agree with cookie on some points-raising kids aint cheap and especially teenagers-we spent a small fortune when we just had them for a month last summer and I could not imagine how we would do it if we had them all the time...I guess as a mother, you do what ya gotta do....I do not fault her for that. I just feel that all the energy she has put into creating so many difficult situtations could have been better used for more constructive things. And I will also say this, inspite of everything, the kids appear to be happy. I took the kids to my work last year for a barbeque-and my boss said the kids were very well behaved (they were great!), so someone must be doing something right. I agree. I believe their stepdad is a huge favorable influence....
I feel that the choices one makes in life, well, you are responsible for them, as an adult, and no one else. I keep seeing my husband portrayed as being such a "bad guy" and I just don't see it...the past is over with and needs to be let go...by the both of these parents (my husband and her). The both of them need to deal with the present and should be thinking about the kids futures-my husband is trying....
so, I am off this subject for good (unless I see further comments about me, personally)
Peace
one from the mysterious "Fireheart 35" on the original thread.
So, no, you aint going crazy.
Okay, I'll say one more thing about this whole thread-
we have the court order, we were in court....
anything else is just speculation or heresay through a phone call on her part....
sure has been a real learning experience, these past 14 months-and really, I may be posting about a personal situation and the other person involved posts here, as well, but from all the replies I have gotten (both on here and email), I think our situation may have helped others, no?
I learned so much going through this with my husband-so, why not share that info? We were expecting the worse, and hoped for the best....and I do actually agree with cookie on some points-raising kids aint cheap and especially teenagers-we spent a small fortune when we just had them for a month last summer and I could not imagine how we would do it if we had them all the time...I guess as a mother, you do what ya gotta do....I do not fault her for that. I just feel that all the energy she has put into creating so many difficult situtations could have been better used for more constructive things. And I will also say this, inspite of everything, the kids appear to be happy. I took the kids to my work last year for a barbeque-and my boss said the kids were very well behaved (they were great!), so someone must be doing something right. I agree. I believe their stepdad is a huge favorable influence....
I feel that the choices one makes in life, well, you are responsible for them, as an adult, and no one else. I keep seeing my husband portrayed as being such a "bad guy" and I just don't see it...the past is over with and needs to be let go...by the both of these parents (my husband and her). The both of them need to deal with the present and should be thinking about the kids futures-my husband is trying....
so, I am off this subject for good (unless I see further comments about me, personally)
Peace